Period came early?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
2115 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

There is no way you could be pregnant.  Unless you are on the pill, periods fluctuate and can come many days early or late.  It’s super common.  It’s only when your period doesn’t come that you would need to start worrying. 

You may want to look into some sex ed. to better understand what is happening and know how best to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy.  Universities usually always have some sort of women’s center, or sex safety program or department that you could visit that will give you the info you need and usually provide you with some condoms in case the need arises.  

Post # 3
3497 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014


adnama:  THIS. There’s no way you’re pregnant. Sex education has failed you, please see a doctor or other heathcare professional for accurate information regarding sex.

Post # 4
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Oh my goodness, either you didn’t listen in school, or your teacher didn’t teach you anything. Aside from medical intervention treatments such as IVF, you can only get pregnant if a guy cums inside you during intercourse. Fingering, heavy petting, oral, etc does not and cannot ever make you pregnant. I’d pick up a sex ed book from the library, you NEED to know this stuff. Oh and please, when you do get around to actually having intercourse, use protection. Pick up a book and read about it.

Period wise, I don’t think there’s any correlation between the amount of sexual activity you engage in, and the length of your cycles. The most probable reason as you mentioned is stress due to lack of sleep, university workload and friend drama.

Also I’m not really sure why you decided to post about this on a wedding website, as your first post…

Post # 5
980 posts
Busy bee

This probably isn’t the best forum for this kind of question but I would say that it’s early because you’re stressed out not because you’re pregnant. Also your period can still be a bit all over the place while youre in your teens/early 20s so don’t stress every time it’s out by a few days. 

Relax, youre not pregnant. 

Post # 6
1829 posts
Buzzing bee

I second everything both PPs stated. 

This is simply a case of your period coming early. It could be due to stress, lack of sleep or just because your cycle isn’t perfectly timed. 

First of all, please stop worrying that you are pregnant. Second, please go see a doctor, health care professional, nurse or womens health office to educate yourself on your body. 

Post # 8
2169 posts
Buzzing bee

oceanside444:  It’s not just sex ed that failed you, I think any basic biology class seems to have failed you by not covering the reproductive system and the menstrual cycle.

Here is an educational video about the menstrual cycle and the hormones that control it:

The short answer to your question: there’s almost no risk of fingering or a hand job causing pregnancy.

The longer answer: first watch the above biology video. If you have already done so, you should reaize that the female body prepares for pregnancy montly by building up the endometrial lining. This is done so that a fertilized egg has somewhere to implant in the uterus. In simple terms, the monthly shedding of the endometrial lining (when you get your period), means that an egg was not fertilized, will not be implanting, and therefore the cycle starts all over again.

Logically speaking, it makes no sense to freak out over an early period early because this likely means your mature egg was released a little earlier that month and since it was not fertilized, the endometrial lining has started shedding earlier than it normally would. This is because, if you watched the video you’ll see that an egg must be released and then a corpus luteum is present. In real life, the corpus luteum secretes progesterone for typically a week and a half, and if the egg doesn’t implant in that time period the endometrial lining is shed and the menstrual cycle starts. Therefore, this means the egg was not fertilized in that time period and did not implant.

This is also why, if a woman is pregnant, she will not get her period. In that case, the egg was fertilized and did implant, and a different hormone is sent from the developing embryo to the corpus luteum to tell it to keep secreting progesterone so that the menstrual cycle does not start and the embryo can survive until the placenta starts producing progesterone a couple of months into pregnancy.

Furthermore, your stress levels directly impact certain hormones in your body, namely cortisol which is the primary stress hormone, and may or may not in turn impact your menstrual cycle hormones which of course would lead consequences such as your period being early or late. There’s also normal variation to account for on a montly basis–even the most regular of people have variation in their cycles depending on the month. If you want to read more about how stress can affect the menstrual cycle, I suggest you look that up. It’s a real thing.

Lastly, the thing that you read about that likely freaked you out is about implantation bleeding/spotting, which can be an early sign of pregnancy. However, in the situation you have described there’s no way you’re pregnant and therefore you shouldn’t worry about that. Mid-cycle spotting can be caused by a variety of different reasons and should not necessarily give you reason to worry:

If, at the end of the day, you’re still stressed, I suggest you get evaluated at your campus health center or your gynecologist’s office. And if you haven’t been to a gynecologist yet, you really should go, even if you haven’t had sex, so that they can do the typical round of evaluations and you can get normal preventative care. You should take care of yourself.

Lastly, you need to get some good sex education at some point. I would recommend this book:

Post # 9
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Can’t tell if troll or if serious…

Post # 10
518 posts
Busy bee

Unless your name is Mary and you’ve been sleeping in a barn recently, you should probably spend more time reading up on your body and educating yourself on reproduction than posting on a wedding site. Go take a pregnancy test if you’re that worried and it will set your mind at ease  

Post # 11
920 posts
Busy bee


oceanside444:  my goodness you have got to be kidding me.

you get pregnant when sperm fertilizes egg – PERIOD. most commonly this occurs via a penis inside a vagina (although there are those who have fertlity issues etc. and have an egg implanted etc but thats not relevant for you at this time)

there is no sperm fertilizing your egg from someone’s hand being in your vagina. you definitely ned to go educate yourself.

im 21 so close to your age, under no circumstance should you be this ill informed. if u are paranoid take a test, but you are wasting money. ive gone 3 months without a period before (not a regular thing for me or common for majority of women) because of stress. stress throughs everything off. your period coming early is the complete opposite sign of an impending pregnancy (your period would be late/ not come at all in most cases)

Post # 12
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

oceanside444:  People are saying it in a way that’s more than a little rude, but I do recommend enrolling in a sex education course or scheduling an appointment with a gynecologist/OBGYN for a chat about what you need to know. Or get a book. 

That said, you just pulled an all nighter. This means your hormones are out of whack and that is most likely why your period came early. Taking better care of yourself – sleep cycle, alcohol intake, etc – will help regularize your period because it helps regulate your hormone cycles.

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