Post # 1
Feel free to correct me. Perhaps I am mistaken or perhaps what is considered an elopement NOW has changed.
elopement is often used to refer to a marriage conducted in sudden and secretive fashion, usually involving hurried flight away from one’s place of residence together with one’s beloved with the intention of getting married.
That is what I thought, spur of the moment, no planning, no gown and very possibly no ring. Take off he throws on his best suit, you throw on your fave dress and get married. No one knows, no forewarning, at best you quickly buy wedding bands on the way. There would be nothing to discuss b/c you would not be “eloping on November 10th” because that is planned not sudden and spur of the moment.
So I am curious when did things change? If someone said “we eloped” then showed me pictures of them in Cuba with a wedding gown and bouquet, the first thing that would pop in my head would be ‘that’s not an elopement. It’s a private destination wedding. It was planned”
Post # 3
@EncoreBridetoBe: when I think of an elopment I think of a really small wedding, like just the two of you or a few friends and family members. I’ve never thought of it to be a secret affair that you had to run off for.
Post # 4
You’re absolutely right, but I suppose times are slowly changing where people are changing “Spur of the moment” to “calculated spur of the moment” where they do go out and get a dress and so on and so forth.
I think a lot of people mislabel “Justice of the peace weddings” as “elopements”
Post # 6
I think the definition is slowly changing, as we didn’t have another word for “super small, maybe even no guests, wedding, in your hometown or far away”. Destination implies you went somewhere and had guests to me. Also, while they are planned and discussed on here, I think most of these elopements are still secretive. The Bees and my FI are the only ones who know about our elopement thoughts 🙂
Post # 7
None of our friends or family know about our plans. It will just be the two of us plus someone to take pictures and an officiant (both strangers/paid to be there) so it’s “secret”. Our state doesn’t require witnesses. And we aren’t going “away”. We already live “away”. I would say we’re “eloping”.
I have a question: Why does it matter? If the official definition involves “parental consent”, I’d say times are changing!
If the couple is happy, who cares what it’s called?
Post # 8
for the record, i am going to hawaii to marry my FI. just us, no friend or family.
we like to say “planned elopmeent” because it makes it clear its not a destination wedding (we arent having guests) but qwe are going away to get married.