Post # 1
I bought my dress before we had anything decided about the logistics of our wedding. I knew (and still know) that we will be having a vintage map/antique lace theme with lots of cremes and golds (with burgundy and slate blue accents), but we still have no location, budget, etc etc.
We are most recently considering having a casual, outdoor, picnic wedding… and I mean picnic – no caterer but trays of sandwiches (and possibly chick-fil-a nuggets!), lemonade, etc. It would be in a park (or possibly my parent’s backyard), and we would even consider using picnic tables already in the park. I would still tie in the vintage theme as much as possible, but I am worried that my dress is way too fancy for such an event.
I love love love my dress… could I pull it off?
Post # 3
Your dress is gorgeous, but yes, it is very formal. I can’t tell if the lace is also beaded- is it, or is it just plain? That definitely changes how fancy the dress feels. Ultimately, I think it’s up to you. You are the bride and should wear something that you feel gorgeous in. If you want to wear the dress for your picnic wedding (which, by the way, sounds so fabulous!), do it, and wear it with confidence and a huge smile on your face! If you think you’d be more comfortable in something less formal, I wonder if the dress could be altered? Could the bow be removed, or the layers somehow removed so there’s just one tier in the skirt? I think "simple", rather than "less formal" may be the real issue if the rest of the wedding is understated. Also, I think the way you accessorize definitely changes the feel of a dress- You probably wouldn’t wear that fancy necklae, and you could pick a less formal hair style.
Post # 4
You’re the bride, I say just go with it. Who CARES if you’re SUPER DUPER dressed up?! THat dress is gorgeous and you don’t want to waste it after you bought it, right? You could downplay the hair and jewelry and let your dress be the star on you.
It’s fancy but at the same time it isn’t covered in crystals. It’s tulle and lace, very elegant. I think if you want to wear it, you totally should. You should get to be all gussied up anyways, no matter where you’re having it. You don’t want to look back and say, "aw man i look like a guest in white, i should have worn X dress"
Post # 5
omg, i LOVE Chick-fil-A!! Wear your dress, it will be whimsical being so dressed up at a picnic 🙂
Post # 6
Your dress is BEAUTIFUL!!!!! I say wear it; just like Janna19 said-you’re the bride, it’s your wedding, wear it!!
Post # 7
Thanks guys! You’ve certainly given me more confidence. The ability to do the picnic style would make it much easier to start making more actual plans and get this thing started. 🙂
I do think I wouldf feel a bit strange, though, because I wouldn’t expect the guests to dress up nearly as much as this… but, I think as long as I decorate and theme everything approproately it will be fine, yes?
@ BA: There is no beading. In fact, there is a crystal brooch on the bow which I’m removing (even before taking a more casual route, it seemed too blingy and didn’t fit the feel of the dress) and putting a tulle rosette in its place. It’s a good idea to alter/shorten it, but I’m not sure I could bring myself to do that.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
I think your dress will go perfectly with your vintage theme.
Post # 9
I think that dress is beautiful, but perhaps a little bit too formal. What kind of ceremony are you having? I think formality could depend on that as well, and I agree with the OP that maybe shortening it or removing a layer could help. Good choice though!
Post # 10
That’s a good call on replacing the blingy broach with a tulle rosette, and it will look lovely with the rest of the dress. I totally hear you on not having the heart to alter that dress – it’s so beautiful as is! Like the others said, I think if you "make it your own," then you won’t feel overdressed. I hope you post more details about your picnic wedding, because it really does sound absolutely fantastic!
Post # 11
If you had a sunset reception (with some sort of fire/torch/candle element), you could pull off a really lovely, more formal feeling reception and still have outdoor BBQ element food. That would be a lovely setting for the dress (which, btw I love). Do you have pics of yourself in it? I have been wanting to see that Maggie in person.
Post # 12
My gut instinct is if its a mid-afternoon picnic type wedding it will be too fancy. That being said it is more appropraite for a candlight reception and ceremony outside or something similar.
In the end though you are the one that has to be ok sporting the dress and if it makes you feel amazing then it shouldn’t matter what setting you are wearing it in 🙂
Post # 13
What a beautiful dress! Yes it is formal, but if you research enough to pull of the vintage theme throughout your wedding, it will be fine. I’ve seen many do it yourself weddings in magazines and brides on a budget that turned out very chic. It’s the details, the favors, the decorations, the lighting, (candlelight) that make the mood. Just changing the time of the affair to a evening affair would make all the difference, and not cost you a cent more!
Post # 14
Honestly, yes I think it’s much too formal for such a casual picnic. Now, if you made the picnic a bit "fancier" I think it could work. Either way, if it’s your dream dress, rock it.
Post # 15
@ heather25: Here are some pictures of me wearing the sample in the store. It’s a size 8 and has been majorly stretched out from other girls trying it on – hence the wrinkles in the front. I blurred my face so nobody accidentally sees this. 🙂
Post # 16
Ok. Today during lunch at work I watched Sandra Lee (the semi homemade queen) and she threw a "romantic picnic".
If you could google her show and find some info on that episode and the food, it would be PERFECT with your idea..adding a touch of elegance to a fun picnc theme.
Oh and she hung a chandelier down from a tree for a bit of "oomph" too!
Geez LOVE HER..I have two of her cookbooks (for desserts) and she rocks!