- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So, this is my first posting, as I am new to this whole engaged thing. (3 week anniversary of being engaged! Woohoo!) Being a super duper excited/obsessive planner, I’m already trying to think in detail about every aspect of the wedding, and the one that I’ve come across and got stuck on today is picking an officient (which I hope I’m spelling correctly).
I’m Jewish, though my fiance isn’t. He’s more or less neutral on the whole religion thing, and is supportive of the idea of a Jewish wedding, as it’s important to me. I know that many rabbis don’t marry interfaith couples, though a few months ago (I guess in my pre-planning stage) I emailed a request for a list of rabbis who will do interfaith weddings. I have to say one of the nice things about living in NYC is the high level of people who will conduct most any service you want. That being said, I received a list with at least 20 names and contact info. I glanced briefly a few months ago, though returned to it today and realized, wow I have no idea what I’m looking for.
So, maybe that’s the real question I’m putting out today…what does one look for in an officient? Someone we connect with as people, someone who will be an educator throughout the process, someone to check on us as we go along? And are there good ways to evaluate the success of someone besides gut feeings? And, on a slightly related/unlreatd note, how much should they request as their fee?
I’m sure this will be only my first of many posts as I wade through this whole wedding planning process. Thank you in advance to the community for sharing your wisdom! I’m sure I’ll be relying on it a whooooooooole bunch in the near future! 🙂