Personal help, need a place to stay for a week LA/OC area.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Helper bee

Why are you guys STILL not in your new apartment? Everytime you posted you said it would be happening the following week…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think your best bet would be extended stay hotels that rent by the week (not night) that are as far away from any of the beach cities as possible. That said, 3-400 for an entire week sounds really low already. I am not sure how you will find anything lower than that in so-cal especially with two dogs. Mathematically most studio apartments in LA would come to 3-400 a week at LEAST even in terms of rent.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you need it for that short of a time, I agree with PP who said to check out Craigslist. I’ve seen postings on there before from people who have a couch or a room for someone to crash in for a week or two. I doubt you can find anything that is shorter term than that, aside from a hotel/motel/etc. For $400/week, that’s about $57/day and that’s pretty low. If you don’t mind sketchy places, there are motels that I’ve seen advertise that low of rates. Otherwise, maybe you can name your own price on Priceline and see if anyone bites.

Then I would contact local rescues organizations and see if they are willing to foster your dogs for the week if you give them a small donation and explain your circumstances. That way, you aren’t restricted to only places that allow pets. Some may have a larger property and may even be able to accomodate you for the week as a tenant if you are willing to pitch in with labor/cleaning/etc. (This may be a stretch.)

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Can one of your brothers or your FI watch your dogs for the week? Or at least for the nights if you are able to stay somewhere other than your car?

http://www.midnightmission.org/services-safesleep.asp  This one looks to be a safe shelter for the night.

If you dial 211 in LA county it seems they can connect you with human services and might be able to recommend a safe place to stay. If dialing 211 directly doesn’t work the alternate number is (800) 339-6993. It’s supposed to be a 24hr number from what I’ve read.

Failing that here’s a list of other shelters: http://lahsa.org/hotlines.asp

(Or less likely to be helpful, but on the off chance, perhaps couch surfing? https://www.couchsurfing.org/n/how-it-works)

I wish you the best of luck.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@echolove:  I realize this may be a bit late to actually help you, but I suggest you have a real sit-down meeting with your FI and his parents.  I wonder if they know the extent of your situation at home?  If you sat down with them and told them what you’re really facing here, and assured them that it’s short term, I can’t believe they wouldn’t want to help you with a place to stay.  It sounds to me like he hasn’t relly explained the situation to them, and I know you have trouble being “confrontational” with him, but your life is at stake here.

I understand that you don’t want to “nag” your FI because it’s his money for the apartment, and “your fault” (her words, not mine) that you’re homeless, but I know for a fact that there’s no way that my husbands parents would ever have let me sleep in a car while we were engaged, nor would my parents have let him be in the same situation.  Perhaps their religious values prohibit your sleeping under the same roof… well that’s all fine and good but it’s hardly Christian (I’m assuming here) to let someone you care about sleep on the street.  Even a tent in their backyard would be far superiour to what you’re comtemplating for crying out loud.  Not to mention, you’re about to move in to an apartment with their son anyway (in theory) so the no-sleeping together jig is really up.

One final note:  You admitted that you’ve had problems breaking free of abusive relationships in the past, and I think you should seriously, SERIOUSLY think about whether you want to marry a man who would let you sleep in your car for a week because he’s not pro-active enough to make a couple of phone calls to a landlord.  Also, whether you want to marry into a family that thinks that’s ok for you too.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I really have to agree with MissNoodles..

I hope you find somewhere to stay very soon.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@echolove:  Definitely look on Craigslist. I just did a quick glance in the LA area and I found multiple places that look safe that are around $200/week. I really hope you’re okay and find a place to stay!

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MissNoodles:  Completely agree. This is STILL going on? WTF!! If I were you, I would be furious with my FI and reconsidering marrying him! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissNoodles:  This x’s 10000000!!!

 

@echolove:  I’ve been keeping up with your posts and every new post is how “its just going to be another week until we are in our own place!” And here it is almost July.

I’m sorry, but my husband would NEVER have let me live in my car or stay at sketchy hotels. Even if his family didn’t want me to stay (and I get it, my MIL is Cherokee Indian so I know how pride can ruin things…but he would move Heaven and Earth to convince his parents to let me stay. He wouldn’t be lagging on calling about an apartment. I know you said in other posts that he’s doing the best he can with his responsibilities toward his family, but c’mon! 

I think you really really REALLY nred to find a place to stay and then sit back and think about if this is the man you want to marry. A man that would rather you sleep in his car upset ask and upset his parents. 

I know your financial situation sucks and he seems to be your saving grace, but don’t marry him because of money. He is clearly not being as free with his money or priorities, which should be you and your safety. Stay safe and honestly think about this. Because to me, he doesn’t seem worthy of you.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@echolove:  You’re welcome. If you were on the east coast I’d offer up my couch! It must be a terrible feeling havnig no where to go, I’m so sorry about that. Do you have any distant relatives (cousins, Aunts/uncles, etc) that you could stay with?

 

What about looking in the Oakland area for a place to stay? I’m not sure how pricing is, but I would assume it is higher in the LA/OC areas in So Cal than up north.

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