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I'd be much more upset at the friend. How was the photographer supposed to know you knew each other?
BOTH! Well.. did the photog know you were friends?
Either way it was shady of your friends.
Deep breaths, don't worry about it. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery there's every chance that your friend thought "Oh hey, that's an awesome photographer and an awesome location. I'd love photos there too!". The photos maybe styled similar because that's the photographer's way of taking photos and styling their shots. If I were you I'd make a light-hearted fun comment about how your photo shoots are so similar and laugh it off. At the end of the day you both have gorgeous e-photos.
In my opinion there's big differences between the two sets of pics - different couples. Most people don't really notice the surroundings in pics just the people in them (unless there's a super weird something in the backgroud - there's always "that guy"). I understand that it's fustrating, but I really doubt that anyone will really notice :)
The friend.. the photographer is just doing their job. And there are weddings every weekend.. you can't work in the wedding business without shooting the same places multiple times. But it's one of those things that you can't really confront without being the creator of drama. It sucks but you have to try to ignore it and remember not to share any creative info with that friend in the future.. plus you did it 1st people notice that.
I don't think it's anything to be upset about. It's a little weird of your friend to copy exactly what you did, but you might as well take it as a compliment! There's really nothing you can do about it now anyways.
How was the photog supposed to know you knew each other? If you want to play the blame game, then play it with the friends, but it's done now, so I would just move on from it. Consider it flattery that they thought your location was so cute they wanted the same place. It sucks, I get it, but it's not like your e-pics are going to be in a frame right next to theres all the time, so I doubt anyone will even notice other than you and the other couple.
I honestly wouldn't blame either. It's a spot. Unless it was, say, your house or something, it seems like no big deal to me.
You should include an option for "neither" in your poll. I don't see what the big deal is. I echo what previous posters said about taking it as a compliment and that even pics in the same location will look very different with two different couples. You have your pictures and she has hers. it's not like people will be looking at them side by side and comparing.
I wouldnt be upset but I sure would not be telling this "friend" any of my future plans because she is clearly a copy-cat and feels no shame in blatantly doing the exact same e-pics as u. To me it just shows that she lacks originality and is trying to be like you. if the photog knew that you know this other bride then that wasnt very professional. i wouldnt be upset by this though.
I don't think there's any reason to be upset with your photographer. If your friend requested the location, how was the photographer to know that she's someone you knew? Or even if she did know that you knew each other, why wouldn't she respect the wishes of her paying customer?
I don't think there's really a reason to be upset with your friend, either. It's a bit strange and lazy of her to do the same thing as you, but she obviously admires what you did and wants to emulate you. I'd be flattered.
Yeah, I'm sorry, but I don't think you need to be mad at anyone :( It's not like she copied your wedding. They're just the e-pics. And yes, the location has sentimental value to you, but I'm sure you don't think that no one will ever, ever have pictures taken there, right?
I would just let it go, and be happy for your friends. Just because someone copies your photos doesn't make it any less meaningful to the two of you.
I don't think that there's a reason to be mad at either, but that's really just me.
I would be mildly irritated that someone copied me, but I wouldn't be angry at either party. There wouldn't be any recourse from the photographer for sure, and you could maybe get an apology out of the friend, at best. But probably not.
Unless this is your own private land, which I doubt it was because you mention sneaking around yourself, you don't have the right to be mad at either IMO.
I would take it as a HUGE compliment that your friend like your photos so much that she wanted to be like you.
And I wouldn't be angry at the photographer. If a client comes in and says "I want to go there for our pictures" I would see how that could put him/her in a tough spot as a business person.
I don't see the problem either? Most photographers use the same locations and poses over and and over.
I think you are overreacting in a major way. This doesn't matter. It's not like you're hanging their picture up in your house. And there's only so many ways to pose two people together. It's chill pill time!
chiming in to say... i dont see the big deal? Its not like you're each entering your e-pics into a photo originality contest ya know? Your pics are great and significant to you, who cares what theirs looks like?
