- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Okay, this is going to be a long-ish vent, but I really need feedback from people not closely associated with me and the wedding.
FI and I moved to Seattle for his job a month after getting engaged. We needed to secure some local vendors in Denver ASAP, inc. a photographer. Photography was the ONE thing he and I both felt was crucial and really wanted to feel comfortable with. My parents had different priorities and set the budget for photography lower than our dream photographers would cost. Since they are paying for the wedding, I’ve kind of subscribed to the philosophy that “They who pay get a say!” We ended up selecting a photographer who seemed like she would be a good alternative but was at a lower price point (~3K rather than around ~6K, like the ones we originally considered.)
At first, I was really impressed. She was communicative, set up a Pinterest board for me to pin photos to, and had me fill out a questionnaire about me and FI. He and I bought new outfits and everything. We flew back to take our engagement photos almost a month ago. I got my hair & makeup professionally done the day of the shoot. Well, when she arrived for the shoot, we just didn’t seem to “click.” It’s not that things went poorly – they didn’t – but she didn’t change camera lenses at all, and it just seemed like chemistry was missing. FI and I were great and had a blast, and we hoped our photos would look good.
She sent us the link to view all the images… and… we really don’t like them at all. FI is EXTREMELY easy-going and typically unopinionated, and he hates them. I burst into tears when we were done looking at them. There are like 20 photos where my necklace is tucked halfway into my shirt. There are many others where my belt has twisted or is riding up. My makeup looks strange in the color photos – like she didn’t know how to shoot me. Why didn’t she mention the necklace or the belt? Why did she pose us at unflattering angles that I would know not to shoot? (I’m a terrible photographer – I just mean to say that clearly some angles don’t work for anyone).
Our package comes with ten e-photos. We were hard-pressed to choose ten from the bunch, and we had almost 200 to choose from. Basically, we don’t feel comfortable moving forward with her shooting the wedding, only problem is, my parents think the photos are GREAT. Objectively, many of my friends see the same issues that I do, and think they don’t flatter us. Two of my closest friends think they’re great and that we are being too critical. But when we compare what we got to the look of the photos of the more expensive photographers, there is NO comparison, and even they can admit to that.
We don’t know what to do. My parents don’t want to discuss cancelling with her (we’d be out a deposit and probably the e-photos, but that’s all) and we really wanted to use a photo on the save-the-dates. We’re thinking of suggesting to my parents that we make up the difference and pay the diff. in price for a photographer of our choosing, and that we fly back home and try again.
If we do that, how to break the news to current photographer? Has anyone had a similar issue? Is it right for me to be so upset about these photos? I can’t stop thinking about it. I’m so low-maintenance about this wedding in general… but I personally feel that the photos live on forever, and should be really great and something to treasure. I definitely don’t feel that way regarding these e-photos, and am concerned that I’ll feel the same way about my wedding photos.