PhD & name changes

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

– Personally. I’d go by Dr. You certainly can use Mrs., but I’d feel like after all that work, I’d want to use Dr.

– You can in Canada use your husband’s name socially and your maiden name legally. I don’t think you can do it the other way around, but as long as it is not for fraudulent purposes, it’s okay.

It depends by province:

http://www.servicecanada.gc.ca/eng/lifeevents/marriage.shtml

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m working on my PhD and I pretty much plan to go by whatever people call me socially. Professionally, I will be Dr. no matter where I’m employed, but socially, many of my friends (or husbands friends… lets face it, many of my personal friends are other program grads) will not have PhDs and probably won’t follow that etiquette when addressing invitations or anything. It will make me super stoked when they do though! I will probably self-ID as Dr. when I book plane tickets or something 😉

I’d keep your maiden name on your degree – you worked for that degree under that name and it seems fitting to be awarded your diploma with it. I was married a few months after obtaining my bachelors and I kept the same last name (although I moved my maiden to my middle, so maybe I still feel more attachment than you will?).

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Is your FI a Dr. too or is your reception announcement going to be “Presenting for the first time, Mr. and Dr. XXXX?” If you’ve earned the degree use the title. Doesn’t matter what sex you are. 40% of the company I’m interning at has there PhD’s and introductions normally go like this “Hey have you met Dr. SoAndSo?”, “No I haven’t. Hi I’m XXXX.” “Nice to meet you. I’m William SoAndSo. Call me Bill.” And forever more he is Bill unless we are talking to people outside the company or referencing him in a report or memo. Of course the company president is always “Dr. A” and she seems to like it that way.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Personally, the only time I am regularly referred to as ‘Dr.’ is in the classroom, by students. I really don’t care what people call me outside of an academic context (and I know lots of male PhDs who are that way, too). The title really doesn’t come up that much in social situations — my FI and I are both PhDs so the more formal social situations we’re in tend to be with other PhDs and it just feels silly to go around a cocktail party referring to everyone as “Dr. SoandSo.”

The only advantage I can see to keeping your maiden name along with your degree title is if you’ve done significant publishing under your maiden name and want to be easily identified with previous work. But if you’re just starting a professional profile, might as well be known as Dr. Husbandslastname. And generally, I always refer to a woman I don’t know as Ms. SoandSo unless I know she calls herself “Mrs.” ahead of time. Just seems more neutral that way.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

First off, congratulations on your doctoral degree!

Like corasong, I only use “Dr.” in the classroom.  I was taught that a non-medical doctor only used “Dr.” as a professional title, but more modern guides appear to have relaxed that rule.  Most of my colleagues–not all, but most–who insist on being addressed as “Doctor” in social settings are either dreadfully insecure or comically self-absorbed.  However, if I was in a social situation where someone was addressing my male colleagues as “Doctor” (without being explicitly asked) and did not extend that courtesy to me, I would directly point out the inequity. 

(This does not stop most of my very proud relatives from addressing personal mail to “Dr. MTMW,” and that’s fine, but I never insist and personally prefer to use “Ms.” for things like my frequent flyer account.) 

I think that the name change matter is a highly personal matter.  I know some women who publish and register for conferences using FirstName MaidenName while using FirstName HusbandName socially.  I know other women who use the more old-fashioned (vis-a-vis hyphenation) construction of FirstName MaidenName HusbandName.  Like corasong said, if you’ve got a publication record, you will probably not want to ditch your maiden name entirely because you will need to make sure that you are connected to all of your work!

Just be sure that you never call yourself Dr. OKJC, Ph.D.  Titles are omitted if you are placing degree or professional designations after your name.

And once again, congrats!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Dr. You earned it, honey.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I have only ever met 1 PhD that actually want to be referred to as “Dr.”. Everyone else I know (HHMI investigators, Rhodes scholars, and National Academy members and all) all introduce themselves by their first name socially and professionally. However, you may want to think on a strategy for your publications (ie if having them all under the same last name is important to you or not)….haven’t figured out what I am going to do about that yet…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think I’m getting close to finally getting the PhD and am also getting married soon so I am in the same boat.  I am not changing my name legally because I don’t want to lose my publication record.  Socially, I don’t really know anyone who goes by Dr?  I address faculty by Dr when I first meet them, but then they usually insist I use their first name (although how often do you really call people by name when talking to them?). When I address my invitations to coworkers I will definitely use their titles as a sign of respect/formality but I don’t call them Dr on a day to day basis except to tease them when they screw something up or are being pretentious.  But when it comes to filling out forms, hell yea, I’ll put Dr. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I appreciate this thread because I am finishing up my doctorate and am wondering the same thing. I dont even know if I want to stay in academia. I doubt I will introduce myself as “Dr” and since I have publications I dont really want to change my legal name. I have been thinking about this a lot for about two years. I still dont know what to do. I like the idea of identifying as Mrs. Husband’slastname socially but keeping my maiden name legally but Im not sure how this will work in real life (for example when we are travelling together etc.). Very interested to hear the opinions of other phds.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m a vet, not changing my name.  If people outside of a clinic call me Dr mylastname, Dr hislastname, Ms mylastname, Mrs hislastname, I really don’t care.  FI is a vet too, so me being called Dr hislastname would be weird, because that is him!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh, I’m glad someone started this thread. I’m really concerned about what to do. I don’t have any publications yet, since I’ve just finished coursework.

I really think I do want to change my name, but I’m worried about the repercussions, and if I want to change my name, I sort of need to do it now. 

However, I am known somewhat by my maiden name. My adviser and I started a website of dissertation reviews, and my maiden name is under the bio. I’ve also written a couple of editorial blog posts for a pretty significant blog in my area of interest. It was several years ago, and in NO way counts as a publication, but I wonder if it could cause confusion?

I’m really afraid to ask about this, because my adviser is male, and all the females in my department that I know well are either unmarried or kept their maiden names. Any women decide to LEGALLY change their names mid-Ph.D.?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

honestly, I would never change my name in acedamia. As much as you never want to think about it, 50ish % of couples won’t make it. Do you really want to have to have people try to track you down and follow a name trail to read ur articles? Also do you want everyone reading your papers to know if you’ve gotten a divorce? 

I also like the annonimity of not giving people the ability to find me in my personal life.

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