Our wedding is in three weeks and we still haven't decided whether to see each other or not before the ceremony. I was always against this, but am now thinking otherwise. I guess I was caught up in the romantisism of my groom seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle, but my groom thinks it will be just as, or more, special to have a private meeting (with photographer present) beforehand so that we can take our pictures with each other and our wedding party before the ceremony. Reason this is important? We are having a destination wedding mostly for the beautiful scenery in that location for pictures. Groom wants to make the most of it and not be rushed while our guests are at the cocktail hour to get the pics we want. We also want to get pictures as a big group of our families and our officiant after the ceremony and he's worried we'll get caught there and not have enought time. Anyway, I'd love to hear from those who have advice and if you are already married, what you did and if you recommend that or not. Thanks everyone!
We are definately doing pics before hand. I want to make the most of our time with our guests and with our photographer. Plus we're having a night time wedding and wouldn't be able to get pics outside at our fairytale castle venue if we didn't do them before hand. Another good point is that by seeing each other before hand with your photographer means that you'll have caught those first looks for eternity. Those photos from the private sessions always give me the "awe so romantic" feeling. Oh, and I'm going to be so nervous... I want to get a big hug in from my hunny before I've got to stand up in front of all those eyes!
A few bees have blogged about this dilemma, and there's been lots of discussion on the boards, so you're not alone! We took pictures beforehand- didn't want to be rushed, and didn't want to miss out on time with our guests. Besides the fact that it was going to be 105deg that day, so pictures early (before sweatiness!) was definitely good. That 'first look' wasn't really a factor for us because M came with me dress shopping anyway.
I agree with the others. We are definitely doing pictures ahead of time. Plus, when I'm feeling nervous or anxious or overwhelmed or happy or sad or anything, he's the one I want to be with -- so I think I'll need him before the ceremony on our wedding day! :) I think the aisle walk can still be very romantic, even if you've seen each other ahead of time.
I will be seeing my groom before hand because we have to sign a document HOWEVER if this was your childhood wish I would really fight hard to make it come true--it your guests wait--they wait. Not like I havent waited at 99% of all weddings. Consider having your new husband thank everyone for their patience and for allowing him to grant you this long held wish. Now you've made it special instead of empty time. We have to let go of so many things we hoped for--this really can be managed and you deserve it!
I am all for the "first sight" of each other photos. It will be a nice comforting moment between the bride and groom. And not to sound vain, but your make-up will be the "freshest" too.
I agree! We are seeing eachother before the ceremony. His Aunt is totally against it. But hey! it's what Fi and I want to do. We don't want to rush and we want to be able to mingle with our guest during cocktail hours before the music gets loud and non of us can't hear eachother talk. LOL I totally agree with the third line saramari said.
Our wedding is in three weeks and we still haven't decided whether to see each other or not before the ceremony. I was always against this, but am now thinking otherwise. I guess I was caught up in the romantisism of my groom seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle, but my groom thinks it will be just as, or more, special to have a private meeting (with photographer present) beforehand so that we can take our pictures with each other and our wedding party before the ceremony. Reason this is important? We are having a destination wedding mostly for the beautiful scenery in that location for pictures. Groom wants to make the most of it and not be rushed while our guests are at the cocktail hour to get the pics we want. We also want to get pictures as a big group of our families and our officiant after the ceremony and he's worried we'll get caught there and not have enought time. Anyway, I'd love to hear from those who have advice and if you are already married, what you did and if you recommend that or not. Thanks everyone!
posted by missopie 27 posts 3 months agoWe are definately doing pics before hand. I want to make the most of our time with our guests and with our photographer. Plus we're having a night time wedding and wouldn't be able to get pics outside at our fairytale castle venue if we didn't do them before hand. Another good point is that by seeing each other before hand with your photographer means that you'll have caught those first looks for eternity. Those photos from the private sessions always give me the "awe so romantic" feeling. Oh, and I'm going to be so nervous... I want to get a big hug in from my hunny before I've got to stand up in front of all those eyes!
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A few bees have blogged about this dilemma, and there's been lots of discussion on the boards, so you're not alone! We took pictures beforehand- didn't want to be rushed, and didn't want to miss out on time with our guests. Besides the fact that it was going to be 105deg that day, so pictures early (before sweatiness!) was definitely good. That 'first look' wasn't really a factor for us because M came with me dress shopping anyway.
posted by peihan17 222 posts 3 months agoI agree with the others. We are definitely doing pictures ahead of time. Plus, when I'm feeling nervous or anxious or overwhelmed or happy or sad or anything, he's the one I want to be with -- so I think I'll need him before the ceremony on our wedding day! :) I think the aisle walk can still be very romantic, even if you've seen each other ahead of time.
All the best!
posted by saramari 10 posts 3 months agoI will be seeing my groom before hand because we have to sign a document HOWEVER if this was your childhood wish I would really fight hard to make it come true--it your guests wait--they wait. Not like I havent waited at 99% of all weddings. Consider having your new husband thank everyone for their patience and for allowing him to grant you this long held wish. Now you've made it special instead of empty time. We have to let go of so many things we hoped for--this really can be managed and you deserve it!
posted by ju1244 254 posts 3 months agoI am all for the "first sight" of each other photos. It will be a nice comforting moment between the bride and groom. And not to sound vain, but your make-up will be the "freshest" too.
posted by nejireta 88 posts 3 months agoI agree! We are seeing eachother before the ceremony. His Aunt is totally against it. But hey! it's what Fi and I want to do. We don't want to rush and we want to be able to mingle with our guest during cocktail hours before the music gets loud and non of us can't hear eachother talk. LOL I totally agree with the third line saramari said.
posted by NorCalBride 307 posts 3 months ago