Personalizing Groom's Attire

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

What’s he into? I’ve seen some fun themed boutonnière s & socks, for example comic themed. I’m sure you can come up with something based on his interests.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He could wear a tux with a great colored , particularly patterned- striped or paisley tie- instead of the usual black tie.

I agree with him about the colored vest. Don’t go there.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sawdustanddiamonds:  Can you post a picture of him in the tailcoat, with what he normally wears with it?  Also, what time of day is your wedding?

 @julies1949:  That would make it much less formal, and take items from two different levels of formality and/or different types of formalwear, making him look like the help.

Definitely agreed that coloured vests are for boys who don’t know what they’re doing, not men who are experienced wearing formalwear.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Duncan:  He would definitely not look like the help.

Are you saying that this groom would be the first in history to wear a colored or patterned tie with a tux? I am sure you are not, as it is common practice these days for weddings. 

Time to step into the 21st century Duncan before you find out it’s left you behind.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@julies1949:  I’m saying that all of the ones who do, look like the help, or a prom date.  And they are, unarguably, less formal, since formal means dressing to a specific form, i.e. following a dress code.  The 21st century has actually seen a great resurgence of classic styling, and a return to tradition, in the realm of men’s formalwear.  It’s the latter third of the 20th Century that saw such experimentation, and almost all of it has been abandoned.

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

…so I’m hardly at the height of mens fashion (or any fashion), but I’m going to go out on a limb and say I see no reason why he needs to match you in formality.

We are getting married at the beach and I’m wearing a full dress….and he’ll be in linen pants and some kind of linen shirt.

With these outdoor venues, I truly do not think anyone expects him to be in full-tuxedo glory while everyone else is semi-formal at best.

Is he a bow tie and suspenders kind of guy? Maybe choose some color?

I mean…..yum.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Duncan:  A colored tie would make him look like the help? WTF? “the help”? My god. I can’t even. I’ve never seen “the help” wear a tuxedo and brightly colored tie, but I’m obviously not high class enough to have or go anywhere that has “the help.”

I agree with a fun tie and maybe some fun socks. We’re doing charcoal vests/pants with white shirts, and FI is wearing a pink striped tie, and the boys are wearing black ties with white pindots. Granted, we’re going fairly casual, but boring basic black ties with a black tux or white tie with a tux looks really…dated.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@vorpalette:  @badabing88:  Something more casual is fine, if it’s what the groom wants, except OP specifically said that the groom wants to match her in formality, and that she is wearing a floor length ball gown.  Both the coloured tie option, and, of course, the jaunty suspenders look (which I would totally wear any day of the week) are not formal.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hmm – interesting dilemma!

Unforuntately, unless your man wants to go GQ stylish (which I’m VERY pro!), there really aren’t that many options for guys. The way I see it, if he does want to wear a tux versus a suit (thus something he owns versus buying something new), some ways to switch it up:

– new shirt – pointed color, traditional, patterned, not (although I don’t think you could get away with, say, a gingham shirt under a tux. Maybe a subtle tone-on-tone white stripe, though), french versus traditional cuff

– cuff links! They’re man jewelry!

– Vest vs. cummberbund versus suspenders – all sorts of optoins there!

– Bow tie versus straight tie

– tie bar

– subtle pattern in the tie. I agree – I’m not a fan of colored vests for dudes at weddings, it looks cheap and prom-ish to me, unless it’s a white or black vest. BUT, I’ve found some great black and white striped ties online

– fun socks

– new shoes?

– textures. I DIE over a black velvet bow tie!

– would he consider one new piece? A navy or white coat, for example? I LOVE men in navy coats, black pants, and black accessories.

and, hey, while buying a new suit may seem like a waste, there’s always an opportunity to wear it again (funerals, weddings, interviews, meetings).

For us, we’re having an afternoon ceremony in a historic greenhouse with a chic evening reception. I’m wearing a organza ballgown. FI and the men are either going to wear a black suit or tux, white shirts, and a black and white tie (heavy on the black).

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sawdustanddiamonds: Oh – another quick Q – when he sings, do they normally specify all of the details of the jacket (i.e. go to this guy’s store and tell him you want the choir jacket; we’ve set it all up), or is it simply “white tie” or “black tie” dress code?

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@vorpalette:  THANK you…did you see Lawless? If not, go ahead and Google scenes from it, I know you’re slow at work and can thank me later. I looked over at BF at least 8 times during that movie and said “if it looks like I’m staring at these actors like pieces of meat, it’s because I am…I’m going to need you to go buy suspenders, sooner rather than later.”

@Duncan:  I hope he opts for a less formal look, as I think it gives a lot more options as far as creativity go.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@badabing88:  There’s a lot more room for creativity within formalwear; informal allow for more colours, and, well, varying levels of formality (jacket, no jacket, different patterns etc) but it actually can be a lot of fun exploring your creative options within a rigid dress code.  It’s the same as the challenge of writing a sonnet, or another strictly structured poem; it arguably requires more creativity.

But,, yes, there are, of course, more options when there are no rules.

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