Pet death; how long did you wait?

posted 1 month ago in Family
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Oh gosh, this is so so hard- I’m so sorry for your loss! I adopted my girl my first year of law school- my first time living alone- and she got me through it ALL- school, finals, the bar exam. My sweet partner for so many years. Right when I started dating my now fiance she fell very ill, and I eventually discovered she had terminal cancer after many vet trips and tests. My fiance was with me when I put her down, and truly, that was the night I knew I would marry him. We brought our new pup home the morning after we got engaged (pup was planned months in advance), but I don’t think I would have been ready before that point.

After dealing with a terminally ill dog, who I pulled out ALL the stops (and money) for I was exhausted. I missed her to pieces, but she had been so so sick and I had been so so scared, that I needed a breather. We volunteered with a rescue organization for several months, started to research breeders (she had been a rescue with too many health problems to count), and very much eased back in.

With littles ones, I might wait until they were big enough to respect the puppy. Try to appreciate the break from planning your schedule around potty trips for the dog, having to find a pet-sitter etc. Perhaps considering fostering a dog to see how you and your kiddos respond?

Post # 17
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Helper bee

I think you just know when you’re ready,  don’t force it.   Before my dog of 18 years passed away I kept saying that I wouldn’t get another one for awhile.   I honestly expected to not get another dog for years.   He passed away in May of 2010, and by October of the same year I had a new dog.   I just couldn’t live without one any longer.   I was surprised at how quickly I wanted a new one.   A few months ago I came across old pictures of him and cried.  I still get sad thinking about him,  but I’m also so grateful for the dog I got after him.   I’m sorry you loss your pup,  and even though you may still get sad thinking about her it’ll get easier with time. 

Btw,  I totally understand that looking for them even though they aren’t there thing.   About a month ago we implemented a no dog on the bed rule,  and I still think I see my dog on there from time to time.   It’s usually just the blankets bunched up,  but it tricks me every time. 

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I am sorry for your loss, I know this feeling keenly. 

In October 2016, our family Beagle of 16 years passed away. My Mother of course was very depressed and by Christmas cried daily. She adopted a 9 month old Beagle in February and it has immensely helped her mourn for Mickey. The adopted Beagle is by no means a ‘replacement’ but just as loved, my Mom is now much happier knowing she has Lillian to come home to.

I suposse this is one of times that depend on the temperment and circumstances of the person/family left behind. …And by all means take the time to mourn and/or live without a pet, when (if) you are ready consider adoption.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

MrsCoest3 :  I understand how you feel. We had to say goodbye to my beloved 13-year old German Shepherd two weeks ago, and right now I can’t even imagine getting another dog. I LOVE dogs, but the idea I could just go out and get another one to replace her just seems so…wrong. Take your time – as much as you need – to grieve, bee. Dogs aren’t just pets, they’re family members, and you lost a family member. Getting a new one isn’t going to fix that. Focus on your kids, and when you’re ready for another dog, you’ll know.

Post # 20
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1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

bb1721 :  Oh!! So cute!! I hope she’s happy now. 🙂 

Post # 21
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

when my husband’s dog was near the end of her life.  he rescued another so the first would have a companion towards the end of her life and make the transition easier.  now that dog is getting up there.  we have a 1 year old and pregnant with #2.  if this dog passes, we will probably wait a few years until we move to a new house with a fenced in yard before getting another dog.

 

sorry for your loss.

 

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