Post # 1
Maybe I’m just really laid back, or really good at doing research online, but so far the first vendor we go see is the one we end up picking. I feel weird, like I’m not doing enough leg work when I’m ready to put down a deposit after seeing the first vendor. Is this normal? Should I be doing more comparisons, even if I am satisfied? So far it has happened with our reception venue, dress shop, photog and caterer. How many vendors did you see before making a choice?
Post # 3
If you are happy I dont think theres any reason to keep looking or feel weird. My brother was like you and had such an easy time with the planning process. In fact my SIL even bought the first dress she tried on because she saw it in a magazine. Their wedding was absolutely beautiful and you would have thought they put sooo much time into planning. Sometimes everything is just meant to be and comes easy. Enjoy it!
Post # 4
Oh to answer your question im picky we saw several vendors before picking. Except we loved the first officiant we met. I dont think its the same for everyone though.
Post # 5
I dunno. I think that if you’ve found the vendor that meets your needs and that you’re comfortable with, why not? Plus, just because they’re the first one you’ve met with doesn’t mean they’re not the one for you. Our photographer turned out to be the 2nd person we talked to, but our venue (also the caterer, baker, and florist) was the first. We just knew it was a good fit!
Post # 6
I haven’t started booking vendors, but I pretty much have a list of the photog, make-up artist, florist, dj that I want for my wedding – now I just have to contact them I hope they are available on my date (once I have that finalized!).
Though I’ve looked at and emailed many vendors for the sake of comparing, I still come back to the same first vendors because they can create the look I want for my wedding.
I just think that we know exactly what we’re looking for and were lucky enough to find the vendors early in the planning process.
Post # 7
JoJo! You sound so much like me.
FI and I fell in love with the first reception venue we saw, but I, being me, INSISTED that we couldn’t just book the first one we saw.
Well, four months and about 12 more venue appointments later, we just booked our favorite, the first.
So….go with your gut! If something feels right to you, it probably is. 🙂
Post # 8
Oh, and I also did a lot of research online first, which I guess made it slightly less my *first* viewing of a place. I had weeded some of the non-options out online already!
Post # 9
I did a lot of research online and some phone calls, which minimized the need for in person meetings. I found some vendors we loved right away, but we still comparison shopped. I think it’s so helpful to do this no matter how much you like the first guy.
Why? Say you like a photographer. You want a photojournalistic style and an affordable 6 hour package. This photographer offers all this plus has a great personality and treats you well. And you LOVE her photos. It’s all you ever thought you wanted in a vendor.
But then you talk to another one, and ask her what she can offer. She tells you about things you haven’t even thought of: how much she edits each photo before sending it to you, a quicker turnaround time, the fact that she brings a second photographer with her for the same price, and the 4 cameras she carries, each for a different type of shot.
So now, even if you stick with your original choice, you are more informed – you’ll ask him about his equipment, his editing, the possibility of a second photographer – all things you didn’t know about before.
This just happened to me recently (I chose the second photographer, by the way). And it’s happened in every vendor seleciton – talking to professionals teaches me the questions I need to ask and the criteria to judge my vendors on and the clauses to include in my contracts. Every single conversation has taught me something I had no idea about.
So that was kind of long, but in short, yes, it’s so worth it to talk to at least three different vendors of each type!
Post # 10
To clarify, I am doing alot of research before booking appointments. I read all the reviews I can find (I am a Google ninja), email or call them a few times, get a quote, even asking girlfriends of mine who have gotten married recently what they thought of the vendors they interviewed. Also, I talk to the vendors to ask who they’ve worked with to see who they recommend. I guess I just do the majority of my narrowing down before the physical meeting? Kind of like I’ve already decided?
Post # 11
I booked all the first vendors I saw except my photographer. I think as long as you do research online and you are satisfied, I don’t see any problem with it!
Post # 12
JoJo, don’t worry. I’m totally the same way, and so far everything has worked out great. I do tons of research beforehand, and narrow things down to 1 vendor who seems like the best fit. Lo and behold… when I meet people in person, I always end up choosing the one who I had in my mind as the first choice. We met with 1 photographer and booked her. We saw 3 venues and booked the 1st one in the end. I bought a dress from my 1st day of dress shopping. We booked the first band we talked to. …and all of them are GREAT. No regrets here.
Post # 13
I did all my research online and while I did look at one or two before making a final decision (a small budget does help eliminate choices), I usually knew when I found a vendor the moment I met him or her.
Post # 14
I did the same as Miss Yap. I did loads of online research and then FH and I would narrow our choices down to 2 or 3 and pick between them. Our reception venue was the 1st one we saw (although we did see one later that day). My dress was the first one I tried on (out of 2).
Post # 15
We were planning long-distance, so in many instances we had no meetings at all. We managed to meet with one photographer (he happened to be on a sightseeing trip to our area), and booked him during that meeting. The officiant, venues, florist, and hair/make-up person were all booked with no prior meetings at all.
Even for the reception back home, we typically booked the first vendor we talked to. The venue was a club of which the club owner was a friend. The musician was someone we had long known, and knew we liked her music. The dance instructor was a friend of a friend. The food person was recommended by the club owner. We had a trial with the hair/make-up person, and knew she was probably the only one we could afford in our area, so we booked her.
I also tried on only one wedding dress. I loved it, and didn’t look at any others.
I think a lot of it is a question of personality. Some people will second guess their choices later if they haven’t talked to several potential vendors. Others know what they like immediately, and don’t want to bother interviewing a bunch of people. You just need to think back on whether you have generally decided on things quickly, and if so, whether you have had second thoughts later. If you’re the kind who makes quick decisions and doesn’t regret them, consider yourself lucky and take advantage of it.