- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2019
I log on to Facebook today and see a message from my former friend. She told me there was going to be an email in my personal email account from some company who are conducting security checks on her, because she had applied for a very high position in her career and all they needed was references by people that know her.
Now I wouldn’t have mind doing it, if she was my friend.
Long story short:
Friend cut all ties with me, the only way we communicate is Facebook and that is maybe once in four years. I live in our home town, she comes to visit her family but doesn’t stop by to see me, not even a text to say “Hey lets go for coffee and catch up.”
She cut ties after meeting my partner, because he is mentally ill and in her world I am assuming my partner and I are not up-market enough for her. Because we are frugal with our money we drive in old cars and dress in clothes that are from clothing sales.
How I found out, I didn’t get invited to her very Posh wedding. We talked about her up-coming wedding for months until four months before the wedding and mysteriously she stopped talking. Then I see the status “Sent out the invites :)” and I waited, checked my mail box everyday until a week before the wedding and it dawned on me, my best friend from school didn’t invite me.
No explanation, no excuses. If she told me “I am sorry but I only invited people who live close to the city, I didn’t want to bother you with the travel.” or “Look, I didn’t invite you because I don’t like your partner or you look to daggy for my wedding.”
I would have been fine, after three years nothing.
Today when I read the email she tells me she has forward my email address to this security compnay for security checks because I have been her friend for X amount of years.
She didn’t consult me about this, she didn’t ask if I was okay in doing this for her. She just went ahead and forwarded my personal email address to God knows who.
My former friend could have asked other friends that she knows that has known her just as long as me.
Telling me that she took my email address I use on Facebook for this purpose.
I am in the conflict of not doing the security check for her, since she cut me off and yet feel guilty if I don’t.
Bees what would you do?