Post # 1
I know this is a minor thing, but it just rubs me the wrong way. My nephew made his first communion about 6 weeks ago. I went down the night before to help set up for the party and spent the day of the celebration running errands for my sister. Many of the other guests came from all the way across the country for 1 or 2 nights just to be there and I’m sure it wasn’t easy or cheap for them to get there. Today the thank you note comes…a computer generated thank you note that the child didn’t even sign himself. I’m sorry, but what is that teaching him? My sister can’t even be bothered to have him sign his name to a pre-printed thank you note and show a little gratitude for the people who went to so much effort to be there? Am I being a witch or is this just the way things are done now? My mother never would have allowed that when I was younger.
Post # 3
i’m with you. My mom made me hand write thank you notes every birthday and christmas.
My 6 year old half-brother has been signing his name to his thank you notes since he learned how to write his name. He now writes (most of) the notes himself (his mom lets him off the hook when he starts to get cranky – but he still signs them all). He even signs their Christmas cards
Post # 4
Yep, my mom made me write thank you notes, too. Also, I have never received something like that instead of a thank you note from a kid. I have tons of friends with kids and am always at b-day parties. Sometimes I can barely read what it says, but I know they wrote it!
Post # 5
We definitely had to write our own thank you notes, even when we were little!
Unless he has a reading/writing impairment, he should have at LEAST signed his own name!
Post # 6
@BrandNewBride: That’s the thing. I’m not even really opposed to the computer generated thank you note…I know my sister is really busy, but she can’t have him spend a few minutes to have him sign his own name?
Post # 7
At least you got some kind of TY note… DH and I went out of our way to buy souvenir gifts for one of our friend’s two girls AND his wife, and got NO thank you of any kind. Not even a phone call or a text message. I was pretty pissed off. (We didn’t give them to the girls ourselves… DH just gave them to the husband.)
My parents usually got me to call anyone who gave gifts. A couple times I did TY notes, and I most def had to write them out (when it was legible).
Post # 8
@speechgal44: Understandable pet peeve. I make my 2 (soon to be) step-sons send out and sign any thank you cards… Christmas, Birthday etc. The boys are 9 and 11 now, and have been doing so for about 3 or 4 years.
@CherryWaves: My new SIL just got married to my brother and as a surprise my mom gave them her wedding ring (approx. value of $3000.00) more then the cost of their house (they live in a trailer they bought for $500) and of course NO thank you card. When SIL had her son, my only nephew I threw her a baby shower. I printed out the thank you cards, had them PRE STAMPED and she NEVER sent them out!!!
Some people just have NO clue nowadays.
Post # 9
I sent a wedding gift on behalf of my sister and I to my nephew a few years ago. I had it shipped from BBB. Neither one of us ever received a thank you note and I was worried it hadn’t gotten there, so my sister asked about it. Apparently they got it, but my nephew must have been responsible for his side of the thank you notes and never did them. The funny thing was that his wife had left him in charge of sneding invitations to his side of the family and he never did that either!!! No one in our family got invited to the wedding and the bride was calling us all at the last minute to find out if we were coming! I don’t think anyone did go because we all live so far away.
Post # 10
This would annoy me too. I was brought up to hand write notes and I always write them the day after the event. Yes. I will write my Christmas thank you cards on boxing day. My Aunty always texts me thanks and I text her thanks but always follow it up with a hand written note. The only person I don’t hand write a note to is my Gran who is practically blind, so I type it so I can print it in a massive font so she can read it. My kids will be brought up to hand write notes, promptly and without drama. You get a gift, you thank the person in the most respectful way possible. At the very least your nephew should have signed it.
Post # 11
I have seriously bad dyslexia, and I always wrote thank you letters. They took me days, and probably made no sense and the recievers probably couldn’t read them, but I wrote them!
I don’t think a typed letter seems like it comes from the child, which is my issue, even if it’s dictated it’s much nicer than a typed letter.
Post # 12
@speechgal44: at least you got a thank you note. my cousin who graduated college and we gave him a gift has not sent a thank you note. Or even texted me thank you. Makes me not want to get people gifts when they can’t be appreciative.
Post # 13
I’ve never been raised to think that a pre-printed thank-you was appropriate or acceptable.
I used to show pigs at the county fair, and I could usually get between 10-20 buyers/donation givers & I wrote them all a nice thank you note personally & it wasn’t just 1 line, either. It was about a short paragraph of thanking lol. Other kids who made WAY more at fair because of their parents reputation in the farming community would send out pre-printed thank you notes to probably 40 people. How generic & unthoughtful..
Post # 14
@speechgal44: Sorry if I missed it but how old is the boy?
Post # 15
@SmthngBlu8: If it was his First Communion, he’s probably about a second grader.
Post # 16
My best friends baby just had her first bday and she had the baby do finger painting on paper and my friend wrote the words to the thank you card. It was so inexpensive yet simple and nice bc the baby was involved in it. Computer generated notes are lame!