Photoshopped by a Copycat…Help me respond

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@Cornflakegirl:  I am not sure there is much you can do other than blocking her from seeing the rest of your photos and deleting the photo. If it really bothers you you need to talk to her.  The thing is when you post things on the internet you have opened yourself up to people taking images or whatever and changing them/doing whatever they want with them. Short of blocking her other profile from seeing the rest of your photos, there is really not much you can do.

Post # 4
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Cornflakegirl:  In this case I would pull the photog contract card and say something like “hey we dont actually have permission to edit the hotographers already edited photos so I ask you please not share any photoshopped photos so we dont get into any trouble.” She sounds a little obsessive.

 

Post # 6
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@Cornflakegirl:  Just take it down and pretend it was never there. If she asks what happened just explain the copyright stuff 🙂 No reason for you to keep it up. (ETA: Sorry, some people honestly don’t seem to realize that when they post things it is fairly public – was not trying to offend!)

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

What a creepy situation!  I really like @excitedtobeMRSF:  ‘s idea 🙂  Neutral without the risk of stirring up too much extra trouble.

Post # 8
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Akiin Beach Club, Tulum Mexico

Wow, that it’s upsetting indeed.  I think you should simply be honest and tell her to stop using your photos and/or photoshopping them, and that you don’t appreciate it. Perhaps this could be the only way to stop her from doing it for once and for all?  

Sorry you’re going through this and hope this chick respects your property.  All the best! 

Post # 9
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11001 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@excitedtobeMRSF:  +1.  I would be polite but very direct and forceful:  “I’m not sure why you would have chosen to do that, but I’m going to have to insist that you immediately  delete and remove from social media any and all of my pictures that you’ve Photoshopped and to stop sharing these images.  I’m not sure if you realize this, but my photographer retains the copyright to every one of these images, and no one else is permitted to alter them in any way without her permission. I would not want to see you get into any legal trouble or incur any fines for this. I hope you undertand. Thanks, Cornflakegirl”

Post # 10
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79 posts
Worker bee

As I understand your post, Sally uploaded an altered image of yours onto your wall. You can “hide” this picture from your wall/timeline (it is so confusing now!), but it can still show up on Sally’s wall as well as in the newsfeed of any of your mutual friends. 

You can leave her a reply asking to take it down. If she doesn’t, then report the photo and try to get FB to take it down.

As for dealing with her in general.. she says the photoshop job makes you look beautiful? Respond and say that you’re surprised she thinks that you should look like that. Or simply say no thanks, you are happy with your appearance. Alternatively just say it’s not funny. You can also link her to a video or some other post about women bringing other women down. If she’s not being completely evil, then she should get the hint that what she’s doing isn’t acceptable. 

Post # 11
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3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you can get Facebook to take it down on the basis of copyright.

Post # 12
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1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Cornflakegirl:  Wow.  She seems to be a little bit obsessed with you/your wedding, almost stalking.  How creepy.

I think if you can make a report to facebook over copyright issues.  But I would also send her a message letting her know that she is in violation of copyright laws.  And let her know that going forward she needs to stop this kind of behavior.  Clearly she seems to see nothing wrong with what she is doing……inspite of all of your attempts to block her.  What a weirdo…….

Good luck!

Post # 13
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Do you want to be formal or informal?

There’s already a lot of informal suggestions here. If you don’t care about your friendship, you can always send her a formal DMCA notice (google it for the actual format).  This will basically say that that you’re the owner of the material and you have good faith to believe that she has no right to the intellectual material.

A lot of time the formal language of the DMCA is enough to get people to take it down.

Post # 14
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That’s super weird.  I don’t think I could be friends with someone like that.  She obviously has too much time on her hands.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Cornflakegirl:  Wow, that is crazy and she seems a little too obsessed with you and your wedding.

@Brielle: +1 This is a great casual response! If she doesn’t comply, maybe you could have your photographer(s) ask her to take the photo(s) down.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

She sounds like a total nut.  I would just say, “Hey Sally!  Thanks for taking the time to do this, but altering our wedding images is illegal due to copyright that the photographer owns.  If you could remove the pictures before anyone else sees them, that would be great.  I don’t want either you or myself to get in trouble.”

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