Post # 1
I have been pretty set on changing my name to a hyphenated name. I have friends that have done so and have had no problems. I also hear stories of professional woman who just do not change their names at all because of the hassle. Not only will I have to change with all the usual suspects (DMV, SS, passport) but the added “benefit” of changing with my medical boards, state licensing boards, specialty boards, etc.
Any doctor brides that have gone through this? any advice one way or the other??
23 days to go…
Post # 3
No, I am keeping my name. My fiance is, fortunately, 100% fine with it. I have worked really hard to get where I am today, and my family means a lot to me. On top of that, I simply prefer my last name to his. It’s a very personal decision, but it certainly seems like more physicians keep their last names after marriage than women in other fields.
Post # 4
Hello! I’m an MS3 so no license issues yet, he is graduating law school this May but we are both changing our names. Also, does anyone know whether it’s feasible to use your original name at work, even though you have legally changed?
We’re planning to *both* take my last name as our middle names, and his last name as our last names. But I want to go by Dr. Myfirstname Mymiddlename if/when I graduate — do you think this is do-able?
Thanks in advance!
Post # 5
I’m planning to change it… I only have two very insignificant publications on my (Soon to be) maiden name anyways!
For me, it just didn’t feel right not to change it, but I’ve heard it’s a pain in the butt.
Post # 6
I’m not an MD, but I have a specific state license, publications, and a clinical reputation with my last name. I’m not changing it. Not even socially. I can’t imagine the added stress of notifying my board, changing my license, etc etc. Good luck!
Post # 7
I’m not in the medical field or anything, but I don’t see why you can’t just go by Mrs. Hislastname with friends/family/even at work if you wanted to, but on all legal documents keep it your maiden name? I kinda do this with my first name. On all legal documents, my first name is what I was born with & everything else I use my “other” first name. Not sure if it would work the same as with a last name?
Post # 8
Im not a physician either but consider myself accomplished professionally and have a good professional reputation. My fiancee was against my not completely changing my name until I sat him down in front of the computer and googled my name. Once he saw how much work-related-information is in the public domain (in my maiden name) he realized it would be silly to change what people have known me as throughout my career. So, I’m going by his last name personally and mine professionally and legally changing my name to Mrs. Firstname Mymaidenname Husband’s last name. Im not going to hyphenate it, but will have both last names as my last name on my passport, drivers license, etc. so that in case (for instance) someone makes plane reservations for me in the “wrong” name it wont be a problem. As both names will legally be correct.
Post # 9
What a tough topic!! I wish I could convince him to take my last name…not going to happen!! Part of me gets a little mushy thinking about taking on his last name but the other part gets sad to lose my last name (which I really like) and I feel like we identify with our last names more than others since all day long I hear Dr. “mylastname”. But, I dont want a different last name than my kids and I think having a different name personally and professionally would be too confusing for me and everyone involved. Sigh….it’s an internal emotional battle but I’m pretty sure I’ll get used to it pretty quickly once it’s changed; all my friends seem to have adapted well.
On a side note: I was sitting through CE tonight and used the time to make a LONG list of all the places I have to change my name; eek!
Post # 10
I’m an MS3 (MS4 in two weeks woo!) too and I’m going to change my name, even though I LOVE my current last name! I plan on changing it before we graduate so that I can have my diploma and license and everything with my married name. I have some publications with this last name, but they’re not super important so meh.
Post # 11
I’m an MD and kept my maiden name because it’d be too much of a hassle to change. I got married right after med school and still had to take step 3. It would have been such a pain to have taken step 1 and 2 with one name, step 3 with another name. All my residency info was under maiden name so I would have had to change my new email, listings, etc. And, I had just bought a passport under my maiden name. What a mess that would have been. I sometimes consider maybe changing it in the future, but I’m not sure if that will be worse.
Post # 12
@canthugallcats: It definitely does work the same way with a last name. A lot of female physicians do exactly that. Others choose not to, because, as you would expect, having two different identities can get really confusing. They can never remember which name they put something under. Work friends aren’t sure what you call you.
In the end, it’s a very personal decision in every way, and what works for one person often doesn’t work for someone else! I personally don’t want the hassle of dealing with two different last names, at work and at home. Everyone who matters to me knows that I am married and who my husband is; those who don’t know my husband is my husband just because we don’t share a last name don’t bother me. People also argue that it’s difficult for kids to have a different last name as their mother, but plenty of kids in that situation have turned out just fine- again, they will know I’m their mom, and that’s what matters. It’s all about what’s right for you and your husband!
Post # 13
I’m not a professional but if I were, I’d keep my name. Since I’m not and I have two last names as it is, I’ll change it to his.
Post # 14
Hi! I’m a PGY-2 in Arizona getting married in about a month. What my other physician friends have done is kept going by “dr. maiden name” but changed their actual last names to their husbands or hyphenated that.
For certain states and certain hospitals (I believe Medicaid/Medicare hospitals, too), they require that the name on your medical license matches your legal last name. Because of that, I’ve been holding off getting my license until after I’m married, so I can avoid that wonderful $400 fee of redo-ing the license.
Long story short, check what the policies are for your hospital/county/state. If it doesn’t matter that your medical license doesn’t match your legal name, awesome. If it does matter, get ready change both, or change neither.
Post # 15
I’m a lawyer and I’m going to seriously have to investigate how aggravating it is to make all the changes.
Post # 16
Great post, thanks for the info– I have been wondering this as well…Nice to have multiple perspectives. While I really want to take his name (we plan to marry when I finish school), I wonder if changing all my license/boards etc will be more of a hassle (will be ARNP) as not only will I have boards, new ARNP license, but still have to uphold my existing RN stuff… bleh.