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Anyone doing this (or have done it)? It skeeves me out so bad to basically stretch out my own vagina....but tearing sounds bad too! :)
@heathaah: I've been reading about it a little in some of my books, and while it seems like a great way to include my husband, it totally freaks me out. Fingers, and stretching and vegtable oil..eeek! Hopefully someone let's us know if it worked for them.
I have been considering it. I haven't had the courage to try it yet though. I've read a ton about it and the benefits.
I cant even imagine asking my husband to help me with something like that - "hey honey, can you come stretch me out please?", it would never work for me :)
I thought about trying it myself, but it became clear to me I was going to have a c-section so I never did it in the end.
@heathaah: ha, yes, but you guys have already been put through the ringer by the fertility gods!
and i also am weird like that - had I had a vaginal birth I really did not want my husband to watch it, which I know is not the norm!
Hahaha... I thought about using Google to find out what this was, but was afraid of what exactly the results would be. But, from the responses of PP, I think I have a good idea!
I think if I seriously asked DH to do this, he would. But I/we would find it so akward/uncomforatble/embarassing that I don't think we would be able to go through with it.
Hopefully this is something I will have to decide one day...
But I think I would want to try with my DH, but I have a feeling it would end with us laughing uncontrolably 
@mmsva: Haha, yea. i think I might "break the ice" by placing the PAM on the nightstand and lighting some candles. Wait, is that stuff flammable???
@heathaah: Ha Ha! Awesome. And honestly, I don't know how you would do it by yourself. It seems awfully complicated.
@bree72: I think the women who have done it themselves are either former gymnasts or descendants of Gumby. I tried. I failed.
DH has been looking forward to this. I'm going to ask my midwife at my appt. on Monday when we should start doing this. I mean, do I just use the same olive oil I cook with? Ewww.
@mrsjazz: I would think you use the same stuff? Unless they make special vaginal olive oil? Just don't use the same basting brush! :)
@mrsjazz: "extra not-such-a-virgin olive oil" Hehhee.
I'm not into this step of life, but I'm thinking I'll start practicing my yoga...if I hope to do this, I hope to do it alone. :-)
@KatyElle: Especially not "extra virgin olive oil"!!!!
Yep.... I am the one with the lame jokes tonight!
Oh they make almond oil ones...just make sure you don't have any nut allergies!!
My midwife said just to use our regular olive oil. The whole thing seems so awkward and silly, but honestly, I'd like to do everything I can not to tear.
My DH said to the midwife when she was explaining this, "I'll just bring some bread in the bedroom too to sop up what's not needed" I wanted to die of embarassment, but she laughed.
You know what is hilarious? All the instructions online say to "use a mirror" to make it easier. Um, DUH! Is there anyone at this stage of pregnancy that can actually still see down there on their own?????
@Miss Smurf: @heathaah: I was too afraid to Google any images since I'm at work. Too funny.
@mwitter80: Sounds like something my husband would say, too!
@heathaah: I am only 25 weeks, and I can still "see myself" down there.
Honestly, I don't think I could ask DH to do this for me. I just feel like it would be awkward...
Anyone know why oil needs to be used and not just lube?
@MissDareDevil: I think you can use lube, like KY, too.
I'm willing to go through the awkwardness if it does, indeed, help prevent me from tearing. Also, I could still see my goods at 25 weeks, but at almost 30 I can't!
@MissDareDevil: I think because oil can be absorbed into the body to help with stretching. Lube just "greases" it up. LOL.
when are you supposed to start this food massage?
@mwitter80: hahah your hubby is too funny!
Oh my goodness, I'm not sure how I found myself here. I'm not even TTC yet. But now I'm curious lol. A lot of people said they would feel awkward having their husbands do that. Is it just him putting some oil in your vagina and putting his fingers in/stretching it a bit? Or is there more to it? Lol, I hope I'm not labeling myself as the skeevy board member, but don't your husbands ever put their fingers in there anyway? As a part of sex? 
HA HA HA HA HA HA HA ..... I opened this having no clue what it was about and now I am almost in tears at my desk. Definitley got some funny images going through my mind...
I don't think I could get my SO to do that for me. I think I will just stick to yoga...
@swanks4tw: yeah, but know imagine it's not something sexual and they are stretching your lips and perinum out. Awkward!
@swanks4tw: Haha. Yes, but I can see how it can be awkward for some since everything I've read says it's doesn't exactly feel pleasurable since he's trying to um, stretch that area and you're supposed to feel a burning/tingling sensation.
@panterapeach: I've read 34 weeks, but I'm hoping for extra credit and want to start earlier.
Lol, I have a feeling DH would be more excited to do that than to give me a footrub, but I guess we shall see when the time comes :P
ETA: Oh, I didn't realize it was supposed to tingle/burn/not feel pleasureable. Lol oh I can't wait for the joys of pregnancy ;)
I've actually had the stretching done before- I went to a physical therapist who specialized in the pelvic floor (I had vaginismus). If anyone is really serious about it, you can do it yourself using plastic or silicone dilators. This is what I used for my "homework"- you can get them at a lot of online adult toy stores. I haven't tried doing it since I've been pregnant but it would be a lot easier than trying to use your fingers since they usually have some type of handle. I've always used a water based lube (not KY because that stuff kind of sucks) but I've heard coconut oil is also supposed to be good.
@MissDareDevil: You can see down there now, but at 35 weeks when it is time for the massage, you may not be able to! :)
OMG I am almost dying at my desk (male co worker thinks I'm retarted lol).
You ladies are hilarious. I had also never heard of it before, but knew the region...so was expecting something rather intersting lol
Thanks for the giggle, though I am sorry so many of you are at the point where this may be necessary. One more reason I don't know if I want to have babies ;)
Oh. my. god. Ladies, I'm hugely pregnant and apt to pee myself from laughing to much. YOU CAN'T POST STUFF LIKE THIS! rofl.
@Janna19: Neither DH or I want him to watch the birth. lol. He's going to stay safely by my head.
Yes, I'm logging in just to post this. I ran across this on Mrs. Avocado's personal blog when she was pregnant and my husband ordered it for me. I used it a few times but not vigilantly. I may try to do better this time around.
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