Post # 1
I’ve been on here frequently about my problems at home. Some of you might know my situation. I’be been staying at FIL’s house but I have to find somewhere else to stay for a week. FI and I decided to move to Oakland sooner than planned. But I decided to finish my last week at week to get a full pay check.
I’ve been looking online for a sublet/ temp room for a week but no luck. Also, it sucks to pay $300-400 for one week when I can use that for moving money. But unfortunately, I have no family or friends to ask to crash at their place in the mean time. For 3 weeks now I’ve been stay at motels and FIL’s back and forth. So I don’t have very much money to stay anywhere. And I have two dogs. Another problem with finding a place, no pets! :(. I wish I can just camp out or sleep in my car, at least it’s free for the week, lol, but it’s not the wisest or safest thing to do.
If you can help me with any ifo or maybe know of someone in my area who can help, I’ll appreciate it so much! Anywhere in Los Angeles or Orange County area. I’m at my last resort here. I’ve looked and its starting to get frustrating. I’m embarrass to post this but just thought its worth a try. Thank you!
Post # 4
Why are you guys STILL not in your new apartment? Everytime you posted you said it would be happening the following week…
Post # 5
I think your best bet would be extended stay hotels that rent by the week (not night) that are as far away from any of the beach cities as possible. That said, 3-400 for an entire week sounds really low already. I am not sure how you will find anything lower than that in so-cal especially with two dogs. Mathematically most studio apartments in LA would come to 3-400 a week at LEAST even in terms of rent.
Post # 7
If you need it for that short of a time, I agree with PP who said to check out Craigslist. I’ve seen postings on there before from people who have a couch or a room for someone to crash in for a week or two. I doubt you can find anything that is shorter term than that, aside from a hotel/motel/etc. For $400/week, that’s about $57/day and that’s pretty low. If you don’t mind sketchy places, there are motels that I’ve seen advertise that low of rates. Otherwise, maybe you can name your own price on Priceline and see if anyone bites.
Then I would contact local rescues organizations and see if they are willing to foster your dogs for the week if you give them a small donation and explain your circumstances. That way, you aren’t restricted to only places that allow pets. Some may have a larger property and may even be able to accomodate you for the week as a tenant if you are willing to pitch in with labor/cleaning/etc. (This may be a stretch.)
Post # 8
Can one of your brothers or your FI watch your dogs for the week? Or at least for the nights if you are able to stay somewhere other than your car?
http://www.midnightmission.org/services-safesleep.asp This one looks to be a safe shelter for the night.
If you dial 211 in LA county it seems they can connect you with human services and might be able to recommend a safe place to stay. If dialing 211 directly doesn’t work the alternate number is (800) 339-6993. It’s supposed to be a 24hr number from what I’ve read.
Failing that here’s a list of other shelters: http://lahsa.org/hotlines.asp
(Or less likely to be helpful, but on the off chance, perhaps couch surfing? https://www.couchsurfing.org/n/how-it-works)
I wish you the best of luck.
Post # 9
@echolove: I realize this may be a bit late to actually help you, but I suggest you have a real sit-down meeting with your FI and his parents. I wonder if they know the extent of your situation at home? If you sat down with them and told them what you’re really facing here, and assured them that it’s short term, I can’t believe they wouldn’t want to help you with a place to stay. It sounds to me like he hasn’t relly explained the situation to them, and I know you have trouble being “confrontational” with him, but your life is at stake here.
I understand that you don’t want to “nag” your FI because it’s his money for the apartment, and “your fault” (her words, not mine) that you’re homeless, but I know for a fact that there’s no way that my husbands parents would ever have let me sleep in a car while we were engaged, nor would my parents have let him be in the same situation. Perhaps their religious values prohibit your sleeping under the same roof… well that’s all fine and good but it’s hardly Christian (I’m assuming here) to let someone you care about sleep on the street. Even a tent in their backyard would be far superiour to what you’re comtemplating for crying out loud. Not to mention, you’re about to move in to an apartment with their son anyway (in theory) so the no-sleeping together jig is really up.
One final note: You admitted that you’ve had problems breaking free of abusive relationships in the past, and I think you should seriously, SERIOUSLY think about whether you want to marry a man who would let you sleep in your car for a week because he’s not pro-active enough to make a couple of phone calls to a landlord. Also, whether you want to marry into a family that thinks that’s ok for you too.
Post # 11
I really have to agree with MissNoodles..
I hope you find somewhere to stay very soon.
Post # 12
@echolove: Definitely look on Craigslist. I just did a quick glance in the LA area and I found multiple places that look safe that are around $200/week. I really hope you’re okay and find a place to stay!
Post # 13
@MissNoodles: Completely agree. This is STILL going on? WTF!! If I were you, I would be furious with my FI and reconsidering marrying him!
Post # 14
@BakerBee16: ThaNk you. I’m looking on CL now and contacting places.
Thank you for commenting. I just don’t have anyone to talk to most of the time and would rather not let anyone know my problems. Friends or family. So I come on here to vent and ask for advice because I know the ladies on here tend to be very caring and helpful. And it’s nice to hear different opinions from so many different people. My FI is doing all that he can. I take responsibility a lot on myself. I try not to leave everything on him. That is why I continue to look for places without involving him and asking for help on here for myself. He would never let me sleep in my car, which he hasn’t’. I just speak of myself and think about what I’ll have to do without putting the burden on him. I am not use to depending on others. I’ve never had to before. I’ve always helped everyone else out and it’s very difficult to let someone take care of me. So that’s why I still put myself alone, even though I have my FI. He drove 14 hours on his motorcycle to Oakland and back, to get us situated over there, so we can move sooner. And he’s been there for me every step. Which makes me feel guilty that I can’t do more. He’s been borrowing and making money non-stop to save for us.
Im looking for a room to rent for about $500 a month. So far no pets allowed. And the ones that allowed them on their ad, changed their mind about allowing dogs :/ Thanks for your post and listening to me. I’m sure I’m sounding annoying to most of you now.
Post # 15
@MissNoodles: This x’s 10000000!!!
@echolove: I’ve been keeping up with your posts and every new post is how “its just going to be another week until we are in our own place!” And here it is almost July.
I’m sorry, but my husband would NEVER have let me live in my car or stay at sketchy hotels. Even if his family didn’t want me to stay (and I get it, my MIL is Cherokee Indian so I know how pride can ruin things…but he would move Heaven and Earth to convince his parents to let me stay. He wouldn’t be lagging on calling about an apartment. I know you said in other posts that he’s doing the best he can with his responsibilities toward his family, but c’mon!
I think you really really REALLY nred to find a place to stay and then sit back and think about if this is the man you want to marry. A man that would rather you sleep in his car upset ask and upset his parents.
I know your financial situation sucks and he seems to be your saving grace, but don’t marry him because of money. He is clearly not being as free with his money or priorities, which should be you and your safety. Stay safe and honestly think about this. Because to me, he doesn’t seem worthy of you.
Post # 16
@echolove: You’re welcome. If you were on the east coast I’d offer up my couch! It must be a terrible feeling havnig no where to go, I’m so sorry about that. Do you have any distant relatives (cousins, Aunts/uncles, etc) that you could stay with?
What about looking in the Oakland area for a place to stay? I’m not sure how pricing is, but I would assume it is higher in the LA/OC areas in So Cal than up north.