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i would probably tell my fi to tell them to get bent. in nicer words. i have my days where i can't clean due to my migraines, which i don't like, but it happens. if people come over and they don't like it, oh well.
I really cannot see myself commenting to anyone, EVER, about the cleanliness of their house. I mean, if I had to walk through piles of garbage, I'd be unlikely to visit again. But I just don't see how someone else's vacuuming or dusting habits are any of my business. With that said, should anyone ever comment on my house's cleanliness, I'd be really tempted to reply, "That is so sweet of you to offer to pay for a maid service! Thank you so much!"
No matter how clean my house is FMIL ALWAYS makes a comment about something not being as clean as it could. It gets SO annoying. I've learned to just ignore it. I did however say something to FI when on the phone FMIL said "Make sure you clean before we get there" I laughed it off when she said it but then went kind of crazy on FI asking him if he told his mom I never cleaned or what. He said she was just trying to make a joke, I however said it wasn't funny. She still does it but now I just don't give a $hit what she says, I know my house is clean and that's all that matters.
Good Lord, what do they expect? You to stay up until midnight every night picking up in the off chance it fancy's them to stop by?
If someone comes to my house and says anything about the cleanliness I hand them a broom and remind them that I work, do school, and raise a child. I keep up on everything the best I can but if they think they can do better - have at it. Just my two cents. . . .
Honestly I think my FIL's are too scared to say anything of the sort to me because I would probably tell them to get bent. In nicer terms. If they say thing I would just say that it was late notice and you had things to do that you couldn't cancel. I also wouldn't call attention to it - ie, no "welcome to my home" statements, just a "hi, how are you".
I have nothing constructive to add, but I really love the title of this post! Lol!
I by no means have a dirty house. I clean every weekend (a habit that I got into at an early age when my parents used me and my sisters as child-laborers! ;) ) But last night we were folding laundry and the piles are still in the family room, bc lets face it who really likes putting laundry away?! The last time they were at my house his father said "dont you EVER put anything away" and his mother is CONSTANTLY saying "remember OHIO" (only handle it once.....) We have also been flat out critisized about our lawn, home repairs etc. I can only imagine what they will say to us today
Um, can your FI get home early to clean? I assume he doesn't like the criticism either...
this is just crazy to me. sadly, i think if my future inlaws have anything bad to say about the cleanliness of our house, they say it behind my back. but after reading this, i think i'd prefer it that way.
They don't say anything to our faces but I'm sure they think it. My MIL inherited her mother's down-on-her-hands-and-knees-cleaning-the-baseboards-with-a-toothbrush cleaning habits. Their house is always spotless. Unfortunately(?), neither my husband nor I inherited those genes. And I know that my FIL has done the dishes in our sink on more than one occassion if we needed him to swing by the house when we're gone.
Our house is never as clean as I would like. I'm hoping that moving into a bigger place will help because as is, if one thing is out of place everything feels cluttered. But really, I would love to hire someone if our budget allowed. I would feel guilty that I wasn't doing it but there are ways around that. Like hiring someone who really needs the work/money. That's what my mom did when we were growing up. It makes life so much better!
Ha ha! I just realized I combined my answer to this post with my answer to this one: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/has-anyone-considered-or-had-a-housecleaner
the in laws never come due to FMIL is 4hrs drive away and the FIL has never visited. I am more worried about when my parents come to visit.. the house has to be spotless. FH has the same attitude tho so it helps.. were like OMG.. CLEAN whenever we get off the phone to them telling us were coming over. They only live ten minutes away but its the quickest house clean ever. Not that anything is unhygenic or cluttered but things are never put away properly. Luckily I always do dishes before I leave for work :)
luckily my FIL's house is never as clean as mine so they have no room to talk lol but i am somewhat anal so my house is always "clean" - only rarely lately is it spotless thanks to the small space and what the earlier poster said about one thing being out of place - and the fact that FH is messy and doesnt subscribe to everything has a home. ugh.
but yeah i would totally tell FIL to get bent if they had something to say about how i kept house. lol
ugg..I always have to clean my house before my BF's mother comes out. She is extremely allergic to animal fur and I happen to have 2 cats & a dog. She becomes a mess if she touches her eyes after she has touched animal fur. So its always a chore to chase the cats around to either lock them in a bedroom or down the basement. Then I have to put the air purifer on, take the dog out and put either in the basement or the garage. Then I have to vacuum EVERYTHING!! I have to make sure I pull out the rocking chair for her to sit on bc she can't sit on the couch or chair bc of the fur. And she's allergic to dust, but you would never know it from her house. It's the most dustiest house I've seen. But she claims that if she dusts that she will get all sneezy...well ya..anyone who is going to dust that house will end up like that..you have 2 inches of dust on everything.
