Post # 1
We’ve all heard and read about dress regret, but what about photographer regret? Of all of our vendors, we definitely spent the most time researching and scouring wedding blogs for the perfect photographer within out budget. I had a huge excel sheet of ~100 photographers, how we ranked them, their style and their price (crazy right?) Some of our dream photographers, such as Jose Villa (http://josevillablog.com/) were just way outside of our reach due to budgetary contraints. We eventually found a photographer that we’re pretty happy with (we’ll call her Photographer A). Her work is beautiful, her blog constantly showcases her amazing work, she is super duper sweet and we’re comfortable with her pricing. We put down a $1000 deposit a few months ago to reserve the date and our engagement session is scheduled for this weekend.
Just like wedding dresses, I couldn’t help but continue to look at blogs and photographers after we booked her. Our floral designer had recommended a particular photographer C after understanding the feel and theme of our wedding. At that time, I just dismissed it because C was way out of our planned budget. And now….I just can’t stop stalking her blog, her work and thinking about what if…..Photographer C is also $4000 more than A (which is 2x) but I can’t stop thinking and viewing all her amazing photos. There’s just something about her work that is ao alive, the photos seem as if they are in movement and her use of natural light is amazing. Don’t get me wrong, our current photographer A is amazing, but there’s just something missing when comparing her to C. After 8 months of planning, I feel like I’ve also really gotten the hang of it and understanding what I want and my vision. I was a lil bit all over the place in the early stages of planning.
I know it sounds crazy for even thinking about changing now and losing the $1000 deposit on top of going 2x of our budget, but I can’t shake her. I even contacted her to see if she’s still available for our date (just 5 weeks away) and she is. People have said that if you splurged on one thing, it should be on is the photographer/videographer since those are the only things that give you lasting memories of your wedding day. Has anyone gone through anything similar and actually switched photographers last minute? Am I just being crazy? Any advice, please!!
Post # 3
Can we see websites for the two photographers? I am SO curious who has been pulling at your heartstrings lately. If you don’t want to post them here, you can always PM me their websites and I can let you know from another photographer’s perspective if the new person (versus the old) is really worth the huge markup… of if you’re just smoking crack and overthinking things! 😛
Post # 4
@Burtongirl: Honestly, if you can afford to go over budget and switch photographers, I don’t see why you shouldn’t.
That probably sounds weird, “if you can afford to go over budget.” For me, I can’t afford to go over budget more than a few hundred dollars or $1k because FI and I are pretty broke as it is. Don’t ask me why we haven’t postponed the wedding until we can afford it and have some decent savings after we’re married. Long story.
But for other brides, a budget is how much they’d like to spend, rather than how much they can really and truly afford. If this is you, then go for it!
Post # 5
@fzesguer: Thanks for your response! You are very right about how budget is usually defined. However, even though we can afford it, we’re definitely not swimming in cash and this will put us back a few years. We’re paying for the wedding ourselves and it is very VERY out of my element to be spending like “this”. I’m a huge saver, long term planner and it’s been painful when I really sit and think about how much we’re spending on 1 day when this amount of money could be put to better use going towards a house or our unborn children’s college fund. 🙂 I’m a bit of a people pleaser too and would feel terrible for ditching my current photographer.
Post # 6
Since you described your photographer as amazing, I honestly don’t think throwing away $1,000 and switching to an even more expensive photographer is worth it.
Post # 7
Honestly, do your engagement session, see if a refund is available and just pay for that session plus disc of photos and then sign up with your dream photographer. I was very much like yourself, constantly looking for inspiration. I LOVED my current photographer when I signed her up but then I found this AH-MAZING photographer.
The main thing with me is that I had paid a deposit, i had gotten to know (met face to face and numerous email convos) my photographer and we both really liked her, plus we had no more room to wiggle with the budget. If I had the opportunity, I probably would have hired him, but when I look at my photos? I don’t regret hiring my photographer one bit.
Post # 8
@Burtongirl: I think you have to ask yourself if it’s genuinely worth it. Your photographs are going to be one of the more permanent things from your wedding, however, is that worth putting off buying a house? I personally would probably stick to the original photographer, but give her samples of the other photographers work so she has an idea of what you’re looking for. If you’re still disappointed after the E-session, then go back and re-evaluate. I originally told my husband (then BF) that I wanted a house before I wanted a wedding, and we are both so glad that we did it that way.
Post # 9
@Burtongirl: This is a hard thing to advise on without seeing their work. Some photographers would be totally worth it and others are overpriced and use romantic branding and editing to make their images stand out. Feel free to PM me the links without telling me which one is which and I can give you a professional opinion based on my experience as a full time wedding photographer and photo editor.
Post # 10
It’s not a hard thing to advise. You said you had a spreadsheet of 100 photographers and you vetted them like we do the president.
I think you will be just fine with the one you painstakingly chose, and you need to stop second-guessing it.
Post # 11
8k total (including the deposit you’d lose) on photography??
i can’t imagine, but if you’ve got the money i guess go for it
Post # 12
Btw, I ended up breaking up with my original photorapher and went with the photographer I really wanted. I just want to say that I’m SO glad I did. Yes she was very very pricey, but we had SO much fun at our wedding and we LOVE our photos SO MUCH. 4 months later and we’re still looking at them everyday and all those happy feelings come rushing back. I would ocassionally check out the first photographer’s blog and just like her style less and less. She was good in the sense that she has good eye, perspective and composition but she does a lot of post processing and the colors are so muted and not natural. Our pictures are amazing and I’m also thrilled to share that our wedding will be featured on Style Me Pretty early next year!