Pet peeve about thank you note…..

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9938 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

i’m with you.  My mom made me hand write thank you notes every birthday and christmas.  

My 6 year old half-brother has been signing his name to his thank you notes since he learned how to write his name.  He now writes (most of) the notes himself (his mom lets him off the hook when he starts to get cranky – but he still signs them all).  He even signs their Christmas cards

Post # 4
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yep, my mom made me write thank you notes, too. Also, I have never received something like that instead of a thank you note from a kid. I have tons of friends with kids and am always at b-day parties. Sometimes I can barely read what it says, but I know they wrote it!

Post # 5
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We definitely had to write our own thank you notes, even when we were little!

Unless he has a reading/writing impairment, he should have at LEAST signed his own name!

Post # 7
1443 posts
Bumble bee

At least you got some kind of TY note… DH and I went out of our way to buy souvenir gifts for one of our friend’s two girls AND his wife, and got NO thank you of any kind.  Not even a phone call or a text message.  I was pretty pissed off.  (We didn’t give them to the girls ourselves… DH just gave them to the husband.)

My parents usually got me to call anyone who gave gifts.  A couple times I did TY notes, and I most def had to write them out (when it was legible). 

Post # 8
417 posts
Helper bee

@speechgal44:  Understandable pet peeve.  I make  my 2 (soon to be) step-sons send out and sign any thank you cards… Christmas, Birthday etc.  The boys are 9 and 11 now, and have been doing so for about 3 or 4 years.



@CherryWaves:  My new SIL just got married to my brother and as a surprise my mom gave them her wedding ring (approx. value of $3000.00) more then the cost of their house (they live in a trailer they bought for $500) and of course NO thank you card.  When SIL had her son, my only nephew I threw her a baby shower.  I printed out the thank you cards, had them PRE STAMPED and she NEVER sent them out!!!  

Some people just have NO clue nowadays.  

Post # 10
4145 posts
Honey bee

This would annoy me too. I was brought up to hand write notes and I always write them the day after the event. Yes. I will write my Christmas thank you cards on boxing day. My Aunty always texts me thanks and I text her thanks but always follow it up with a hand written note. The only person I don’t hand write a note to is my Gran who is practically blind, so I type it so I can print it in a massive font so she can read it. My kids will be brought up to hand write notes, promptly and without drama. You get a gift, you thank the person in the most respectful way possible. At the very least your nephew should have signed it.

Post # 11
412 posts
Helper bee

I have seriously bad dyslexia, and I always wrote thank you letters. They took me days, and probably made no sense and the recievers probably couldn’t read them, but I wrote them!

I don’t think a typed letter seems like it comes from the child, which is my issue, even if it’s dictated it’s much nicer than a typed letter.

Post # 12
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@speechgal44:  at least you got a thank you note. my cousin who graduated college and we gave him a gift has not sent a thank you note. Or even texted me thank you. Makes me not want to get people gifts when they can’t be appreciative. 

Post # 13
3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’ve never been raised to think that a pre-printed thank-you was appropriate or acceptable.

I used to show pigs at the county fair, and I could usually get between 10-20 buyers/donation givers & I wrote them all a nice thank you note personally & it wasn’t just 1 line, either. It was about a short paragraph of thanking lol. Other kids who made WAY more at fair because of their parents reputation in the farming community would send out pre-printed thank you notes to probably 40 people. How generic & unthoughtful..  

Post # 14
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@speechgal44:  Sorry if I missed it but how old is the boy?

Post # 16
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My best friends baby just had her first bday and she had the baby do finger painting on paper and my friend wrote the words to the thank you card. It was so inexpensive yet simple and nice bc the baby was involved in it. Computer generated notes are lame!

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