(Closed) Personal Question,. Has anyone ever cheated?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Anyone ever cheated or seriously considered it?
    Yes, and didnt regret it. : (10 votes)
    4 %
    Yes and would never do it again, : (51 votes)
    19 %
    I would never do that! : (199 votes)
    73 %
    Have seriously considered it before, : (13 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Wow.  Are they recently married or been married for a long time?

    Post # 4
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Nope. Not even if I “wanted” to–I owe him a chance to change things, to work things out and a real separation at least if those things didn’t work out before I ever took a step towards “cheating.” Those vows are important to me and to him.

    Post # 6
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I haven’t. I think that there are periods of time in every relationship, however, where you feel more alone than part of a couple. What you do in that time is what shows how much you value working to continue your relationship. 

    If she doesn’t get the attention she wants, she needs to confront him until he listens. If they don’t fix the problem with their marriage, or part ways, she’s going to be more tempted to cheat. 

    Post # 7
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Perhaps seeing some type of professional – religious leader, counselor, etc. could help the couple explore the issue and work towards some type of resolution.

    Post # 8
    2765 posts
    Sugar bee

    If he’s not listening, then maybe it’s time to try couples counseling?

    Post # 10
    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would never ever cheat.  My rule is if I want it that bad, then I should get a divorce first.  There would be reasons why you’d want out, but it’s cowardly and lazy to not put your affairs in order FIRST.

    Two of my SILs are currently cheating on their SOs.  One of the husbands found out, and he kicked her out with nothing but her clothes.  Now she’s all “Why me??” and my response is “Because you’re a disrespectful idiot.  Where’s your Boyfriend or Best Friend now??”  My other SIL’s SO doesn’t know yet, but when he finds out, she’ll be just as @$$ed out as her sister!  If you are that unhappy with the relationship, then get out.  Don’t just cheat.  That’s using both people and I have no compassion for anyone who would do that.

    Post # 11
    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Before I met M I cheated on every single guy I was ever with. I was always looking for “something”:”More attention, better sex, more established, etc.  When I met M, I was like wow… he has everything and I honestly haven’t ever had the urge to look elsewhere. 

    Post # 12
    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have never had the impulse or desire to cheat on my current Fiance. However I did cheat once on an ex but the relationship was over and it was on again off again and to be honest I didnt know if we were on or off at the time but it was still something I felt horrid about and confessed to him. I will never do anything like that again, I cant even imagine doing that to my Fiance, he is wonderful!

    Post # 13
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’m not going to lie, I’m the one that voted as having seriously considered it. It is not a period I am particularly proud of. Fiance (back before we were ever engaged) hit a rough patch a few years ago. We were both really young (19) and we were both working a lot. I saw him about once every 2 weeks or so. I was working at a haunted house and it was the guy that worked my scene with me. He was 30 and married with 2 kids and both of us were unhappy with what we had. We came pretty close, but in the end I never went through with it. I found out not too long afterward that he was screwing around with this little high school girl that he worked with. It really doesn’t matter now, to be honest. That whole period in our relationship is water under the bridge.

    That was 3 years ago and he’s been gone for the past year since he joined the service. We have both grown up a lot and I’ve never had the urge since.

    Post # 14
    145 posts
    Blushing bee

    I have never cheated on anyone and never will. But it sounds like your friend and her husband need to read a book together called “The Love languages”. Great book abt how a man and a woman can feel loved. If your friend can feel loved, she won’t even think of cheating. Just a suggestion for her.

    Post # 15
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    oh man, that’s tough. In my book, cheating is never okay.

    I say that, having been cheated on by my ex twice; although I also broke some boundaries when I was younger – high school age, dated one boy for 2 months and then met someone new, went out once, decided to break up with the first one… yeah. Teenage drama, and certainly not anything I would condone. 

    Post # 16
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I read the Love Language book, a present from my FMOL after we got engaged, and it was SO cool to recognize the ways we express love. I learned that he needs physical touch, which is great bc I can’t keep my hands off FI!, and I need quality time. THAT one helped a ton bc we had different ideas of what “quality” is.

    I’ve never cheated and it makes me sick to think about even getting to that place in my life. I used to be really paranoid about Fiance cheating though, like really paranoid. No quick fix for that..just a lot of talking and a lot of me telling myself I’m crazy. Fiance is the last guy on earth who would cheat, he loves me an unfair amount and was raised immaculately by his amazing mother BUT media and experience tells us that cheating is very very common, and it is in some respect.

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