- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
So I’ve had this friend since college who is now a professional photographer. He/she is VERY good, especially considering this person is new to the whole thing full-time.
We’ve been close for about 5 years, and he/she’s come to visit me from a few hours away, stayed with me, etc.
Here’s the deal:
We have always had an agreement that this person would shoot my wedding, and I was always told I would get “a serious hook up, of course”. Let me say this first: photography is the MOST important thing to me about the whole wedding day, so although I’d love a great hookup, I’ve always just expected to pay a good chunk to whoever I hire. I wouldn’t ask this person to do it just because he/she is a friend. It’s because I really like their work.
So, I get engaged, and one of the first calls I make is to said photographer. All the sudden (and I should have seen it coming), I’m no longer a friend, I’m a client. I’m only getting 10% off for the “friends” discount, and no extras like copyrights or an engagement session.
You’re thinking “PFFT! Stop complaining, that’s not bad!” Well, hear me out, not only are all these requirements slammed on me right out of the gate, I haven’t even told this person my date yet, and they ALREADY want the MASSIVE retainer. Like, within two months…for a dateless wedding, that we both know is more than a year in the future. On top of that, I’m basically threatened, by this person saying “If you don’t by XX date, you’re not going to get my last year’s pricing.” (Which means that’s another grand, at least)
Initially, I’m thinking, “Oh well…I really want to use this person, and even though I’m not getting a hook up, the prices are right around what I was expecting to pay a stranger.”
Then, after a little more thinking, I get angry. WHY does he/she need the money RIGHT NOW? WHY is he/she threatening to jack up prices on me? WHY do I feel like I just got slapped in the face?
Talking to my family, my FI, and my friends, they were all “kick ’em to the curb,” so I started looking elsewhere. I’ve contacted maybe 5 other photographers, who have all been very similarly priced, with more extras, and smaller retainers, and got back to me within about a day. Meantime, I’m STILL waiting to get an email from the “friend”…since, you know, now I’m a CLIENT. It’s been almost a MONTH, and you can’t email a potential client? (Our other correspondence was via text)
Am I crazy, or is this really not cool?