- 5 years ago
My best friend of a few years is getting married this summer. I expected, foolishly I guess, to be asked to be maid of honor or at least a bridesmaid. Well, she started crying all emotional in a happy way asking me to be her personal attendant. I’m confused because I thought this was something you ask the person you don’t have a job for. Well, anyway, aside from this she asked me to help her plan all aspects of her wedding also. Her and I are going to look at dresses for both herself and her bridal party alone, before she goes with anyone else. She wants to have the bridal party’s dresses picked out so that no one gets to fight over different dresses, etc. I mean, literally every step of this wedding she wants me to help her plan in detail. I feel really weirded out by this all. I don’t even know most of her bridal party, they are family or people she grew up with in high school. Now, when I am meeting them they are somewhat rude to me even. I don’t know how to handle this or take it in.
They are going to be planning her showers and bachelorette party and I really don’t know if they’ll even invite me. I feel really, really left out because I don’t know any of them, and I’m not even a part of the wedding party. I’m the girl that is getting stuck being the slave the day of the wedding and even through out the planning process. Not that I’m all about recognition, but I’m really feeling walked on already. It really hurt being asked to be a PA and I faked a big smile and a hug when she asked. Through out this planning it’s hard for me to be excited for the bridal party and wedding knowing that I’m the person that’s lurking in the shadows catering to the bridesmaids, maid of honor, and the brides wishes and needs. I mean, there are 6 women in her bridal party and her as well. That’s a lot of hormonal, emotional women that are going to be using me as their slave for an entire day.
Aside from the weird feeling I have, I’m worried that I’m making things worse between the bridal party and myself because she’s asked that I be so involved. I guess I just need some sort of advice on how to deal with all this and how to be happy with the role I’m playing in her wedding. Also, is this supposed to be some enormous honor to be a PA? She called me first when he proposed to her. And she REALLY cried happy tears when she asked me like I was supposed to be just honored by the position. I feel just extremely overwhelmed by all this and even though I’m a very forward, organized, go-get-em type of confident person, I feel like this is asking a lot of me. My biggest fear is our friendship becoming strained over this.