Picking a date for the wedding

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

The way we picked ours was,

1. Affordability – We wanted October but it’s prime season, we ended up picking the first day of the off-season, November 1st, 2015 because it was significantly less $$. 

2. Easy date – 11/1/15 is super easy to remember. This is actually a bonus for me, not him…as I’ve already forgotten our “dating” anniversary date! 

3. Season – I was so set on Fall and like I said we couldn’t really have the dates I wanted…picked the closest thing I could. 

You just have to see what the venue you want offers and adjust accordingly as best you can. Unless you have an unlimited budget then…I dunno! Go crazy!

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Are there any significant numbers or anniversaries in your relationship? Are there particular times that are inconvenient for you all or your close families (e. g. final exams, work requirements)? Are there seasons that you really like? Another thing to consider is pricing or availability that might vary based on season. Good luck!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ninebones:  +1

I first decided on a season… I like Fall, and I didn’t want to wait too long, so I decided Fall 2015.  I then decided I wanted to do an off-season, something more affordable in the area I’m looking, so Fall was looking more ideal.  Then, my stepson’s mother was thinking about getting married 10/10/15, so we decided on mid-September – it’s after the tourist season in Maine, and not too close to possible her date.  Plus, the weather should still be nice in mid-September, and not too warm.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We decided on a month and then the venue told us they had 2 Saturdays open. We picked the earlier one because we’re getting married outside in September and didn’t want to wait until the end of the month in case it got too cool 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

For us, we wanted a long week-end because we have so many people coming in from out of state and we wanted to get married on a Sunday to give everyone a chance to travel on Saturday (on Sundays it’s cheaper as well). 

One of my close friends is getting married on Memorial Day week-end, so we picked Labor Day Week-end.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium

We were planning for late fall, early winter because that was when I’d have a break from grad school. Then it turned out my dad was going on vacation to Europe anyways, kind of around that time, so we thought we might as well plan it while he’s already there. Next, we wanted to do it on our anniversary in October, but in Belgium you have to do a civil ceremony first and our anniversary would have cost 250eur (on top of the cost for the license) whereas three days before city hall was offering free ceremonies so we decided that was better. Unfortunatly, the only time available was 10:30am, but we re going to make it work.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well we got engaged back in March. Anytime during the summer was too soon. Sept has my birthday, Nov and Dec have major holidays and I wanted to be married this year. Came down to October, and the date of 10/10 is really easy to remember.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We wanted a fall wedding, avoiding the “peak season” for weddings in VA. So that helped narrow it down to October/November. We nixed a few dates based on family anniversaries (FSIL in October, my cousin in November). Since we’ll have family traveling from across the country and we also will be traveling from TX, flights and hotels will also be more affordable at that time. Basically we centered our choices around making life easier for guests. <br /><br />In your case…. Are you going to be indoors or outdoors? What’s the weather like in that area during that time frame? Is April still cold? Are August & September too hot? What’s the overall “feel” you’re going for? For us, we will be indoors but want the option to use an outdoor deck area so we didn’t want to sweat if we went outside, or freeze. October works for that. <br /><br /> It’s not too early to call a venue and just inquire about what months are super busy for weddings, see if there’s a price difference depending on month, etc. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

KateA17:  I wanted winter, but not December. So January or February. From there, I did not want Valentine’s day, or any holiday weekend. Then we just asked our venue what was available. February 22nd, 2015!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Be open about a date if you can. It seriously depends on what is important to you and your budget. 

I know we originally set one date that was not around our birthdays, our kids’ birthdays or holidays. Once we started looking and found a venue we realllllllllly loved, it was out of our budget range for “in-season”. After much deliberation, we changed our date to November “off-season” to save us THOUSANDS of dollars just by picking another date. Luckily here in California, it is typically still warm here in November.

We ultimately also picked the day before his birthday, which he thought was kind of cool and easy for him to remember our anniversary. Lol.  

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I literally just went through this! I would first suggest figuring what season you would like. Do you want a spring feel with fresh flowers? Summer? Or changing colors, cool breezes in fall? Keep in mind, your budget and what area you’re looking in may dictate what season you end up with as warm months are obviously in demand thus more money and perhaps out of budget!

For me, I knew I wanted winter so that left me with December, January, and February. We decided we didn’t want the weather to potentially be too dangerous for our family out of town to travel in since we live in Chicago aka Chiberia so that scratched out Jan and Feb (although I do love a hardcore winter lol). So that left December…. After consulting these bees we pushed our original date that was 2 days before Christmas and super inconvenient to 12/12/15 which is a date easy to remember and on a Saturday so everyone could come. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

OmbreBee:  Hey there! I’m from Hampton Roads area….such a pain to be planning from so far away!!! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

We originally wanted a spring wedding, but my sister (and mom) threw a fit because my sister was graduating high school that same spring (so of course an April wedding would “take away” from her time as a graduating high school senior at the end of that May/early June, ugh), so we chose January (the month we started dating) to have a winter wedding, and it would have been about an 8 month engagement at that time.  We had venue issues so we moved our wedding back a year to have a much larger/nicer wedding (venue issues again and just recently moved the location since they cancelled on us at only a few months out, another long story) but we kept our January date since it was our dating anniversary and a Saturday, and we didn’t want to move it back again.  

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