But it never fails, she alwasy leaves the house with red watery eyes. FML!!
I get worried about judgement on our house with the FIL's come over. They bought a new house when we did and they made a "no pets in our house rule" because their house is "nice" and they want it to stay that way - FH and I have a cat and a dog and we also bought a brand new house, and I just know whenever they come over they are judging how our pets "ruin" our house. So when they are coming I scrub the $hit out of every surface of the house, there won't be a pet hair to be found when they walk though the door.
We are pretty clean usually, vacuum 2x a week, mop and dust every week or so, keep the stuff picked up all the time - but when we are having the FIL's (or really pretty much anyone over) I go coo-coo bananas cleaning - it is like a 1-2 day scrubbing project LOL
I like our house to be clean when anyone visits, but particularly MIL! I would be pretty p*ssed if DH agreed she would come over at 6.30 without checking it was ok with me first. Then I'd have the chance to say "make it 7 or 7.30 so I have time to shower and clean up a bit".
And if anyone dared comment on the cleanliness I'd probably hand them a broom and tell them to knock themselves out while I go drink wine in front of the TV.
Well here is an update for you guys. THEY CAME AN HOUR EARLY! and stayed long enough to make snarky comments to me as I walked in the door all sweaty. Then waited for me to be out of the shower and talked about how its just terrible how much these animals (1 dog 1 cat) shed all over the furnature! GRRR
Ugh!!! That is so annoying :( I'm sorry they are so difficult to deal with! Did your FI react to their comments last night?
He blows the comments off. He doesn't see how the comments are implying that I am terrible wife material. But I find them completely irratating! Its along the same lines of "why is FI so skinny now?" implying that I don't feed him or something! Could it be that its bc I don't cook everything with straight lard?! grah!
My MIL only comes over when we have parties and such. However... One time she did stop by before a party to drop something off and the house was trashed. There was a huge pile of clean laundry on the couch.. etc. She didn't say anything and I was shocked. Until, at the party several people commented on how surprised MIL was that it was clean. And she told me she didn't know how I had gotten all of that mess cleaned up before the party. I just smiled and said of course I did. Like; I'm superwoman.. duh!
What a [insert mean name here]!
stlginko that really sucks! Can you avoid them? Maybe if they see you don't like them they'll be nicer... of course that's likely to backfire I guess but it is not okay to be constantly criticising someone in their own house!
my MIL/FIL don't do this, but my BIL/SIL do
their house is clean, but their lives aren't in order..but I'm sure I can't say anything to them about "why don't you have your degree yet and your career", bc that is rude, so why is it OK to comment on my "housewife" skills when I work hard, just did a weekend masters and bring home the bacon. ;) hmmm, now I want bacon hahaha
I probably would - but only because I can't keep my big mouth shut. I know I'd regret it if I said something. Sometimes it's just better to hold off on creating a conflict until you have a strategy.
I would tell your in-laws to stick it where the sun don't shine! They sound like critical, insensitive individuals. Contrary to their beliefs, it is NOT your job to play maid all day. You have a life of your own outside of the home. They need a reality check! This isn't Leave it to Beaver!!!!
Honestly I would tell them their comments are inappropriate. If they want to visit you they should respect that its YOUR house too and not your FI's bedroom in their house. He's a grown up and your an adult and its disrespectful of your generosity and home.
I would have skipped my hot yoga, but then they came early?! That would have made me double mad.
I also would have given my man some explicit instructions on what must be done to prepare for them by cleaning. (Saying make sure it's clean, I have found, doesn't work).
My inlaws don't comment, but we try our very best to clean a lot before they come. They comment to us about my husband's brother's house, so that gave me the 'red flag' to clean before they saw ours. They have said that they understand that sometimes our place is messy, but it is not dirty.
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ok so my FI just txted me to tell me his parents were coming over tonight. This in itself is fine, however they are coming at 6:30 which means right as I get home from my hot yoga class. So I will be disgusting! and the house isnt going to be clean. (The last time they came over and it wasnt SPOTLESS I heard all about it!) So now I'm going home inbetween work and class to straighten......
Would you tell your IL or FIL to get bent if they commented on the cleanliness of your home?