Post # 1
I’ve been wanting to leave my current job for years now but haven’t mainly because I get paid very well for the area to do nothing all day. There is only so much internet browsing a lady can do every day of every week for years before going stir-crazy. I’m not trying to complain, I am very grateful to have a job in the first place- even more so one that pays all my bills, it’s just that this firm has no opportunities for promotion, I’ve already been here 5 years, and just feel like I’m at a dead end and need a change. We are hoping to TTC within the next 2 years so I feel a need to get settled into a more permanent long-term position.
So I found a job with a children’s resource center as an administrative assistant, basically what I do now, but focusing also on employment/training/accounting/insurance/licensing… They want 3 personal references that are NOT related to me and NOT previous employers/supervisors. Who in the heck would I put?? I moved here 5 years ago from across the country and didn’t keep in touch with any teachers, volunteer coordinators, etc. and haven’t done much here except work at the same place for the past 5 years. I know I could use some co-workers but even then, that only accounts for 2 of the 3 ppl. Who would you use??
Post # 3
@BeckyS0: I would ask people with whom I do volunteer work, the minister of the church I attend, a Guide Leader I work with.
Post # 4
@julies1949: so who should I use if I don’t have any of those connections? I pretty much just work all day, go home and cleanup, help hubby with his retail store, and by then its bedtime… Maybe one of his suppliers I’ve worked with in the past? I was trying to not advertise that we have our own business as I’m afraid the employer might think I wouldn’t be as focused or available….
Post # 6
Does your husband have loyal customers or friends who’d be willing to vouch for the fact that you are not a crazy person? Neighbors might work, too, unless you live in one of the more rural areas of Humboldt and you don’t have any! I wouldn’t worry about concealing the fact that you and your husband have your own business. If they ask about it, just make sure to refer to it as “my husband’s business”, just so they don’t think you’re applying for a second job of sorts! Don’t let the references hold you back. Opportunities for advancement are hard to come by in this area.
Post # 7
@futuremrsk18: +1, exactly. Friends seem like the obvious choice. I personally think any reference other than a professional one is stupid but if you want to chat to my friends, feel free.
Post # 8
@Pepperwoodsy: Thanks! I do have a few neighbors we hang out with occassionally so that would probably work! Are you from the area as well? A well-paying job can be hard to come by here so I don’t want to pass up the opportunity just because of some references- I’ve got plenty of professional references though! Good tip on the business too- I’ll have to remember that one!
@MrsPanda99: I agree with you- friends will say anything you want anyway. Why not go for the real goods with a business reference! Those are the real honest ppl not your friends!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands
I have an “aunt” (and “uncle” and “cousins”) whose name I put down for things like that. FH put down my mother’s name for something like that once.
Post # 10
Current or former landlords if you knew them personally? They could talk about you being responsible by paying rent on time, being respectful of the property, stuff like that.
Really I’m at a loss here. Personal references are so silly since they’re always people you’re friendly with. Of course they’ll say nice things about you.
Post # 11
@BeckyS0: Yes, I’m local, grew up in Eureka and live just north of there now. 🙂 Definitely ask your neighbors!! That is the advantage of living in place like this vs. a big city. You always know more people than you think you do. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you!! Go get that job, lady!!
Post # 12
Ugh personal references are so dumb. I would do friends. Maybe even someone you see on a regular basis, like an waiter or employee you always small-chat with?
Post # 13
Ugh I hate when they ask for personal references. Since I just graduated from my master’s program, I usually put former professors. I guess otherwise I’d just do longtime friends… just seems so pointless though.