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I saw this post on the knot and thought it was interesting so I thought I would repeat.
If you don't mind answering, how much cash did you get from your wedding and how many people attended your wedding?
i got £500 from my step dad and 500euros from ym aunty/uncle - not sure on the $$$ translation -the biggest cash gifts
in total we got about £4000 - and spent it all on honeymoon!
@jkwija: We had 160. Got about $3500 in cash and another $1500 or so in gift cards. $1000 was from my dad (who also paid for 1/2 the wedding, my mom paid the other 1/2-divorced parents). The biggest gifts were probably my Kitchenaid ($350) from my sister or knives ($500) from his dad/stepmom outside of the cash or the video camera from my best friends (total surprise and so awesome-best OFF Register gift EVER!)
OHHHH good question. I'm always curious to know how much cash people bought, but would feel uncomfortable asking anybody...
We had 54 guests and recieved $3380 in cash and $1100 in gifts and gift cards at the wedding. However, some gifts were from family who couldn't make it overseas for the wedding.
We had 120 guests, got $12,000 in cash and I am not sure how much value in gifts but probably a few thousand. Largest single gift was $5,000 from the ILs.
We had 151 guests, and we got about $19k in cash. However, we also got a bunch of cash from people who did not attend the wedding, which we were not expecting. The largest cash gift was from DH's brother, who gave $2k. We also got a gift of 5 private dinner parties with a chef from DH's co-worker and his wife, and that probably cost him $4k-5k, so that was probably the most expensive thing that we got.
WHOA these numbers are WAY higher than I was expecting to see.
We had 205 people and got about $18,000. We had some people who gave $25 and some generous couples that gave $1,000. It was interesting because the people like his aunt who is a millionare 10x over gave $100 for a family of four and some regular middle class couples gave us $1,000. Not that it matter what anyone gave I just found it funny that the richest people gave the least.
We had 82 people, and got about $3500 in cash and another $2000 in gift cards.
I would almost feel bad if I got upwards of $20k. Does that make me weird? :D
We had around 125 guests and received between $6500-7000 in cash. The largest gift was $500.
My parents gave us our honeymoon. It still embarasses me to say it. The FI and I are payig for the entire wedding ourselves but still it is an extemely generous gift.
@R.Elliott: Wow! Excuse me while I pick my jaw up off the floor!
Great question! This is really helpful bees. I've been trying to estimate how much in cash gifts we might receive. So far we've received one large cash gift from an uncle for $1000. We're hoping to get enough to pay off our honeymoon.
I'm finding the AVERAGE amongst my group of friends here, is anywhere from about $150-$300 per couple. There will be people who give way more, people who give way less, people who give gifts and people who give nothing....
great thread! for some reason, i had just assumed people would mainly be getting things from the registry, and we would only get a few cash gifts.
@Denali: It was the opposite for us. We got about 5 or 6 tangible gifts for the wedding, and the rest was cash.
Now I'm wondering if anyone is going to post anything UNDER 1000 after seeing these amounts.
We haven't had our wedding yet, but we're asking for no presents/gifts, only for the guests to rent a cabin or share costs and rent a chalette together. So I doubt we'll get ANY $$ (if we do, it won't be a lot, lol).
@Zinzerena: I'll post....we sent out about 150 invites and I think we got around $1000 between cash/gift cards/ and the value of 2 nights at the Ritz that my co-workers gave us.
Wow I don't know who some of you have in your families but you sure received some generous gifts. We had 110 people at our wedding and got about $900 in cash. I think we got just under $1000 worth of gifts too.
I agree looking at just the figures it probably is quite shocking but if you do the math it's really not that crazy!
For example @hilsy85: (I hope you don't mind me using your #s).
She got 19K and 2K came from a sibling so that leaves 17K divide between 150 guests. That's really only about $113 per guest, average. Her wedding is in NYC so her pp is probably around that amount if not more. So it's not like she made out like a bandit.
I think different families and cultures play a huge part in numbers as well. In Chinese families it is customary to give cash. 99% give cash and the going rate is much higher than the average Western couple. I mean last summer we went to a wedding in a area where I know the average pp is 40-60 but we still gave $150 for both of us. If I was going to a wedding in Manhattan, NYC we would probably give a bare minimum of 200-250 depending on the venue.
We had 134 guests and got 85% cash gifts and got very generous physical gifts as well. But honestly if it weren't for my side of the family we would have gone in the negative.
