No newer images
more by sonjap
No older images
Are you considering a Trash the Dress session?
more in Photography
Our Wedding Pictures
RSVP Wording?
more in Boards
Gown cleaning and preservation

Photography Regrets! Help!

posted 3 years ago in Photography
  •  
    1.
    Member Icon
    Member
    2 posts
    Wannabee
    sonjap       Boulder, CO

    I'm slightly concerned that I am crazy and need therapy.  Here's my deal:

    We've been married for almost a year now, but I can't help but have major regrets about the professional photographs taken at our wedding.  I tried to skimp on expenses so I went for a "cheaper" photographe.  And while I feel he did a decent job for what we paid, I definitely feel let down.   One thing that is really bothering me is the lack of photos of myself alone and of me and my husband.  I feel like this is partly my fault because perhaps I wasn't specific about this...

    Anyway, in trying to move forward, I was wondering if it would be totally crazy, totally ridiculous, totally pathetic to have additional professional photographs taken of me in my wedding dress and possibly with my husband.  ONE YEAR LATER.  OK, just writing that made me feel like a fool.  But I'm trying to figure this out and move on. 

    We didn't get engagement photos taken, so maybe that will do? 

    Is something totally wrong with me?  HELP! 

     
    2.
    Member Icon
    Member
    644 posts
    Busy bee
    gingerbread       Vancouver

    I don't think you are crazy at all. My photographer was just telling me that he recently shot a couple in the exact same situation. They weren't happy with their photos taken by another wedding photographer and so they took professional photos for their one year anniversary. I say "Go for it!"

     
    3.
    Member Icon
    Member
    808 posts
    Busy bee
    missm    09-27-08   San Francisco

    We lucked out and a friend who is breaking into photography took a fabulous pic that became our engagement photo, though we never had a formal session.  We subsequently saw some very stylin' e-pics and decided to do an anniversary shoot one year after we married.  I may ask my friend to do a trash the dress shoot as well...   Bottom line - go for it!  If it's still bugging you, there is obviously a need. :)

     
    4.
    Member
    728 posts
    Busy bee
    ErinMarieMack    06.27.09   Denver, CO

    I think it is a wonderful idea and a way to relive the magic with your hubby. Don't feel silly at all!

    Attachments

    1. Photography Regrets!  Help! :  wedding advice photography Img 1.jpg (140 KB, 67 downloads) 2 years old
    2. Photography Regrets!  Help! :  wedding advice photography Img 2.jpg (114.9 KB, 59 downloads) 2 years old
    3. Photography Regrets!  Help! :  wedding advice photography Img 3.jpg (83.2 KB, 60 downloads) 2 years old
    4. Photography Regrets!  Help! :  wedding advice photography Img 4.jpg (85.8 KB, 59 downloads) 2 years old
    5. Photography Regrets!  Help! :  wedding advice photography Img VEIL.jpg (121 KB, 58 downloads) 2 years old
     
    5.
    Member Icon
    Member
    9 posts
    Newbee
    lapetitep    June 2009   California

    There is absolutely no reason why you should not be able to take photographs again!  I'm a newbie photographer and a friend and I put an free ad out to build our portfolio.  Immediately, we were booked by a couple who have been married for a year already.  They had their original photos from the wedding but wanted something a little more different.  They dressed up in their wedding gown and suit and we spent the entire day shooting.  It's an excellent idea to just shoot pictures in general at any timeframe (whether in your original wedding dress or not).  I've also seen several couples who do photoshoots for their anniversaries so this would be great idea for you.  Go for it...the time difference should not matter for the pictures you are aiming to get.

    Attachments

    1. Photography Regrets!  Help! :  wedding advice photography Img 4.jpg (104.3 KB, 97 downloads) 2 years old
    2. Photography Regrets!  Help! :  wedding advice photography Img 3.jpg (102.6 KB, 92 downloads) 2 years old
     
    6.
    Member Icon
    Member
    45 posts
    Newbee
    MissStargazerLily    July 12, 2008   Woodstock, NB, Canada

    I don't think it's silly. I've had friends who couldn't afford pro pics at the time of their wedding or had a quickie wedding (marrying guys in the military.. sigh) and not having time to book a photographer. But they did pictures on their anniversary. And not only did they get amazing pictures.. the girls got to get all dolled up and feel like princesses again!

     
    7.
    Member
    728 posts
    Busy bee
    ErinMarieMack    06.27.09   Denver, CO

    I just saw you are in Boulder! I don't know if you already have someone lined up, but we are using Ross and Kammi from Elegant Images and Photograph and we love them (their work/personalities). Ross charged $175 for a 1.5 hr shoot which produced 200+ pictures; we  also got a $50 credit toward ordering prints as a part of the deal. Less than a week later he posted our pics on his blog and a week after that we got a book with all of our proofs. I know his prices have increased slightly, but I feel that he is an excellent photographer at a great value. Here is a link to his site:http://www.elegant-image.com/index2.php. Feel free to PM me if you want a link to our pics from him:)

     
    8.
    Member Icon
    Member
    2 posts
    Wannabee
    ceche17       Honolulu, HI

    If you're crazy, then that makes two of us! I had this done just last week. While I also had frequent doubts about my sanity, my circumstances were pretty much identical to yours and I eventually caved. We hired an awesome photographer and called it an anniversary shoot. It was actually quite romantic, just the two of us in our wedding gear... I don't plan to tell anyone, because the pictures are just for us. Maybe I'm crazy, maybe I'm selfish, but I strangely have no regrets! I'd be happy to send you the link to our shoot if you would like.

