Post # 1
I’m torn. My original thought was to send photo thank you cards with a hand written message inside to my guests. Now, I have second thoughts. This is why: I don’t live with my husband. We live in different states. My husband wants to personalize the typed messages in Paper Culture website together. No generic message sent to all guests. We definitely don’t agree with that. For each guest, there would a customized paragraph of thanks. Even though my husband and I are apart, we could read each other’s messages on the website to ensure we both agree with the content for each guest/family and also do spell/grammar check, too. If one of us was solely responsible for writing, we would miss out on creating these meaningful messages TOGETHER. Doing the notes together is the main concern, and we are trying to send these out within a timely manner.
Bees, if you received a personalized typed thank you note, would you feel it was rude? I would like to hear your perspective of my situation.
Post # 3
I had the same situation – don’t yet live with Darling Husband – and I just wrote the cards. In my opinion, writing them together is a nice idea if your in the same place but just too logistically difficult if not.
An alternative you could consider is dividing up the list and having him write half the cards and you write the other half. I understnad this is common.
Post # 4
I think it’s fine, but I wouldn’t care if I received a typed thank you note anyways. I don’t know why etiquette is against technology, haha. I think in this case it’d be more personal to have something composed by the couple rather than hand written by only half of the couple.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t give a crap if I got a typed thank you – technology is here to make life easier!
Post # 6
@jetsetlilypad: I was going to say that I couldn’t care less if a card is typed or not, but then I don’t care if I even get a thank you card, I’d sooner take a call or a text to tell me they like the gift. So maybe I’m not the one you want to go off, because I guess I’m rude on my own behalf 😉
Post # 7
Why not just write the messages together in a shared word processing document and then halve the list and hand write them. That way they are handwritten and you both have had input into the individual messages to your guests.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your input. I shared the poll results and your thoughts with the hubby.
@j_jaye: Thank you for your idea. We decided to do this. I will be hand writing them all by myself though.
@cbgg: Yeah, it’s logistically difficult and we argued the pros and cons of our options. Like you, I will be writing them all.
Post # 10
I am having a pre-typed message which is about 3 sentences. I am going to write another 2-3 sentences by hand to make it a little more personalized.
My husband will only be signing his name.