- 4 years ago
If you’ve seen my previous posts you will see that my SO and I have been struggling with a few issues, mainly communication and uncertainty.
Then I found this article written by Lauren Freedman on Aish.com… a great read for anyone struggling with waiting.
I showed this to my SO and it was like the switch turned on. This woman was able to articulate what I’ve been feeling, almost exactly, for nearly a year. He was able to read this through someone else’s point of view, and through this article, he also browsed many other articles about people going through the same thing. He thought he was alone, the only guy in the world who had a girlfriend desperate for a formal commitment. Of course his friends wouldn’t tell him if they were going through the same issues, just as he doesn’t talk to them about it either.
Our relationship has been back to completely normal, and now we are both looking forward to our engagement. He even called my mother to ask her if it was ok if he shipped the ring to her house, as we don’t have a US address. I’m very excited, but I’m more excited about returning to normal, I finally feel sane again.
Now on to the family issue.
He spoke with his family about getting engaged and no one was to keen on the idea. His sister was particularly resistant to the idea- saying we were too young, our lives were not stable, we shouldn’t be making any big decisions until we are settled. That being said- When we met we were both working full time, I decided, with his blessing, to go back to school and leave my job. When I finish school, he will (hopefully) be going back to school. Anyway- it’s not as if we are both jobless. We have made the decision together, understanding that money would be tight, but we are still living a comfortable life. Well- His sister sent me an e-mail about it, and I never responded.
The e-mail basically says that whether we get engaged now, or if he waits, to not worry about it because he loves me. It’s been about 2 or 3 weeks since she sent that e-mail, but I’m not sure if I should even bother responding. She’s the same age as me, but she has never been in a relationship, so I don’t think she is in any position to give us advice.
What would you do? Send an e-mail back? Ignore?