- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Ok a few detals left out first time around- THIS IS JUST A RANT to get it off my chest cause I have been super quite about this and kept it between me and FI and of course Dear mother!
2nd. I asked if she was going to be taking pictures at wedidng then she offered to do engagments cause I told her we didn’t have money to do any and that we would be choosing photos from our christmas shoot the year before even though they didn’t have the ring.
She said she’d want us to pay gas if she met us half way but thats all she ever said about money
I guess the fact my STEP sister is paying 1400$ just on airfair to get to the wedding -and what this story tells.. .shows how different our familys are… and what I should be thankful that I learnd about his family ( that I am super already… estranged around).
So first FI’s ( full blood) sister Facebooks me that she wil do our E pictures
so we drive 1 hour to get to her house ( our car is on lease so putting miles on its a big deal )
Then she asks us to drive to the location 20 min away- fine-
then when we get there
she asks.. the question
“Can you pay anything for these?’
WTF-? Why didn’t you ask that before- no we really can’t. Our wdding budgets onl 2,500 ish and we spent the money on other places since for a month now we thought you would bewilling
( she is not a professional and has no formal experiance with engagments – or any pro photos)
Fi says maybe a little but we are super broke (hoping she’d just forrget about it)
So we take pictures…. she messes off half the time (upsetting since our time frame was small- She starts taking picutres of other people- she will not listen to me with what i want. and takes 1/2 pictures of just FI alone ( not that I don’t want pictures of him alone it was just a time thing since we’d already waitied to have time with her and our invites needed to go out soon!) Also pictures I was in I was either standing behind Fi- like way behind- or turning my face away ( wtf)
2 days later she uploades them on a slideshow on her blog- I ask her to put them on facebook ( she took 450 pictures and uploaded 10)
I liked some of them and loved a few.
so I ask her to put them on facebook and … well.. she flat out tells me – well here I will show you
Husband and I talked about and here’s what we think. For any joe walking off the street for a 2 hour session and outfit changes I’d charge $100 plus all the editing. As family, it would be $50 for the same. Now because I’m wanting to build a portfolio, if you aren’t comfortable paying that you guys can do the $20 and I will give you 2 of your favorites (after me finishing editing). Now for bridals and engagements, for a joe I would charge $200 for both and again family I’d like $100 for both If you can’t pay it all at once, I understand and you can pay the $100 in payments if that works for you and for each I’ll get you more pictures. Now don’t get me wrong I would still love to do sessions with you as they add to my portfolio and I love doing them. But I just can’t do it for free, so if you want to talk it over with FI feel free and let me know what you want to do.
she says this AFTER!
so to make the story really short- we had week of “fighting” telling her we’d give her this much for this many etc- we only even loved 14 of the pictures and can only use about 5 for the invites anyway
she won’t budge!
She wants 50$ or two for free( since we are letting her use them in her portfolio-) also FI told her she can’t do that unless she gives us some and she said she has the right to them not us- is that true- beacuse we didn’t sign ANYTHING that said she could use them. And I’m pretty sure we have some right in that- they pay models don’t they!???
my mom had to reduce our budget for a few reasons ( she is footing the wedidng bill) so we didn’t have even the 20$ we’d offered her for the 14 anymore
so I choose two that fit our invites best and asked her for them since I was already 2 weeks behind due to all the delays and I needed to get them ordered like NOW to have invites sent out.
Story on that is – we are ordering 4.6 off shutterfly and sending them with plain deorated one page invites- so that people will actually use( frame/scrapbook the photo instead of throw it away after or before! the wedding! Plus I had coupon! and when you are on a 2,000 budget you do what you can!
SO – now she is saying she can’t get them to me for another week.
if she doesn’t get them to me staruday( when she said she can. I’ll loose it.I’ve made FI do all the fighing this whole time so she doesn’t hate me- cause my IL kinda already have a thing against me based on the fact I was riased “ricther then them” FI comes from a family of 7 who got raised on a very small budget and I’m an only child raised on a teachers budget – thats not much but its more and they judge me for it I – HATE – it. Its more awkward then when I was dating rich guys and had to be … more around there family. its.. weird
Anyway is it wrong to not pay her/ be mad?
If she would have said something before I would have made agreements or went with someone else- I had a few other people willing to do them pretty cheap and I would have got ALOT more then 15 photos
Granted she said she’d do my bridals too- but I wasnt to thrilled with all her engagemnts what will make bridals different- plus my brother is already doing those for free so I don’t need them.
I mean 50$ is not alot I get that… and its not about the ammount to me.
its that my family ( hense my brother- who btw is my barley new stepbrother that I’ve only met twice) does stuff for family for free especailly in a case like this.
She said pay for engagments and get bridals as a wedding gift – wth can I not have the engagments as a wedding gift? they are ALOT more important to me then bridals…
I was not expecting professional- just … I don’t know.. decent behavior… not… greedy?
Sorry I keep going. I guess I’ve been trying to be nice that I’ve just held my tounge on this for so long and I just lost it anyway some feed back would be amazing