Post # 1
So I hadn’t thought much about gifts for the parents for our wedding. Honestly they’ve helped us so much it seems almost silly to get them some “token” thing that wouldn’t be enough. They’ll all be getting heartfelt thank you notes.
I was also thinking about printing up a little “we owe you” certificate for a photo album with pictures of their choice in an album designed by me. I’m feeling iffy on it though. Like is that a totally narcissistic gift?
“thanks for the cash and support– here’s my face”
I’m feeling weird about it. I’m going to do it either way (make them albums)… maybe I should just stick to the note and not make the album like an iou “gift”?
Post # 3
I think just giving them a note and IOU is fine! THat’s what we did for our parents and we still havent gotten them the albums!
Post # 4
I know for a fact our parents would have LOVED photo albums as a gift. I’m a slacker, though, and never got around to making any. :/ If you do, though, I’m sure they’ll genuinely appreciate it.
Post # 5
Parents often are able to get the things that they need. They like your face. More pictures of your face = happier parents.
SO’s parents have everything they need. But if we made them a photo album, I honestly think they would really like that.
My mom is really into scanning things. So, if she got MORE pictures she could scan and put on Facebook, she would love it.
So more Corgi face! (Too weird?) Corgi face! Corgi face!
Post # 6
@In the media: lol loving the chant. and there will be actual, literal, corgi face! he’s in the wedding hehe.
Post # 7
I think albums are a great gift for parents.
Post # 8
Pictures of their kids are the best gift for parents. Trust me, they’ll enjoy looking at those more than any generic gift you can purchase. My mom says she looks at our wedding album whenever she’s sick or feeling down. She and our cleaning lady who’s been with us since I was a kid apparantly spend hours ooh-ing and aah-ing over the pics and sometimes crying (I live very far away from them), and she says all the guests who come to their house want to see it. My dad is the only one who has shown minimal interest in it but he’s very much a non-sentimental guy 😛 He does like the pics where someone points out he looks very young and handsome.
Post # 9
I’m saving the albums for Christmas presents for our parents. Since we’re getting married in May, I figure I’ll have plenty of time and no rush to put them together.
However, I think a heartfelt note in a picture frame, that you then replace with a picture would make a great gift. I did that for my college graduation. We’ll probably get both our parents nice frames, and then when we get our pictures back we’ll pic shots with us and them and print them out for the frame.
The IOU is fine too, but I just think a picture frame is a more immediate tangible gift. The album can come later (since it’ll probably take months).
Post # 10
I don’t thnk it’s narcissitic at all to give photos of yourself as gifts, as long as you have a touchy feely kind of family. My family ISN’T touchy feely at all, and instead of having the “if you are bad santa is going to give you a lump of coal” joke, we have a running joke about “if you irritate me, I’m gonna give you a big ole picture of myself for Christmas.” Clearly, I think most families are (luckily) not like mine!
I think albums as parent gifts are perfectly fine. Really.
But, on the other hand…..the months leading up to the wedding are all about you and your wedding. Your wedding day is all about you. It might be nice to just give your parents a gift (even if it is a small one) that is totally about THEM (maybe a romantic dinner together…something that gives them the chance to focus on something besides you and your wedding). Then, you could give them the album for a mother’s day/father’s day gift?
That’s just one other view. I’m not flaming the idea of the album. It’s a very common parent’s gift, and I know your parents will love it if that’s what you decide to do.
Post # 11
@nmsoonerbride: Oooh I love the idea of a dinner for them! My parents are paying for a major chunk of our wedding, so I wanted to do something above and beyond the basic “parent gifts.” I think FI and I will totally chip in and do this for them!
Post # 12
We are 4 months from the wedding and still haven’t gotten ours for our parents yet. 🙂 But they know it’s coming and they love what I’ve designed! We are waiting on some edits before I finalize them.
Post # 13
Parents LOVE photos of their kids!
We did a note with an IOU for a large canvas print of any wedding photo of their choosing for each of our parents. Both sets of parents loved it! DH’s parents chose a picture of just DH and I while my parents chose a family pictures of all of us at the church.