Perhaps I am mistaken. Something that I have been wondering

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
2783 posts
Sugar bee

@EncoreBridetoBe:  when I think of an elopment I think of a really small wedding, like just the two of you or a few friends and family members. I’ve never thought of it to be a secret affair that you had to run off for.

Post # 4
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You’re absolutely right, but I suppose times are slowly changing where people are changing “Spur of the moment” to “calculated spur of the moment” where they do go out and get a dress and so on and so forth.

I think a lot of people mislabel “Justice of the peace weddings” as “elopements”

Post # 5
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012



  1. Run away secretly in order to get married, esp. without parental consent.
  2. Run away with a lover.”

Post # 6
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think the definition is slowly changing, as we didn’t have another word for “super small, maybe even no guests, wedding, in your hometown or far away”. Destination implies you went somewhere and had guests to me.  Also, while they are planned and discussed on here, I think most of these elopements are still secretive. The Bees and my FI are the only ones who know about our elopement thoughts 🙂


Post # 7
43 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

None of our friends or family know about our plans. It will just be the two of us plus someone to take pictures and an officiant (both strangers/paid to be there) so it’s “secret”. Our state doesn’t require witnesses. And we aren’t going “away”. We already live “away”. I would say we’re “eloping”.

I have a question: Why does it matter? If the official definition involves “parental consent”, I’d say times are changing! 

If the couple is happy, who cares what it’s called?

Post # 8
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

for the record, i am going to hawaii to marry my FI.  just us, no friend or family.


we like to say “planned elopmeent” because it makes it clear its not a destination wedding (we arent having guests) but qwe are going away to get married.

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