The photographer is not to blame. I also agree with others who have said that if you don't own the land used, you have no say. You do have the right to be upset with the friend for copying poses, which is uncalled for and only proves they have no creativity, but that's all you can be mad about.
I don't think that you should be mad at either ... its a public beach.
I'd speak with the friend!! The photographer was just doing her job and probably thought it was a great shoot considering 2 people requested it! I would still mention it to the photographer just so she's aware, but try not to down talk her other client too much.
I'd pick "other" in this case. Sure, she might have copied you, but what does it really matter? They're your personal pictures for yourself, friends, family...I'm not sure it matters if you had them taken in the same place.
We took our pictures at places that many other couples have taken their pictures...some people we know, many that we don't. They're beautiful places and I doubt anyone that I know would be offended by it! And I certainly wouldn't care if someone I knew went and used some of our ideas for their pictures...it wouldn't make me love our pics any less.
I honestly don't see what the big deal is and I wouldn't be mad at either.
Anyone can take any photos in whatever spot they want. Just because you and your friend both like the same spot (maybe for different reasons but still), there is no reason why you both can't have pictures there. Nor is there any reason to not use the same photographer if you both like her work. The shoots have similar styles and poses because that is the photographers style - that's why you both chose her!
I got my e-pics done on my and DH's college campus. Another one of our good friends also did their e-pics there with the same photographer. And I have other friends who did them there with different photographers. No one cares and none of our pictures look the same because there are different people in them!
I think you're overreacting...it's not like you had a claim to the spot or anything. It's not worth freaking out over. Just chill out.
Countless photographers film several people in the same location and the poses are always different with each subject (be it an individual or couple) so you can't say that the choice of photographer is the sole reason that the poses are the same. Several decades ago, that would not have been the case, since everyone posed the same no matter what. But that is not the case today at all unless you have a photographer from those eras, which most don't. If anything, the friend likely saw the pictures, and liked them so much that they decided to copy the poses and possibly insisted on such, in which case, the photographer is bound to please the client if they want their money. The friends' choice to copy the poses is not right but unfortunately nothing you can do. The photographer will not pose two separate subjects in the exact same manner, therefore they are not the ones to blame in this mess unless they were unethical to begin with.
I wouldn't worry about it. It's really not a big deal, if you're happy with your pics then great! And try and be happy for your friend too - whether or not it was done in spite (which I doubt). I'm sure they didn't think it would bother you, or else they wouldn't have done it.
Take it as a compliment! Honestly no one but you is going to notice the similarities!
Thanks bees for all of your imput!!!! We live in a town where everyone knows everyone so yes, photographer was well aware.
I'm well aware we didn't OWN that location. It's more of the sentimental value of it. It's where we take a picture every season and it's where he proposed. From what I understand from fiance, this is very common of this particular friend to do.
Fortunatley, our wedding is first 
so whatever she decides to steal from that go ahead!
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My fiance and I got our engagement pictures taken over the summer. We chose a photographer we though was both economical to our budget and took amazing photos. This is her first year as a full time photographer. We sought out the location we wanted for our e-pictures. We chose the spot FI proposed to me, and it happens to be the same spot we take a picture at every season... very significant. We also drove the photographer to a beach that at the time we closed to the public but we did a little sneaking around.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago... we have a friend that is getting married two weeks after us. She saw our engagement photos (with links to the photographers page) on facebook and commented on how great they were.
I am the photographers friend on FB and saw that she had posted this "friend" of ours e-pictures. THEY WERE AT THE SAME EXACT LOCATION AND EVEN POSED IN VERY SIMILAR WAYS!!!!
Who should I be upset at in this situation? The photographer for knowing that these are two brides, two weeks apart with weddings shooting at the same exact location? Or for the other bride/friend who commented on how lovely our photos were and did not see a problem with the same poses and location???
And where do we go from here???