Post # 1
Ok so this is going to sound very mean but it’s true.
Some of my family members where this VERY strong and stinky perfume, and they sweat. Whenever I hug them, the perfumy sweat gets on my skin and hair, and stays on me for hours. It’s so bad, that if my fiance and I spend time with them we immediately come home and shower (or if it’s just me, he knows immediately when I get home who I’ve been spending time with).
Problem: Wedding..they are all coming. We’re taking family pics beforehand and I KNOW I will hug them all before the ceremony, meaning, I am going to stink throughout the rest of the night- smelling it on me, and knowing my fiance can smell it, he’ll smell too, etc. It’s just so strong and stinky… I don’t know what to do- asking them to not wear perfume is just going to create drama, and washing my hair/face won’t be an option.
WHAT TO DO?!
Post # 3
You could tell them you have developed an allergy to strong scent and ask they refrain from wearing it in your company??
Sheesh, I don’t know. Other than lying, or being super blunt, I don’t think there is much you can do…
Post # 4
There’s nothing that you can do but suck it up and deal with it. Confronting your family about this will only offend them.
Post # 5
Posted this before but it didn’t show up. I would plan to have some baby powder on hand, that usually absorbs odors and sweat, I would rather smell that then everyone’s sweat and perfume.
Post # 6
Haha is it Patchouli? My mom used to wear that and it did the same thing. It would smell up the whole room too.
Maybe wear a cardigan/something for hugs before hand and remove it, Or ask people to wear minimal scents as so and so has a allergy.
Post # 7
I’m not sure, but maybe you could do what many workplaces are doing nowadays and asking for a scent free environment? Maybe a small disclaimer in the invites or response cards or something? “Due to severe scent allergies of several bridal party members, we ask that you please respect our wishes for a scent-free environment”?
Post # 9
Right when they go to hug you…”I love your perfume, but I think it gives me a rash. I broke out pretty bad last time.”
I actually do get a rash from my everyday perfume. I have to spray it on my clothes instead of any skin. So, your story could be true!!
Post # 10
I’m allergic to most scents as well, especially when people wear way too much….I actually get a migraine then throw up if I’m around it…..I would tell them that you are allergic to it…..
Post # 11
This prob doesn’t help (unless you are asthmatic) but I am asthmatic and when I have been sick especially I have bad reactions to strong smells… I actually have attacks with spray on deodorants (certain brands) but perfumes (again certain ones) can occasionally effect me too…
As a PP has said maybe ask for a scent free wedding due to a friend/family members allergy/asthma.
Or baby powder may help too, least mask the scent a little but yes I would be bugged too I have brought a nice perfume for me and I wouldn’t want it over ridden by strong stinky perfume…
Post # 12
@Selcier: I think if you’re going to say something, you should definitely say it BEFORE they go in for a hug… Imagine how sad you would be to find out you couldn’t hug the bride b/c she suddenly became allergic to perfume and you didn’t find out til just now!
Post # 13
I think there is a big difference between not liking the smell of something and being allergic to something. I think lying to your guests is an awful thing to do. If you do go down the lines of lying to your guests about an allergy then to make it plausable you will need to rule out anything with fragrance as deoderants, hairproducts, soaps etc all have fragranace in them nowadays. This includes yourself and BP members because I am pretty sure your guests will get a whiff of your perfume when they go in for a hug. And if you do that I think you will have bigger worries than perfume smells! Better hope for cold weather.
Post # 14
i don’t think you should just have to deal with it. just politely tell them that have developed a sensitivity to perfumes, preferably before the wedding. good luck 🙂
Post # 15
There is nothing wrong with asking for a scent-free wedding. Tell them personally that you are developing an allergy to certain scents (i.e. theirs), and that you would even try to get past it for their sakes but you have other people coming who simply can’t be around it.
Even if they ignore your request and wear some perfume, they’ll likely dab it on a little more lightly.
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Would the body wipes you use for camping help/could you “wipe” it off your skin? Depending on your hair/veil, dry shampoo spray might help with the odor.