(Closed) Pets?!?!

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Because it’s your husband’s brother, your husband (not you) should probably mention that he can’t have any dogs in the house because of his allergies.  The hard part is that it sounds like it may change the relationship with his brother – if they can’t bring the dog over, they won’t be able to stay the night unless they make other arrangements (which might be good or bad for you, depending on how much you like them…)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

For a lot of people, their dogs are a part of the family and they like to bring them with them when they go places.  Or perhaps, because they are staying overnight, maybe they want to not have to choose between kenneling the dog for the night and not staying overnight.  Whatever their reasoning, just be HONEST with them.  Your hubby needs to tell them, “We love (insert dog’s name here), but I have developed horrible allergies to dogs, so we need to keep our home dog-free.”

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

What @Miss Apricot: said.  😉  

I will take my dogs anywhere I can but I’m not offended in the least if they can’t come in, ESPECIALLY if it’s due to allergies.  That’s non-negotiable  My pups are super used to traveling and so if I can’t find someone to watch them at home they come with and just hang out in the car (weather permitting.)  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeh, if it is due to allergies, I think you’ve got a really strong case to just have him say, “Dude, I have allergies. He can’t come. Sorry.”

If you want to compromise, maybe let them bring a kennel and crate the dog in the garage. That way they don’t have to find a sitter or rush home, and you don’t have to have the dog on your carpets.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree, they should be understanding since it’s due to allergies!!  Could they possibly bring him if they keep him in the backyard or something while they’re there?

Post # 11
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2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

like PP said – be honest , let them know.. its not YOU .. its the allergies 🙂 

Post # 12
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2384 posts
Buzzing bee

DH’s family grew up this way as well. Growing up we were the only ones in our family with a dog so we never brought her for trips. 

Now that DH and I have a dog, we bring him when we go see his family. However, they all have dogs so our little guy is welcome. We would never bring him if our host was allergic/didn’t like dogs/etc. It’s common courtesy. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

He is such a people pleaser and hates to tell them no, esp because its his brother.

It really is best if he is the one that tells them, but if he can’t/won’t, then you need to do it.  If they are halfway decent people they will leave the dog at home and make other arrangements for his care for a night.  I would allow them to either keep the dog in the yard or garage, but I would just be worried that if your hubby is a softie, he might cave and let them bring him inside.  They only live an hour away, so it’s not like they NEED to spend the night.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SGagnon38: That’s crazy that they reacted so badly, it’s your house and your FH is allergic! Glad you worked it out though…. good luck with the Bridezilla, sure it will get worse as the wedding approaches, lol.

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