Post # 1
I am VERY curious how this plays out, I am really curious how many people would circumcise a boy, and not pierce a girls ears, vs, how many people would do both, do neither, or do the opposite …
Both ear piercing female infants, and male circumcision are cultural phenomenons, so everybody should please me respectful, and not refer to either as barbaric, disgusting, or mean.
For the record, I am fairly undecided on both, but would lean towards not curcumcising a boy, and culturally, piercing infant girls ears is really promoted.
Post # 3
Tough one!! I will most probably pierce girl’s ears, but I really really don’t know about circumcision…
I mean, I’d have to look into the medical pros and cons and do what’s best for the little boy…
Post # 4
Circumcision would be the SO’s choice, as he’ll have a more informed opinion than I ever will. As for pierced ears, I really don’t like them on children. They can deal with that when they’re old enough and responsible enough to take care of them on their own.
Post # 5
I circumcised my son, and if I ever have a girl, I will probably pierce her ears. Circumcision was a definite for me, no question about it, piercing ears is just something I want to do!
Post # 6
They are not the same thing in my book. Not even comparable. We will get our sons circumcized. DH feels very strongly about this, however medically irrelevant, we’re having it done. His winky will look as good as a winky can get. As far as earrings, I have absolutely zero opinion on them.
The debate on circumcism got heated, also: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/if-youre-having-a-boy-will-you-get-him-circumsized
Post # 7
My FI and I both agree that if we have a boy, he will be circumcised. If we have a little girl, she will not have her ears pierced. For us, really both decisions would be considered “cultural.”
Post # 8
If we have a son, my husband wants to have him circumsised. I’m actually more in the “I’d rather not” camp, but I respect his choice and ultimately I’m okay with it. I’d rather wait to have my daughter’s ears pierced until she’s nine (this is just my family age to do it!).
Post # 9
I am Jewish, so circumcision is a cultural norm. BF was born in the Philippines and circumcision isn’t a norm there. I’ll probably leave the decision up to BF since I don’t have a preference.
I won’t pierce my daughter’s (or son’s) ears until they are old enough to say they want it done.
Even so, I think they can’t really be compared. Yes, both are changing the body in some way. However, piercings can be taken out if done early and the pain is tolerable even as an adult if you decide to wait. Circumcision is a permanent body modification and (I hear) extremely painful if left to be done at an older age.
Post # 10
I don’t believe in circumcision (unless it is for religious purposes- as far as I am concerned, why would you want to cut a part of someone’s penis? Just my opinion) and it seems cruel to me to pierce a baby’s ear. Let them decide for themselves.
Post # 11
I’ll do neither. The only physical alteration of my child that I would choose before they could give consent would be medically necessary. May be my child, but it isn’t my body.
Post # 12
I think the circumcision decision is more the father’s choice, because I don’t know much about dealing with ding dongs. I mean scientifically I know but that’s a bit different than IRL.
Luckily my hub and I are on the same page and will not be circumcizing a son, if we have one. I’ve never thought either one is better aesthetically and he’s european and apparently that’s not how it goes on down there over there.
Earrings have always made my ears red and bothered no matter what I’ve tried so we won’t be doing any piercing until asked for.
Post # 13
I’m Jewish, so circumsision is happening if we have a boy, but I won’t pierce my baby’s ears if we have a girl. To me (and just to me, I get it) circumsision is a religious ritual that is REQUIRED in our faith but piercing a girl’s ears it total vanity and not necessary so I will let my daughters make that choice for their appearance when they are old enough to care for their ears (with supervision) themselves.
Post # 14
If we have a boy, my FI wants to have him circumsized, and I’m definitely in the camp of no, so that will be a tough decision when we have a boy. I’m indifferent currently with having a girl’s ears pierced.
Post # 15
I won’t pierce a girl’s ears. It was a nice memory for me when I was finally old enough to get it done, and it was a good way to teach me responsibility. So yeah, I will wait until the girl is old enough to ask for it and old enough to take care of the piercings herself.
For a boy, I’ll leave it up to FI, since he knows more on the subject that I do. As far as I know he wants it done. But I will insist that it is done with some sort of local numbing- I’ve heard that some hospitals used to do it without this, though I’m not sure if that is still the case.
Post # 16
@greenleafmountain: My son was circumcised, with no numbing and he didn’t even cry! That made me feel better 🙂