Post # 1
I’m definitely having an inner crisis and don’t know how to deal.
For the past 5 years Darling Husband and I have lived in the middle of Hollywood. As you can imagine this means that we’re right in the middle of EVERYTHING. We have anything we need within walking distance, (theaters, restaurants, stores, bars, etc, etc). I love how lively and energetic our area is.
As much as we would have LOVED to buy a house near the area, it’s just simply not afforable for our first home. Basically anything under $900K is a tiny shack. So to be able to afford a decent house we decided to move into the suburbs. I wasn’t willing to move too far into the suburbs so we ended up buying a house in a very nice area about 5 miles, (10-15 minutes), from where we live now. It still has great stores and restaurants, etc but nothing is within walking distance and there’s definitely a much slower pace of life. We’re set to move next week and I’m freaking out.
The suburbs just feel so slow and dead to me. I’m freaking out about the change in our fast paced life style to the slower paced life in our new area. It makes me feel so…old. Like our fun times of carefree weekends of walking to the farmer’s market, brunch, the theater are over.
Have any Bees dealt with these sort of irrational feelings about moving to a different type of neighborhood? How did you get over it?
Any input is greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
You are only going to be 10 to 15 minutes from where you were, that is not a huge move and honestly that small of a drive is like a blink of an eye. I really think you are over reacting a tad on it…
Post # 4
I kind of did the opposite move from you and I will agree its very challenging to change your lifestyle!
You will constantly be comparing your life style of then to where it is now. In the end, with time I can promise it gets better. You will begin to grow accustom to the changes , and you might acutally find yourself liking it 😉
Best of luck!
Post # 5
There’s NOTHING within walking distance? Or just not the amount of activity that you’re used to?
I’m trying to picture an area so close to Hollywood as you said, with NOTHING within walking distance.
Maybe it’s the atmosphere that makes you nervous? You’re worried you’ll be bored?
Post # 6
I tend to agree 10-15 min is an easy trade for being a homeowner. I’m sure you’ll be thankfull in the long run…
Post # 7
PS I moved from NYC to a smaller city an hour away. I hang out in NYC all the time but I now own a home and love having a quiet calm place to call home
Post # 8
@Sassygrn: In LA terms 5 miles is a lot. It can take 10 minutes without traffic or 30 minutes with traffic. Basically it’s a whole other world. I admit I am probably over-reacting slightly but my feelings are my feelings.
@Eva Peron: thank you! It’s nice to know that I’m not crazy and not the only one who having these feelings. And I’m happy to hear that you got over it eventually. There’s hope!
@DeadlyNightshade: There is NOTHING within walking distance! Absolutely nothing except other homes and a school. (you’re in LA so if you’re really curious about the area, PM me). I’m definitly worried about the change in life style and being bored and…settling. Right now we have everything at our fingertips so it’s very easy to go out. I’m scared that when going out is a much bigger effort, we just won’t and we’ll end up being old home bodies.
Post # 9
@Meowkers: Still it is not a big distance or time frame. It is not like you are moving hours away from the hubub of activity. Sure it will be a change but NOT that big of a change.
Post # 10
I recently moved from an ‘in’ neighborhood to across town to a suburban neighborhood, so I completely understand. I just suggest finding a place you can learn to love and go with it! Although I miss living right off of the strip it is nice to be in a quieter neighborhood and being with my honey is totally worth it!
Post # 11
I moved my hub’s from Beverly Hills/Century City into Toluca Lake. He’s still not happy about it 🙂 But as someone who grew up in the “burbs,” there’s a ton of awesome little nooks and crannies. We’ve been slowly discovering our neighboorhood; it’s not the same as living in the city, but it works. But, we do spend more time on the weekends driving into the city or wherever we need to go, since all our friends are still out there. Takes more planning, and there’s less spontenaity, but it’s not the end of the world, and our life hasn’t suffered
Post # 12
Oh yes! Before meeting and marrying Darling Husband, I lived in a major metropolitan area, where I owned my own townhouse and had a fabulous, rewarding, and high-paying career; wonderful friends; an amazing church family; involvement in various activites; access to all kinds of high-end shopping and terrific restaurants; and more than two-decades of history and familiarity in an area that I loved.
After almost a year of transition, where I basically had to split my life each week between two states while I waited for my house to finally sell and to wrap up my job, I finally joined Darling Husband and his children full time in my new area — a very small town in a very rural area.
The major changes I had to make all at once (from being single with no pets and no kids to becoming a pastor’s wife, stepmother of multiple kids, a pet owner, etc.; from working a demanding, exciting, well-paying job to staying at home full time until I can find some type of job here that will make use of my skills, education and talents; from having access to all of my favorite stores and restaurants to having to travel about a half hour in each direction to get to a much smaller selection of stores and many fewer restaurants; to not having my friends nearby; going from a much larger church to a much smaller church of a different denomination, etc. etc. etc.), were completely overwhelming.
Change is hard. A lot of change all at once is even more difficult. Give yourself some time to adjust and even to grieve over the loss of what you once had so that you slowly are able to enjoy the wonderful new opportunities that your new life will bring.
Post # 13
I also left LA for a burb, and it was tough at first. We tried to mitigate the shock by moving to a place that was still walking distance to things.
Honestly, part of it was the lifestage. We moved a year or two too early to really appreciate it at first, but now that we want to have kids soon it just makes so much more sense to be where we are.
Our interests have also changed somewhat, and we rarely go back to any of the places we used to go because we don’t miss them all that much. Funny how that works out.
Of course, my friend ended up buying 45 mins out from her city, and now she is driving in almost once or twice a week to hang out–so for anyone considering this type of move just be realistic about gas and travel.
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center
Where are you?! I’m in Glendale and we are walking distance to EVERYTHING
Post # 15
We’re a good 40 minutes no traffic into the city, and have not gone in to hang out in over a year and a half and we used to live right in the North End in boston.. HUGE change. We’ve been so busy with the house and stuff we don’t even really have time or the desire to go… I guess our desires just molded to our environment. Its was fun and convienent while it lasted, but we don’t really miss it.
Post # 16
6 years ago Darling Husband and I moved from a gorgeous apartment that was located across the road from one of our city’s best shopping/dining/bar areas, to a townhouse in the burbs in order to save money. We’ve since moved again (several times) and our house now is in a lovely area, a 10 minute walk away from a similar area, great schools etc, and I love it…but yes we do still miss our old life! Even now when we walk past it we get all nostalgic about how great it was 🙂 So yeah, I know the change will be hard and take a while to adjust to. But there might be more to your new neighbourhood than you realise? Even if it’s just some fantastic new neighbours!