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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    Pretend like what family says, anybody thinks, budget not an object - what is the perfect number of people to attend a wedding?

    Is it 100- 125, 150- 200 or 250??????? I'm really extremely confused.

    The reason I am confused is because when fiance and I first began planning, we both wanted something intimate, like 100 people. Now it seems like 150 would be more fun. Than I heard that once you have 150, it really doesn't matter if you have 200 or more.

    What do you think?

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    I think it comes down to who you want to be there.  There's no 'magic' number that is best.

     
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    Samisomsam    March 13, 2010   Longview, WA

    The "magic" number is differnt for everyone. My number is 250 and FI's number is about 50 so we're going with 250-300. :)

     
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    Well I think you'd notice the difference between 150 and 400.  I'm not sure what the person was saying with that comment.  I think most people are going  to tell you there is no perfect number.  Some people like huge parties.  Some people like very small gatherings.  It just depends on personalities etc.  Also, sometimes what we think we want, is just not meant to be.  Whether lack of funds cause you to limit your guest list, or you'd like an intimate wedding but have a large family, or vice versa, sometimes you have to go with the flow.

     
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    I agree with the others... there's really no number - I will say that you should know everyone at your wedding, so if you have 300 close friends and family, go for it....but don't invite people just to have a "big wedding" or because you think it might be funner with more people. For us, more people = more stress, so our perfect number is around 50. But the great thing about being the bride is groom is its up to you :) 

     
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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    It totally depends on your personalities, how big of a family you have, and how intimate you want it to be.  We are inviting 215 but expecting around 175-185.  Perfect for us.

     
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    FlipFlopBride       Virginia

    I think my fiance would rather have a number close to 3. Just us and an officiant. I could easily come up with a number well over 100.

    But when it comes down to it, I think even if my budget wasn't a major factor, I'd still be having a very small number. We'll probably invite about 70. I agree that it has to do with personalities, and also I'd rather do without all the stress of a large wedding.

     
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    djmaddiebluedog    06/06/09   Connecticut

    totally up to you!  our 'magic number' is 100, and we are inviting 136 (including kids).  we are thinking 80-100 will show up.

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    SaraBMarried    July 2nd 2009   Boston(Stoughton)MA

    Well i def think it depends on the couple. . .  For me there really isnt a specific number. . it would just be lots of people we know and love with alot of dancing and fun. . not too formal

     
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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    I don't think there is a magic number. If someone I want to be there can't make it, filling the spot doesn't help me have a better time.

     
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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    It's so hard to decide. My family in general is small, and we are not close with extended family, but my fiances family is huge, and they are all close with the extended family.

    If we invite 100 -125 people than it will be just his family and my family. To include our friends and his business people it would be around 200.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I have heard from people who have had 300+ person weddings that while they were fun and stuff, they didn't really get to spend time with all their guests. Typically, they've all told me they wish they could have scaled back to about half. I have a coworker who had 500 and he said it was crazy. But those who have had receptions of about 150 people seem to be the most satisfied with their weddings it seems. Or those small, cute beach weddings with only 20. Because then only their closest family/friends are there. At least amongst my group of friends, it seems 150ish is the magic number. I was told that if I have more than 150, expect to either a) not see them or b) spend all night greeting your guests and not having your own fun. Since my FI and I are paying for it ourselves, I don't feel obligated to meet everyone in the family. I expect to have a few drinks (my FI can't believe i'm going to drink at my own wedding...uhhh???) and bust a move

    But hoenstly, whatever works for you! My FI and I were hoping for 155 (the required # of plates our reception makes us pay for) but I think we'll end up around 170. I prefer a more intimate party where I can meet my FI's family and I can have all my close friends there. 

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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    I think our 'magic number' is 175 but we are probably inviting 225.

     
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    CaitlinRivera    August 14, 2010   Seville, Spain

    It depends on each person and their situation. If money's an issure then obviously you'd want to keep numbers down and have something small (under 100). If money isn't an issue, then invite everyone who you want there and whatever number that equals to then so be it. Where I live (Spain) wedding are usually 250-300 guest. 

     

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