Post # 1
I have literally been following wedding blogs and photographers for years..It’s one of the most important things to me.
My man has this friend who is a photographer. He talked with him, and with me and tried to convince me they are good enough. Really we were going to get a great deal on the price. So I caved and said fine. I like them alright and they are decent. He already signed with them and paid the deposit
Well, I have NO peace and I am seriously in agony over the whole thing. It’s like my dream is slipping before my eyes. Well now I’m in quite the predicament. I either tell my fiance that I want to change and lose 500 bucks OR I live with letting my dream go and deal with it. Ahh I never thought it would be this stressful.
What should I do? We have no money anyways..and I’m trying not to be a drama queen. But it literally makes me feel sick.
Post # 3
Is the other photographer you want in your budget? If yes, and you like them better, then I’d switch. Photography was my #1 priority for the wedding, so I wouldn’t chance it personally.
If no, then maybe collect some of your favourite photos and give them to FI’s friend and tell him you’d like photos like these if possible. If you can be clear about the style and types of shots you’d like to have at the end, it will help both of you.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
How much of a difference is the friend’s style and ability from what you want? You’re going to have to compromise with FI since you okayed this initial signing. So what if you compromised by saying that you’ll work on finding a photographer that is $500 less than your original budget that way you would still be within the larger photography budget? Is that possible?
Post # 5
Cut your loses. If you don’t like the style, why trust them for one of your most important day?
Post # 6
If it were me, I would lose the $500 and get the photographer I really wanted. I wasn’t willing to compromise on it! It all depends on whether or not that’s doable with your budget?
Post # 7
if you are not comfortable…don’t do it. You have enough stress on your day and if you are worrying about the photos that will show on your face. So if he is good, you may not show it on your face and your photos will not be what you wanted anyway!
Post # 8
Here are a couple thoughts…. (all just my opinions, of course! : )).
Photography is huge. When the day is all over… you will want great pictures. There will be moments that you didn’t see or remember that will be captured in pictures that you will want. Go with a photographer you love! : )
How much more do you owe the photographer that your FI wants you to use? If you’ve already paid everything you owe him, and would just lose that money anyway, why not use him and get another? You will of course have to choose who will do the wedding party/bridal shoot pictures, cause two photographers would be hectic… but during the ceremony and reception, it would be nice to have two different set of pictures to choose from. Maybe one would capture something that another didn’t. (??)
If you still owe the photographer that your FI wants to use a great deal of money, I would definitely consider going with a different photographer (assuming their style isn’t what you want).
My DH had a friend who was a “photographer” and assumed that she would be doing our wedding. When we got engaged, she text him and said “I’m so excited to shoot my first wedding”. WHAT?!?! My DH was very understanding when I explained to him that her style is NOT what I want, and she still isn’t expirenced enough to be doing our WEDDING DAY! I’m sure she was hurt for a bit, but she got over it. We weren’t trying to hurt her feelings or be rude… but this was a HUGE DEAL! : )
Good luck! : )