(Closed) Personal attendant. Do I have to?!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

NO, you do not need to have one – honestly, I commend you for going against your mom and not wanting one! As if your adult guests won’t be able to figure out how to sign a guestbook without instructions, or your adult self along with your BMs won’t be able to get you ready without a personal assistant running around doing…honestly, I’m not even sure what/ I can’t imagine why it would be necessary, or how you can politely ask a friend, “Hey, so we’re not close enough I want you as a BM, but will you follow me around doing me favors all day? Or stand by the guestbook instead of partying so you can tell other adults how to write down their name?”

Not trying to offend anyone whose having either of these things, I know in some regions it’s typical and expected, but I’ve never seen either used and they just strike me as being odd.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not having a personal attendant. I have 4 BM and I think that will be enough to keep me on track and help me with things. I do have a DOC though so I’m sure that will help with the scheduling and other related things. I will also not have anyone watching my guest book. Maybe a nice sign to explain what to do for your guest book? We’re using a thumbprint tree and will have a sign to “leaf your thumbprint”. I’m sure everyone will figure it out!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I thought the MOH was the “personal attendant.” You don’t need a stranger helping you get ready.

My venue comes with a day-of coordinator, so I assume she’ll help people if they can’t figure out how to sign a guestbook (but I doubt that will be needed).

You don’t need anyone else. It might even just give more stress to have extra people hovering around.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had never heard of “personal attendants” before the Bee. I think you’ll be fine without one, especially if you make yourself a good day-of schedule and your bridesmaids aren’t total drama queens who won’t lift a finger on the day. Unless your mom and fiance have someone in mind who REALLY REALLY wants the job, I think it’s fine for you to say you’ve got things under control.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Like PPs, I always thought your BMs were your personal attendants. A lot of the time PA is the cr*p job you give the person who doesn’t make the cut as a BM, and compared to BM it’s more work and less honour. Don’t do it. (Unless you’re in a culture which always has PAs and it’s an honour).

Just have the guest book near the front door where people can see it and ushers can mention it. Or be like me and skip having a guest book althogether. I know who was there, from my memory, from the photos and from the video.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What on earth is a personal attendant?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

One thing to think about in terms of having someone is going to the bathroom while in your dress. If it’s difficult to lift up you need someone in there with you!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh that’s ridiculous. I don’t even think they’re bridesmaids tasks! I had someone who did all that – the DOC that I PAID and she was worth every penny!

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