(Closed) Picking an officient.

posted 8 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Are you looking for someone to do more than the ceremony? Are you hoping for some pre-martial counseling as well?

You should look for someone whoa confident public speaker and that seems friendly. Other than that, I don’t think it’s all that important if you’re sticking to a pretty generic ceremony.

Post # 4
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We found our officiant because he was referred to us as someone who would do interfaith weddings in Massachusetts. (Because we are a same-sex couple, that was the only state in which we could get married at the time.) And we decided we liked him based on his YouTube video.  However, I suspect that’s not generally applicable advice.

More seriously, we looked for someone who was warm and friendly.  We talked with him about some ideas and issues relating to our wedding (e.g., the fact we might not have two unrelated Jewish males there to act as ketubah witnesses), and liked his responses.

We were not particularly interested in pre-marital counseling.  What we mostly involved him in before the wedding was looking over our ketubah, and our ceremony draft, to make sure we hadn’t totally screwed up the Hebrew.  We also asked him a few questions relating to the synagogue, since we weren’t able to see the synagogue before we arrived for the ceremony.

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