    Good luck!

     
    9.
    Hostess
    2,704 posts
    Sugar bee
    KateMW    8.30.03   Birmingham

    I think it's a great idea. I think it would be a lot of fun. We're renewing our vows and though we are having a great photographer, we're planning on doing a shoot the day after the wedding with us and some with our daughter. We really don't have a ton of family shots, since I am the one who takes the pictures. I also want to get a christmas card beach shot as well. So, go for it. Have fun!

     
    10.
    Member Icon
    Member
    1,490 posts
    Bumble bee
    Sweeney2Be    Aug 23, 2008   Twin Cities Minnesota

    Personally, and this is JUST me - because I'm nuts and I too need therepy! I woulnd't do it becuse I would know every time I looked at them that it wasn't taken on my wedding day.

    I would do it at a vow renewal so it held sentimental value to me - but like I said I'm a nut case...and it would bug me out knowing it wasn't my wedding day. But if you're cool with it then go for it! ;-)

    As a side note....next year, you could see a photo you like, and think yours wern't great again, and then what? There will always be a better photog out there, a picture that wasn't taken. While there should have been more of you guys alone and together - you will always find something that wasn't taken and want it. 

    Maybe just make it a point each year to take amaing photos - I know that any future children you have will love them! And this way you'll be in the habbit for when and if children or fur babies come along and you'll always have this amazing time line to show everything from that moment on.

    Good luck with whatever you do.

     

     

     
    11.
    Member Icon
    Member
    1,315 posts
    Bumble bee
    rebecca    September 13, 2008  

    Crazy would be re-creating your entire wedding. =) You're not crazy at all -- have fun!

     
    12.
    Member Icon
    Member
    11 posts
    Newbee
    ceche07      

    P.S. Don't know if this helps, but... we chose an arty style of photography, much different than our actual wedding day. Since, like you, we didn't do engagement photos, I really treasure the emotions that were captured. Our wedding day was beautiful, but somewhat overcome by family drama, etc., plus we could only afford the photographer for two hours.

     

    In the new pictures it is, of course, completely obvious that it is not our wedding day or venue, so I didn't wear a veil, and I made minor changes to the dress to make it more casual. It's not a poufy dress to begin with, so it felt more like having your Sunday best on. Anyway, you could always do nice pictures in non-wedding attire, but if this is still eating at you a year later, I say go for it! 

     
    13.
    Member Icon
    Member
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    Bride888    8/8/08   New York

    It's not crazy at all. You can call this your trash the dress session and take all sorts of cool photos.  Go for it and have fun!

     
    14.
    Member Icon
    Member
    2 posts
    Wannabee
    sonjap       Boulder, CO

    Thank you everyone!  It's great to know that I'm not insane and that others have gone through the same thing!

     

    Thank you!  Thank you!  Thank you!

     
    15.
    Member Icon
    Member
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    quickbrownfox       dallas, tx

    yeah i'm with everyone else. i think it's perfectly normal. you'd want something that you would be happy with when you look at the photos. go for it, and make sure you find a really good photographer now! :)

     
    16.
    Member Icon
    Member
    275 posts
    Helper bee
    cyshas    April 12, 2008   White Plains, NY; married in Arizona

    We didn't get all our photos...problems with our photogapher.  So for a different reason we might be doing the same thing.  We're still debating because of the cost of having to re-rent the tux and getting the dress cleaned again is close to $300 nevermind the cost of the photographer. 

    But I say go for it.  Maybe you can do a cool trash the dress photos.   Usually the dress only get dirty not necessarily trashed....

     
    17.
    Bee
    5,001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    msbuttons    May 30, 2010   Palm Harbor, FL

    I like the idea of doing a "trash the dress" session/day after session, where you can take more casual and fun photos, and they won't necessarily look like you are trying to recreate your wedding day! You could sass it up a bit!

     

    Reply

    You must log in to post.





    Visit our sister sites eHarmony
    Online Dating
    eHarmony Advice
    Dating Advice
    Project Wedding
    Wedding Songs
    JustMommies
    Pregnancy Calendar
    Copyright 2004-2012, Weddingbee.com
     

    Find your vendors on Weddingbee

    Real reviews from brides in your area!

    Favors by Weddingbee

    • Favors by season

    Shop Now ยป

    Find Registry Find Registry Find Registry

    More
    User Posts Today
    MissBoPeep 37
    hisgoosiegirl 36
    ndreighton 30
    Mrs.KMM 28
    beargoose 27
    Gemstone 24
    Beckster329 23
    BetterSherm 20
    Rivendeler 20
    KCKnd2 20

    Photography

    User Posts Today
    kinglr 3
    Mrs.KMM 2
    Cariad 2
    lovemylife88 2
    Ryderlove 2
    USER876 1
    couawilou 1
    ladybugs 1
    onyx81 1
    monique1218 1
    More