Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My FI and I are paying for everything ourselves, or at least were trying to but I did have to buckle down and ask my parents for some help. Because FI and I were going to have family do our photography my parents said that was one of the few things they would pay for. Long story short the 2 family members that were to be doing our photography ended up having to work my wedding weekend.
So I have a friend who does pictures as a hobby. I’ve seen his pictures and he does a great job but its just a hobby. For a couple weeks I had been asking him to give me a price for him to do our photos. I was thinking a few hundred. He gives me a price of $1700!!!
I’m mad for a few reasons. One that he’s one of my closest friends, he knows we were on a tight budget for this wedding. Two that someone who is not a professional would ask for that much. In fact one professional quoted us at $1200 but I still didn’t want to pay that much. I told my friend this who basically said “Well let me know what you decide to do”. Three I’m mad that I had asked him for 2 weeks what he was going to charge, if he had told me then I could have said nope too expensive. Maybe we could have negotiated and come to an agreement. Instead he waits until I have 3 1/2 weeks left.
I’m pretty disgusted that this is how he views our friendship. I haven’t spoken to him or replied to him, I’ve let my parents do the negotiating and talking since they are the ones paying for it, plus I’m so upset that I wouldn’t have nice things to say and probably ruin our friendship.
Am I over-reacting? I am worried I’m not going to have photos from my wedding that look decent. I’m worried that my parents will end up paying an arm and a leg for non professional pictures just because they know how important pictures are. And I feel like my good friend is trying to take advantage of my photography situation.
Post # 2
First of all, it’s never a good idea to do business with friends. Just because he’s a close friend doesn’t mean he has to give you a great deal.
That said, I think you’re getting a great deal. I’m paying $1K more than that for my photog and based on the quotes I got that was cheap.
You out probably shouldn’t have gone with family as photographers in the first place. It’s pretty crappy that they ditched your wedding to work if they were planning on photographing your wedding.
Post # 3
I would not pay a non-proffessional over $1000. I would be hard pressed to give a non-proffesional over $500, and I would definatly have a contract.
If you can find a proffessiona that you like at this point still, I would think about doing it. There are somethings that a proffessional is just going to be better at, from crowd to time control, that you will appriciate at the end of the day.
ETA: my wedding photos ran me $1500 for 7 hours of coverage, 800 edited images, full print copy-right, a photo book, an engagement session and $100 worth of proffesional prints.
Post # 4
I can’t edit my post for some reason. I missed that he was completely a non-professional. I though you meant he did it on the side kind of making him a semi-professional. Has he ever done a wedding before? If not then yes $1700 is steep but then again he is also helping you by stepping in last minute. It wolush be incredibly hard to find a pro at this point. If you end up going with him make sure you have a contract.
Post # 5
Is he editting them or will you need to take them somewhere else for editting? If he isn’t, there is no way i’d pay $1200.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Curlycupcake: Techinically they didn’t ditch me. One is a photographer for a college football team and I should have thought it through before asking him. DUH football season so I don’t blame him. The other has to rotate weekends (mandatory) and its his weekend. He’s trying to switch weekends currently. Again I don’t blame him. I know exactly what its like to have to work weekends and not find a replacement.
I’m more upset that he’s not a professional. This is a hobby. He can take the pictures and I’ll print them myself (which is exactly what would happen, he said he’d put them on a disc for us). I can guarantee that he hasn’t charged that much for other people to do pictures. He has never even photographed a wedding before, just some family pictures and pictures for fun. If he were more established as a photographer, had more experience yes I’d understand $1700. My cousin who IS a professional photographer, has his work published in Sports Illustrated and other sports magazines was only going to charge a couple hundred.
Post # 7
You might want to try looking for a photography student. A lot of local colleges have students who do weddings and will probably charge less than your friend. And they’ll probably edit your photos too.
Post # 8
How much photography are you wanting to get? Is it an all day photo shoot? I am not sure if you live in an overpriced area where that would be considered discounted or if he is just asking a high price. It sounds like the price is not good to you period, so you should just decline because of that. That would be too high for me too. We’re getting 3 hours of photography from a local photographer for $400 fwiw. Just keep asking around.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
craigslistgirl: Before, during, and some of the reception. No more than like 4 hours. That’s why I was figuring $500 at most, that’s $125 an hour. What he’s asking for is $450 or so an hour.
Post # 10
NurseMandie: Honestly his pricing seems ridiculous!! You said that your cousin is a photographer.. would it be possible to get them to photographer the wedding? Photos are the most important part of the day in my opinion.. I would hate to see you lose out just because this guy blindsided you! Hope things work out for you!
Post # 11
NurseMandie: NO WAY! I do hobby photography and charge like $500 for friends and family.
No way someone who isn’t a professional should be charging more than professionals. Also for people saying that is a great deal that depends on your area. Where I live $1700 is about average.
Post # 12
Personally I have no clue why you’re so upset at him. YOU came to him asking for a favor. He didn’t come to you asking for the job. Clearly he isn’t trying to make a career out of photography. If you don’t like his price, you simply say no and move on. He doesn’t owe you anything & doesn’t have to do a cheap favor for you if he doesn’t want to.
I would however be pissed at your family members who ditched you. You’re not upset because they didn’t realize it was football season/they didn’t check their work schedule? They made a commitment, period. They shouldn’t have said they would do something so important unless they were 100% sure they could.
Post # 13
It kind of sounds like he isn’t interested in doing the photography… perhaps he is charging more and/or not negotiating with you because he was really looking forward to just being a guest at the wedding?
Post # 14
1) perhaps your friend is over-quoting you because he doesn’t want to do it
2) if photos are important to you, and you want great photos, you shouldn’t expect to pay a few hundred dollars. Not to be harsh, but when it comes to photos, you will get what you pay for.
Post # 15
I definitely feel he is over charging you. I think I’m paying around $2200, and I get engagement pics, 8 hours, a 2nd photog, a large canvas, rights and a few other things. And my quote is low in my area.
I would forget the friend and try to hire someone else. Anyway you can borrow from yours or FIs parents? Grandma? Anyone?