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Annoying huh. I remember being 3-4 years old and just about bursting with happiness when I watched someone else open a gift, but I knew, like all my friends knew, that it was theirs and not mine to open. Such a simple thing to learn. Careful she doesn't stick her finger in the cake on the wedding day!
Not to ruffle feathers, but she's just a little kid who is having fun and overwhelmed at all the presents! Whenever my cousins and I were little, we would always help each other open presents. I honestly don't see what the big deal is, and I actually think its pretty common for adults to let kids help open presents since the actual act of opening the presents is a much bigger deal to a 3 year old than it is to an adult. In my opinion, if you had a problem with it, you should have said something to your aunt. If i was the kid's mother, I never would have assumed it would bother someone to let the kid help open presents. I think you need to relax about it just a little and remember that this is a 2 year old who does not know any better.
It doesn't bother me as long as the child is well behaved and it's obvious the parent is keeping an eye on them. A 2 year old is just excited and overwhelmed by everything that's going on, and really wants to be involved (and you asked her to be your flower girl, so you must want her to be involved too). The way you describe it wouldn't bother me...she wasn't breaking things or making it difficult for you by being obnoxious...but then I wasn't there! Most people would find it pretty cute I'd imagine, but maybe there's some details I'm missing.
I'm not sure if that would bother me- but I can see how it is annoying. I hate when adults don't control their children in general. See, I would never let my kid impose on someone elses moment regardless of how cute I thought it was.
At a graduation party a few years ago my parents held for my brother a cousin kept allowing her sons to bother the bar tender ordering frozen drinks. They would order one, take a sip, leave it (or dump it out) and order another one. This went on until we were out of mix. I mean.. why? And then when one of the kids crapped his pants she handed his short to my mom to wash while she was hosting this event.
I was not blaming the child. I was blaming my Aunt for letting her get carried away. She is 2 months from 3 years. Very smart. But even if anyone would say dont pick it up it can break or whatever she wouldn't listen and just keep doing it.Some things i didn't even get to open lol. My aunt is her guardian. Eaither way i understand her excitment and thats fine. I just think it could have been handled better.Also i may see it different since i was rasied to know not too. But i see most people can see my point of view.
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yeah I don't like that either! Maybe you could have asked your bm's to distract her or play with her for a bit?
My pet peeve happened at my friend's Bridal Shower.....
My job was to create the "bow bouquet", another BM was taking pictures, another one was writing down the gifts, and another was putting the gifts off to the side and organizing them for later.
The bride's aunt sat up at the front w/ the MOH and the bride. The aunt started OPENING the gifts as she was grabbing them, then the MOH was finishing up w/ the wrapping job and by the time the Bride got the gift.....it was 95% OPEN!!! WTF?!?! Whats the point?!?
When my Bridal Shower rolled around I told my girls to only hand me the gifts and I would open them....sure it took a little longer but its my gift and I wanted the excitment of seeing the gift first!!
My 3 year old cousin helped us open every single gift at our opening. Thing is, when she helps you, she screams if you try to touch the gift yourself, so with limited three year old dexterity it took a long time to watch her open all our gifts.
UGH, so annoying. I wouldn't be caught dead allowing my children to randomly rip open other people's gifts. To me, that breeds much deeper habits and issues.
On a similar note, I was at a wedding last week and one of the guests allowed her 3 year old son (who was uninvited in the first place) wander up to the altar and tug on the groom's pants and scream during the ceremony. His parents just giggled. When the bride & groom signed the registry he finally took off back to his parents.
SO INAPPROPRIATE.
I HATE that! Honestly if you bring children make sure they behave! They are not the ones getting the gifts so they should not be opening them.
My shower I actully had very helpful little kids one would bring me the gifts and the other one took the opened gift from me! It was great :)
That might annoy me too. I haven't had it happen but I can see why it would bother you. Afterall, its your event. So as cute as I'm sure she was, that's not why people were there. I have a high tolerance for all things relating to kids so I would of probably just shrugged it off and thought about it later. My nephew was the ring bearer and he's cute... but he's always ALWAYS getting in the way of photos. He's only 1.5 so its not his fault. But all of my shower photos show him wandering around because his father came in to get food and left him unsupervised while he did so (nice). And all throughout our ceremony he was wandering around the altar, which was captured on video and in photos. He was also on the dance floor during our first dance. I've never said a thing to even my husband about it but what the crap?
Oh yikes that would have driven me CRAZY. I'm not a kid person and my family knows it so hopefully no one would let that occur around me! lol. Kids are not invited to my bridal shower (thank God), but at my FSIL's shower a few months ago that my mom threw, she set up a table specifically for kids and got them a bunch of games and crowns to decorate etc to keep them out of everyone's hair.
yes! annoying! can't believe the guardian didn't stop her...sure it's cure when they get excited about presents, but then you explain to them that this is your party, not theirs, and that they can't open the gifts! sheesh!
I love my nieces and nephews to death and they all walked down the aisle on my wedding day, but I was really glad my showers were at least adults-only. Nowadays kids are so entitled and parents so desparately just want a break so if they are preoccupied with something, even if it's annoying others, most parents just dont' care and let it happen.
