Mr TTR and I dated for about 6 Years, and had talked Marriage before (just in passing)… We had both been married before, and had gone thru horrible divorces, so to say we had “trust issues” was an understatement
It took me a long long time to ever think that Marriage was a possibility… but at 6 years I felt I was ready, so just before our Dating Anniversary in 2011, I told him I was ready and shared the current view of My LIFE PLAN (I wanted to be married before the end of 2012)
He was on board, but still teased me and said, he’d lol… “take it under consideration”
Meaning, “like a guy” he wanted to develop his own plan for the Proposal. No problemo, he knew my LIFE PLAN and wishes. I trusted him, so I never doubted it would happen, but I have to admit he threw me off a few times as a Waiting Bee, and did end up surprising me (all good)
He proposed while we were on vacation at Easter, without a ring.
As we’d both been married before, and I didn’t want ANYTHING that would remotely of my first ERing / Engagement, we agreed to shop together. And so it went.
I couldn’t be happier with the process or the outcome.
We found a ring we BOTH Love soooo much that we often refer to it as OUR ERing.
PHOTO – ERing taken day we picked it up
I highly recommend making ring shopping a together thing if at all possible. In the very least I truly believe a gal should have some input into the process. So DEFINITELY go out and try on rings… cause that is the best way to find out what you like. What you see in a pic and on your hand can be a very different experience. Just like not every piece of clothing suits every “body”… so it is true that not every ring suits every finger / hand. What you think you like before you go shopping and after can be very different (hence the reason you see posts on WBee from women who find out they don’t love the ring once they have it in hand… and the downside is ERings cost a lot of money, and in some scenarios are not returnable / exchangeable.. and like a car, they drop substantially in value as a second hand item the second you take them off the lot)
Do your homework, reading & research… including trying on rings.
Hope this helps,