Post # 1
i am a newlywed with no plans to have a baby anytime soon. I am 26 and don’t plan on having a baby til around 30. BUT, at work all my fellow nurses have been encouraging me to not wait quite that long. i have heard that since I am so petite (5’2, 100lbs) that losing the baby weight once you hit your 30’s will only be that much harder for me. That being petite my body will be “ruined” even more and at 30 I won’t bounce back. I feel like they are acting like 30 is 60 years old. I want to enjoy married life, travel, save money, and possibly becoe a nurse practitioner. I am in no hurry but I don’t want to be short, fat, and stretchmarked forever just because I decided to wait a couple years.
Thoughts, opinions, experiences?
Also, is the old wives tale true in that if your mother did not have stretch marks, you probably will not either? I am a nurse, but know nothing about pregos and babies.
Post # 3
@Willow1991: if your not ready to have a baby yet, you’re right not to. When you get the urge, trust me, nothing will stop you wanting to procreate with your husband (even the thought of being stretch marked and fat for ever)….
My mom never got stretch marks and ill be able to let you know in 7 months if its genetic 😉
congratulations on being married!!!
Post # 4
My mom didn’t have stretch marks with either pregnancy but I got stretch marks. Every pregnancy and everyone is different, so a)they should mind their business b)don’t let this influence when you decide to have a baby.
Post # 5
My mom was 5’2″ and less than 100lbs, she went right back to it after she had me. All the women in my family are quite petite and they’ve all got great bodies!!
I’m not worried about losing the fat… I’ more worried about the condition of my vag. LOL I know I’ll get over it.
Post # 6
@Sea_bass: Thank you! i live in the south and am originally from New England. i fell like people pop out babies and get married so much younger down here. I feel the pressure from people but i KNOW I am not ready yet!
@.twist.: I am worried about that too! I hear some women say that it went back to normal after and others say it will never be the same! GAH.
Post # 7
Everyone is different.
I’m 29 and just had my first baby. I was at my pre-pregnancy weight within 2 weeks. (I’m 5’8″, 115 pounds.) It just depends on your body and genetics; my sister was the same way, she had her kids when she was 21 & 23.
Have a baby when you are ready.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Wait until you’re ready. If you’re healthy when you get pregnant and you don’t gain too much, you can get back into shape after having the baby, it will just take a little more work (look at the 40+ stars having babies and then hiring trainers.) It’s not fair to you or your potential child to have a baby when you’re not ready to totally commit yourself to a child. I am turning 29 in a month and even though my biological clock is blaring I know that I am not quite ready to give up the things you need to in order to be a good mom.
Post # 9
Wait until you’re ready and don’t listen to this nonsense.
I work with pregnant/postpartum women every day. “Bouncing back” is the combination of genetics, luck, effort and how much you gain during the pregnancy. Really, the difference from 26 to 30 won’t really play a role.
And stretch marks can be genetic but also a bit random. My mom had 2 babies and doesn’t have a single stretch mark….and I got stretch marks in my teens as I grew hips and breasts (and I was only 100 pounds so it wasn’t being overweight). Lucky me LOL.
Post # 10
I’m 5′ and was about 84-86 lbs before I got pregnant at 34 years old. I gained total of 26-28 lbs during pregnancy. I gave birth to a 7 lbs 9 oz healthy baby boy naturally. I have no stretch mark from the pregnancy. I remember that when a nurse came check on me, she was very surprised that I had no stretch mark at all and she asked what kind of cream I used. I lost my baby weight within the first 6 weeks after giving birth (but my tummy still very soft and hanging). If I remember correctly, by 3 months I came back to normal shape. I didn’t excercise or on a diet or anything. I did brestfeed my baby though. Now I’m 88 lbs. My body is a bit bigger than before but I still size 0. My feet are half size bigger than before (from size 5 to 5.5) which is a good thing because it’s easier for me to buy shoes :-).
So don’t be afraid to wait until 30 to have a baby. Everybody’s body is different. Just enjoy your newlywed time and have a baby when you two are ready 🙂
Post # 11
That’s ridiculous, it’s not like when you hit 30 your metabolism slows down. It slowly slows from 25 to 30 to 35 to 40, etc. My mom is 5’1″ 100lbs, gained 17 pounds with each of her pregnancies at ages 33, 38, and 42. She’s still that size at age 60 and never had any problem losing weight. If you’re someone who struggles with their weight already, then you will probably struggle losing the baby weight no matter what age you get pregnant. If you eat healthy, exercise, are a healthy weight, and don’t use pregnancy as an excuse to “eat for two,” you shouldn’t have any problems.
Post # 12
I am 5’3″ and weighed 104 lbs pre-pregnancy. My mom was 5′ 90lbs before both of her pregnancies and did not have any stretch marks and went right back to her normal size after both pregnancies. I am now 23 weeks and I don’t know if I will have the same results as my mom or not and actually, I don’t care. Every woman and pregnancy is different. Have a baby when you are ready. Honestly, I don’t understand why so many women worry about stretch marks, vag and all that crap. What is going to happen is gping to happen and you can’t change it. All you can do is deal with it and be happy and enjoy your pregnancy.
Post # 13
I am 5′ 1″ and was 100 lbs when I got pregnant. I was 21 years old, I did lose all except 10 stubborn lb, so I was 110 lbs until I hit my 30’s and I started to climb… I am now 145 and I am okay with that.
I did not have stretch marks but my mom did. My Fiance has stretch marks because he was into weight lifting and now isn’t (his arms especially!)
Depends on the body’s elasticity!
Post # 14
Ack! That has me worried, lol. I’m 5′ and was ~122lbs before getting pregnant (currently 9 weeks) and before getting pregnant I was trying to get back down to ~ 110lbs or so but was hitting a wall in the weight loss. I have never been bigger than 125lbs, but I felt more comfortable 10-15lbs lighter and now that I am pregnant I’ve stopped trying to lose weight. I realllly hope that pregnancy doesn’t completely ruin my body, regardless of the age, haha.
But everyone’s body is different, so don’t assume your coworkers trying to scare you are going to be right. They are probably just telling you to have babies sooner to justify their own decisions they made, lol. I’m 24 and pregnant, but that doesn’t mean that everyone needs to get pregnant at this age if they aren’t ready for it or don’t want to! I’d say wait until you are ready, you don’t want to regret not doing all the things you want to do before baby.