Photographer VENT!!!

posted 2 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

that’s tough, I’m sorry you went through that. But as a photographer, I don’t hold dates either. I just can’t. The only way I do is when the bride literally says I’ve sent the contract with the deposit in the mail. Then and only then do I put it in my calendar as official. 

I’ve had brides say that they definitely want to work with me, and then turn around and hire someone else. Being stupid, I rejected another bride who wanted that date as well. When I contacted her to see if she was still interested, she had hired someone else. So i was left with neither. It’s just a matter of timing and circumstance. It’s not fair, but I’m sure you’ll find someone else with photos just as good.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Where were you looking for a photographer? depending on how far travel is, it might already be included in their pricing, it’s definitely worth checking.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

You didn’t sign a contract, so you didn’t close the deal, so he was under no obligation to hold the day for you.  The other bride and groom beat you to it.

Contract > Promised Contract

It sucks, but it’s business.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

it is very unfortunate that has happened, but then, even if the other bride agreed to back out, would you really want to work with this photographer with this huge misunderstanding behind you both?

maybe you could ask him for recommendations for other photographers that would have the same vision and style as him?

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I would think that regardless of what happened, at this point, you definitely don’t want him to be your wedding photographer because there are too many bad feelings.  It’s unfortunate that you have so few options in your immediate area.

The photographer that I am going with I originally contacted in June, immediately after I booked my venue.  The photographer told me that he would hold the date for me, meaning that if another bride asked for the same date, he would call me and I would have first priority assuming, of course, that I was ready to sign.  I think this is what your photographer means by “she was first” – she contacted him first and so, as long as she was ready to sign when you entered the picture, she got the date, regardless of whether your deposit or contract could have reached him any sooner.  It’s a soft hold, not technically a reservation, but nevertheless a courteousy hold.  A lot of reception venues in my area do the exact same thing.

Post # 8
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Newbee

That is super disappointing and I’m sorry that you got your hopes dashed. But brides have to move fast on their photographer of choice, especially if it is getting close to the wedding date. I never reserve a date unless a contract has been signed and don’t know of any other photographer who does. I am similarly located in an area where there are more weddings than quality photographers available, so I have the beauty of choice with my clients. If I have a bride that I really click with and who has a great attitude, that makes me want to work hard to book them and then work even harder to make their wedding photography dreams a reality. If I have a bridezilla that is demanding, not engaged, creatively stifling or has unrealistic expectations who wants the same date, well, it’s a no-brainer for me. I will do what I can to book the one that I see myself working with well. I’m not saying that you were this way, but you might think about what could have triggered him not going above and beyond to book your wedding. My advice is to go with another photographer that you really love and click with and book them immediately. Then you have something in writing and that lessens the chance for disappointment.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

archi_bee:  Whoa. This bride is bribing vendors to get first dibs at that day? That’s….different. 

I totally understand your frustration, but there’s not a whole lot you can do. The photog should have been WAY more open about what was really going on. The photog we booked and our venue put a soft hold on our day until we sent the contract back – meaning, like what PP said, that we would have first pick, but if someone else asked for the day, we would need to send the contract and deposit that day. Your photog should have said he was in that arrangement with someone else, and not full out promised anything until he knew for sure his calendar was actually open. 

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you ever owned your own busniness of this nature you would completely understand his position. He has to make money. That’s the bottom line. He got that date booked the best way he knew how, so that’s that. 

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Also, I’m an interior designer. I can say from a lot of expereince that people do not just sit in font of their computers responding to emails all day every day. If you can’t afford an assistant then you can’t communicate immaculately with clients. And trust me brides, if they did have an assistant you’d be paying double. 

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