And no I'm not sharing a $ amount.
to further followup, most of the people who gave us money gave around $20-$25 if they were single, or anywhere from $40-50 if they were a couple. One couple did give us $100. And most of the gifts we received from couples were priced around $40. And gifts from families were priced anywhere from $50-100. We did have 4 families go in together to get us a present worth $100. That was 16 guests that got us a present worth $100. I would never spend that little on a gift for a wedding I was attending.
We are expecting about $20K (about 170 ppl) based on his sister who just got married last summer. I just had my first birdal shower with about 20 people (another one for another location later) and we got $1K in cash and way too many gifts.
I think its really hard to estimate what you will get based on other forum members, only other family members because different regions, friends and families will produce very different results
@Gerbera: Nope, no worries at all! And you're very right, location and culture make a big difference. We're Jewish, and Dh is Russian, and cash is definitely more common for our families, and also more common in NYC. We certainly didn't expect to get that amount, but we fully expect to give what most of the couples gave to us--in fact DH said it's kind of silly, since we're all just trading the same amount back and forth :)
amariem25, just reading that last sentence...it's a little harsh. Maybe that is all they could afford. If they had to travel or whatever, I don't know. But they felt combining to get one bigger present was better than little ones from each. I find it presumptuous that you think everyone has the money to throw on someone else's wedding present.
Some of these other numbers astound me, I NEVER imagined or dreamed of getting anywhere close to some of these numbers in gifts. That is pretty amazing. Congrats ladies.
One daughter had 120 guests and received over $10,000. in cash and no gifts. The other had 85 guests and received $12,000. in cash and an Ipad. Largest single gifts were $1000. and $5000.
EXACTLY!
For me it's like a loan. The aunts and uncles that gave you x$ when their kids get married you will be giving that x$ back + inflation. So technically it's not really your money to keep. We compare it to like a bank loan. Same goes for all the gold I got during the tea ceremony.
These were rich families of professional people - a lawyer, a doctor, 2 nurses, a pharmacist. I guess if I came from such a privileged background I would give a gift worth more than $6.25/person.
I don't find it presumptious. The OP asked for us to post about gifts that SURPRISED us and that's what I posted about. That gift surprised my husband and I.
Are some of these numbers because people actually requested cash gifts?
I don't particularly want wedding gifts, I suppose when you have been living with your FH for like 3 years you already have a lot of the things you might need, and am really not comfortable just straight up asking for cash. We're planning on noting in our invites that we would prefer cash donations that we will use to make a larger donation to a charity of our choice in celebration of our wedding/marriage.
My husband is Vietnamese, so nearly all of our gifts were cash. We had 225 guests and received a little over $24,000 in cash. The largest gift was $2000.
I'll chime in to say I don't expect anything like the numbers you guys have! Although I guess i'll be able to come back in 2 weeks to say for sure :)
We have 78 people total, 76 guests not counting FI and I. I seriously doubt any parents will give us cash (I know for sure my parents wont because they're paying for half the wedding and already got us a set of pots/pans as a wedding gift, and FI's parents are splitting the cost of the rehearsal dinner and I think they'll both feel that is their total contribution). I also don't expect much if anything from our bridal party/dates because they've spent so much just to be part of our wedding. Subtracting out all those people (parents/spouses, bridal party and dates), that leaves only 61 people attending.
We've already gotten $300 in cash from people who are not coming (three different people). I'd say I expect around $2,000 MAX from our remaining guests... and that is only if they mostly give us cash and not wedding gifts.
ETA: I got to this estimate figuring that the absolute max we'd probably get is about $50 per person attending, and not everyone will get us anything.
No one in my family has ever requested cash gifts, but that's what we traditionally give for weddings. Registry gifts are given for the wedding showers.
@Dollygold: We didn't request anything at all--we certainly didn't want people to feel obligated to gift us one thing vs. another, or gift us anything at all. It's just how it worked out.
We did not request anything at all much less specifically cash gifts, it's just customary for Chinese.
Honestly, I can understand everyone's shock at the high #s. My husband was shocked too when I told him what the average Chinese wedding takes in on gifts! He's just not used to it! On his side the average gift we got was $40 per couple which I was still grateful for because everyone on his side also had to travel for the wedidng. So I considered that as part of our gift!
@Dollygold: not for me, its just what people do in my area. Showers are for gifts, weddings are mostly cash.
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