Post # 1
I recently went dress shopping for the first time and went without my mother. I was not expecting to find anything but ended up falling in love with the second dress I tried on. It fit like a glove, no alterations are needed, and it was less than half of what I had budgeted. Unfortunately it was a sale gown and the only one the store had. I really did not want to take a chance on leaving it till the following week when my mom could make it and risk loosing it. I love my dress and don’t regret purchasing it but I am sad that I didn’t end up going wedding dress shopping without my mom as this will be the only time it will ever happen.
I am hoping there is something else that I can do with my mom that can sorta fill the hole I created. Does anyone have any ideas?
Post # 3
@Calyse: How about shopping for accessories with you mom like your veil/headpiece (if you’re wearing one) and your shoes? That way she can still be a part of the outfit you are wearing.
Post # 5
@Eckle: I got the veil at the same time as the dress but I still need about everything other accessory out there. I think that is a good idea. Now my question is are ther places to go to find the accessories or do I just look online?
Also, are there any others out there that got their dress without their mom?
Post # 6
@Calyse: Maybe you could have the shop hold the dress for you now that you’ve paid for it, and have your mom come with you to the shop and try on dresses. Let your mom pick out 1 or 2 dresses that she’d like to see you in, and then with the 3rd dress – come out in your dress with veil and accessories! Just a thought:) My wedding dress experience was a little similar. My bridal party and mom live out of town, so I did most of the leg work before they got to town and went to a number of shops until I thought I found the one. Then I scheduled a ‘champagne party’ and invited my ‘maids, mom and Mother-In-Law. I let each of them pick one dress for me to try on, and then came out in my pick at the end — and it was everyone’s favourite! I hadn’t actually purchased a dress before, but I pretty much knew what I wanted, but because everyone was coming from so far, I didn’t want to make a day full of bridal appointments and waste everyone’s time. The shop may be accomodating and realize that dress shopping with mom can be memories that last forever, and you should totally get that experience if you want it!
Post # 7
I went dress shopping without my mom every time I went looking. Not because I didn’t want her there (I really did) but because we have very different tastes and she tends to be pretty opinionated if she doesn’t like something… even if I love it. One time I was about ready to purchase a dress I was in love with so I called her to come see it before I did, and her unimpressed and critical response weighed heavily on me and I didn’t get it. That store then closed down and I looked for a different dress mostly on my own after that.
In your case, I know it would have been really nice to have that experience with your mom, but you didn’t go out with the intention of buying a dress that day – so don’t feel too badly. I’m sure she’ll understand and be happy you found something you love… and she’ll appreciate that you feel how you do and that you really want to involve her in other ways.
Post # 8
@Calyse: i had to get my dress without my mum. i live in mexico, she lives in england and there was no way for her to get here for dress shopping AND the wedding. and london prices for dresses would have been ridiculous. it was abit disappointing but i sent pictures and we had some nice moments on the wedding day