Post # 1
In about three weeks I’m marrying the love of my live, finally!
We are having a personal ceremony, and it will not be legal, we will need to go to the courthouse about a week after the wedding to make it acually legal. We both have two people witness for us, in Holland you can’t just have somebody at the courthouse witness for you. Normally, if we would get married at cityhall, like normal people do, our witnesses would have to sign something, saying they support our marriage and bla bla bla…how do we go about this with our ceremony? Should I try to find something on the internet, like a fake wedding licence so we can sign something, or should we do like a sand ceremony or something, just to tie the whole thing together? I’m kinda lost for ideas here, and I really need some help!
Any ideas are more then welcome…so please bees..what would you do in this situation?
Post # 3
@Dutchbee: Many people in the US do the signing of legal paperwork on a different day from their wedding. (We did!) So it’s not usually a part of the wedding ceremony in front of family and friends. In fact, I have never seen a couple sign the paperwork at their wedding. If it’s done on the same day, it’s done more privately. So our non-legal ceremony was like this:
-Officiant Welcomes Guests
-Officiant share words about the couple
-Reading by a friend
-Vows (personally written)
-Kiss –> The End!
We didn’t really feel the need to do any other kind of ritual to symbolize our unity. The vows and rings made it pretty clear that we’re married!
Post # 4
@Dutchbee: There are custom wedding certificates that are available on the Internet. Ohsobeautifulpaper.com has wedding certificates and offer lots of designs. Weddingdepot.com has them as well.
These certificates are beautiful, meaningful, and are great for framing.
Post # 5
I’m coming at this from a position of total ignorance, but…
Firstly, is there any particular reason you don’t want to have the legal ceremony on the same day?
Secondly, is there any particular reason you don’t want to do the legal bit before rather than afterwards?
I ask because determining the reasons you want to do this and have a separate legal bit will help to shape your ceremony, I hope.
In summary… what is so important to you about marrying on this date, and having a ceremony which isn’t religious or legal? Answer these qs, and this may help you to consider what bits you want to include in your ceremony!
Post # 6
We chose this date because we are feeling rebelious and wanted to get married on friday the 13th. The only available date was the 22nd of september to get the legal things done. We don’t want to get married at cityhall because it’s really really, REALLY ugly! (picture really makes it look better than it actually is!)
And the only way for the marriage to be legal is to have it at city hall, so we will be going there on the 22nd with the witneses, to the desk and get legally married in about 10 minutes, probably in jeans and sneakers and going to work afterwards.
I think the sand ceremony will work best because they actually have a task and we get to keep the vase with sand in our house, I think it will look pretty with six colours in it!
Any other ideas are still very much welcome!