Post # 1
Did anyone have trouble picking their special ladies? It’s still too early for me to make a final decision but I have a handful of ladies in mind. The only person I am really 100% on is my Maid/Matron of Honor. I go back and forth with the others. They are all great but each have their own quirks. It probably isn’t helping that my fiance went from wanting 5 guys down to 3 (and he will probably change this number a few more times lol).
I thought I might have finally figured it out the other day but then I question myself. I just hope I can figure it out before I officially ask!! (Which won’t be for a little while). I have seen the drama that can occur after being in a few weddings myself and sometimes I think “Maybe no bridal party?” but I know deep down I don’t want that. Any one else have trouble choosing? Did who you end up picking backfire?
Post # 3
I agree that you should hold off on choosing your wedding party. If when the time comes you still really only want a Maid/Matron of Honor, then it’s completely and totally ok for your Fiance to have however many people he wants on his side. You don’t have to have even sides, and making them even for the sake of symmetry often ends up with inviting more drama into the situation.
Take your time, enjoy your engagement, and see who naturally becomes a closer and more supportive friend.
Post # 4
Think about who you want around you while you are getting ready. I ended up with a different number than my Fiance because thinking about my day wasn’t complete without 2 more of my friends.
Post # 5
This is exactly what I did. I’m only having 3 girls, my Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend of 15+ years, one Bridesmaid or Best Man is my FI’s sister, and the other is one of my best friends from college. There are 3 other college friends I went back and forth about, but what it came down to was, who is going to be the most fun to have around on the big day and not cause me any stress or annoyance? You have plenty of time, so I wouldn’t worry yourself about it too much. 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’m glad you plan to wait a while before making a final decision. You easily have another 6 months before you need to start making a decision. Think about the ladies you a) want around you on your wedding day as you get ready/go pee in your big ol dress (it can be an adventure)/etc., and b) want around you to hold you and your marriage up now and in the future. Your bridal party should be the people who will be there 20 years from now, still cheering on your victories and ready to give you a swift kick in the butt should you need it to get your act together and uphold your marriage vows.