Post # 1
I need your help! I really do not want my FI to see me before the cermemony. I know I know everyone does and photogrphers want you to. However I have always thought the best part of the wedding is seeing the grooms face when he sees the bride…. i know so 27 dresses, but I really dont want to take away from that.
I was hoping that I could take all my pictures with my BMs and familt before and the FI could do the same. Once the ceremony was over we could take a few with our families then focus on just photos of us.
Also our ceremony is at 5:30 and should only be about a 1/2 hour long. It is in October and the sun will set at 7. We have a cocktail hour from 6:30 to 7:30 and then the reception from 7:30 to 11:30. Do you think I would be able to get a some outside pics between 6 and 7?
Any suggestions on photo schedules for brides that dont want to see the groom before?
Post # 3
Not everyone likes the “first look” idea. I didn’t want to do that (married in May) & as a photographer I like it better when the 1st time the groom sees his bride is when she’s walking down the isle.
What I did: reserve 1 hour for before the wedding for pics. My photographers took pics with my groom with his groomsmen & then groom with my bridesmaids. Than they put him in a place where he couldn’t see me. Then they took me with my bridesmaids & then me with the groomsment. They took a few of my mom & I before the wedding too. Then, after the wedding they took the family pics, than after that they took pics of the entire wedding party. It took just under an hour for all those.
So, maybe you could ask the venue & the photographer if its ok if you show up at around 3:30 or 4 for pics. Just let your bridal party know this & see if it works for them!!
Post # 4
We aren’t seeing each other before the service, I would NOT budge on this either! Ours is a bit different from yours (4pm service, 30 min etc) but maybe this will help. We also have 2 photographers.
3pm photographers arrive (1 to Inn, 1 to locker room)
3-3:30 Shoot getting ready, immediate family portraits & BM/GM parties (informal)
3:30-3:45 to chapel
4 Ceremony Begins
4:30 Ceremony Ends, Guests have drinks as chime concert plays
4:30-4:45 Wedding party pictures
4:45 Guests & wedding party to Inn
4:45-5 Bride &Groom pics at rink if time (FI played hockey at our alma mater)
5:00 Cocktail hour
5:00-6 Family & wedding party pictures
6:00-6:30 Bride & Groom pictures
6:45 Entire group photo before entry to dinner
I’m realizing ours is unique b/c we’re taking iconic pictures on campus (getting married at our college) and then back at the Inn. It’s also VERYYY rushed, mostly b/c no first look. But that’s important to us! Good luck!
Post # 5
We didn’t do a first look. Here is how our schedule went.
Guys arrive at church – 12:30
Groom with Groomsmen pictures – 12:30-1:00
Groom with his family pictures – 1:00-1:30
Girls arrive at church – 1:30
Bride pictures with bridesmaids outside – 1:30-2:00
Bridel pictures with her family inside – 2:00-2:30
Everyone relax and wait for ceremony 2:30-3:00.
If you have a big bridal party or a large family or just want a ton of pictures I would really recommend having at least an hour for your pictures and an hour for his pictures prior to the ceremony.
After the ceremony, do you have to travel to the reception site?
We did about 30-40 minutes of pictures at the church (make sure to tell your families to stick around after the ceremony)
When we got to our reception site we did a few really quick ones with the wedding party, and then they went to the cocktail hour and we did about another 20 minutes of pictures.
Post # 6
You just need to create a timeline for the entire day and communicate it with your wedding party and family so people know when to be where.
Something like this if you only have 1 photographer:
Groom and Groomsmen finish getting ready and photog gets shots
Groom’s pics including bridal party and families
Bride’s getting dressed shots followed by pictures including bridal party and families
done with pics and waiting for ceremony
group photos – bride/groom with both sides of families
bride/groom with both sides of bridal party
bride with opposite side of family and bridal party and same for groom
bride and groom photos alone, other can join cocktail party
join cocktail hour
If you have two photogs you can kill some of these birds with one stone, doing getting ready photos and the single side shots at the same time. As long as you can have two separate places for photos so you don’t risk seeing your man before you walk down the aisle.
Post # 7
@blingqueen: I have the smae quesiton. We are getting married on the exact same day and our wedding is in the evening also. I know that we are taking all guy/all girl pics earlier during the day, but I was wondering about getting daytime shots with him too.
Post # 8
Im so glad this was posted!! All the timelines Ive seen have been including a first look and I hate the idea of the first look. Actually had never even heard of it until I joined the bee! The thing I am most looking forward to on my wedding day is seeing my groom for the first time as Im walking down the aisle!!!
Post # 9
I’m stealing this too because neither of us want to do a first look. However, our ceremony starts at 12 noon.
Post # 10
thanks ladies!!!!!!!!!!! I am so happy that others are NOT doint the first look. We have 2 photographers so hopefully we can get it to work out.
any other suggestions, what worked, what didnt work, what you would do differently are greatly appreciated!!!!!
Post # 11
as a photographer – no not all of us like to push for the first look. It’s your day and much more important that you do what’s important to you. For the record – I would say that 75% of my couples do NOT do a first look. Both ways can work extremely well if planned right. Yes, your ceremony is late enough that it could make things a little tight on time, but the photographer’s experience on timelines and handling fading light will have more to do with pulling it off. If your photogs are effective at getting any formals done in a fairly fast and effective manner then you should be fine. I always say one hour flat for any family formals, bridal party and the two of you is no problem. That is…also assuming you’re getting done what you can beforehand, etc…best of luck!
Post # 12
Thanks Darrin! That insider info is really helpful and reassuring 🙂 I have been stressing over this issue a lot!