(Closed) Picking only 1 MOH and no bridesmaids…and the drama begins

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012


HUstrawberry (message)    January 13, 2013   Stafford, VA

My boyfriend and I, who aren’t quite engaged yet (he’s saving up for the ring), are still moving forward with the wedding plans for Jan 2013.  We decided that we’re not having a big ceremony just us, our parents, our siblings, and 1 or 2 close friends.  That being said, we’ve decided to just have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 best man, with no bridesmaids and groomsmen.  I have chosen to make my bestfriend that Maid/Matron of Honor and not either of my 2 sisters.  They have a serious issue with that, but my rationale is that when I told them that we were discussing marriage, my best friend was the only person that offered to help me in any way with wedding/reception arrangements.  My sisters were too busy worried about their own jealousy and personal issues to even be happy for me, and I have a really good guy.  I just feel like they’re not supportive of me even being in a relationship because in the past they’ve been so used to having me at their disposal for whatever they need whenever.  The dynamic is different now and they’re still not used to having to share my energy, so they refuse to be happy for me (I’m assuming as a manipulation tactic).  I just don’t have time for the drama when this is supposed to be such a happy time for me/us

sounds like you have everything under control.  I’m guessing you don’t have a good relationship with your sisters so it wouldn’t make any sense to have them stand up for you anyway    

Post # 4
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@HUstrawberry:  Stick to your guns. Make up some excuse about “we only wanted one person each and I didn’t want to choose between you two” or something. Your sisters are showing you now their true colors and you are right to choose the person who has shown the most interest.

Even if they threaten not to come to the wedding stick to your guns. If they are that manipulative, they may try to pull that stunt. Also, talk to your parents now about what is going on.

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