I am not a kid person either. I don't mind children when it is their event (like a birthday party, easter, etc). I do mind when intrusive behavior goes on without being reprimanded.
Ugh that drives me nuts too! And you know the person opening the gifts would feel bad to say anything so the parent/guardian should keep them under control. My BM's son is terrible about getting in the way. Any time you're eating something he is right there in your face trying to take YOUR food off YOUR plate and I don't understand why my friend let's him get away with that time after time. This weekend we ran into a cousin of mine at a festival and he was eating some fruit. I was with my friend and her kids. The kid started taking some fruit out of the container my cousin was holding and eating out of! And this was the first time my friend even met this cousin. Great first impression. Sigh. I totally don't blame you for being annoyed, especially at your own shower.
I wouldn't care if it was like one or two presents they helped open or something, but all of them would get kinda annoying. What is the kid going to do when she's at someone else's birthday party? She can't open that kid's gifts. I think the parent could have let her have a little fun with the gifts, but not let her have free range for the entire gift opening part.
My shower is this weekend and my FMIL has already told me and my mother that her granddaughters will try to open all of my gifts. She based this off of how they acted at my FSIL's shower. Neither my mother or I had the heart to tell her what he wanted - "If it's an issue, don't bring them". My mom put together activity bags for the girls to hopefully distract them enough.
I enjoy spending time with the girls but I've been to showers where this really slows things down and is disruptive to the other guests. It takes the attention off of the gifts that each guest thoughtfully purchased for the bride.
@moderndaisy: i think you're right. i get the same feeling all the time. i feel like i always see parents who are just so exhausted/overwhelmed/whatever that they pass off bad behavior as "cute" or "kids being kids" so they don't have to get off their butts and discipline them. does not help my feelings about kids in general, or wanting to have them. I feel like i'd be seen as the strictest mom ever or something bc i wanted my kids to have manners.
My mom bought coloring placemats and crayons for the little ones! When I opened my second gift, it was wrapped in a TON of bubblewrap - that was also a huge hit (they took it to the back of the room and sat there for an hour)
meh...if i was the parent and you didnt say anything to make me believe you didnt want her helping i never would have stopped her. i dont think ive ever opened a present with a little kid around and not let them help. if you arent happy with a childs behavior you cant expect the guardian to be psychic...even telling the girl to go sit with her mommy then giving your aunt a knowing glance probably would have ended it. essentiall you cant blame parents for not being psychic.
it annoys the hell out of me too so i pray my only friend with a kid *not a baby that is* doesn't bring her...
recently at a friend's baby shower *of course lots of kids there* there was about 4 of them "helping" to open gifts they helped so much that they threw away the directions that came with my gift (it was a diaper bag that clips to the stroller i bought it off etsy) so i had to run over dig the instructions out of the trash...it's huge pet peeve of mine
kids need to learn to behave i know they're excited but goodness they could drop a huge box and hurt themselves or get into a fight with another child about opening gifts *saw that happen once* parents please leave any little little children at home...
I asked my 4 year old flower girl/hubby's niece to help me open gifts. She volunteered to help during our engagement party and wanted to do it again. I feel like it gets a lot of the attention off me b/c everyone is looking at the cute little girl, and that's what I wanted. Plus, it made her feel extremely special to have a role. She took her job as flower girl seriously!
But I do get how it would be annoying if you barely know the kid and don't want any help from them.
SO annoying. My biggest pet peeve, party related, is people who do not RSVP. I cannot STAND that. It's really so hard to make a call? I don't think so.
You're totally right to be annoyed at her parents (but when you say you're shocked at how kids are these days, you do need to recognize that a child of 2-3 does not recognize other people have needs and wants at all--she seems to be acting pretty age-appropriate given the situation).
If it were me, I'd probably distract her somehow and then pointedly say, "Hey, go show that to your mommy!" or say, "Hey, come sit over here and help me with this one". But I'm like that.
But yeah--your aunt should not have let her do that. And she does have to learn that not all gifts are for her!
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So my bridal shower was today. It was fab, more then i thought people really would put into it. Though some did not show which i knew was going to happen however i got a ton of stuff and i saw people i haven't seen in forever!!
1 thing that drives me up the wall and more is when...
Not only today but at other partys ive noticed whenever someone opens presents and kids are around theres always that one kid who opens it for you. I could tell everyone was getting annoyed.My flower girl who ive only seen 2 or 3 times since shes been born... shes is 2 and turns 3 on my wedding day...
1. she was standing right in front of me and the gift so noone could see.
2. she was trying to lift heavy boxes
3. she was ripping the bows off when we were trying to save them
I know she didn't mean anything but i kinda blame her guardians on that.
It bugs me cuz my aunt didnt care. She let it happen. I am too nice/ shy of a person to be like hey get your kid and tell them to relax. I dunno I just know when i was little at a party you just sat and watched. I never did that.
Im just shocked how kids are now a days. (Previous partys ive been to ive seen it happen many times.)
Anyone else hate that?