Lol, another bit of a Bridal History Lesson (modern age) and my own story too boot…
I am an Encore Bride, and I am over 50. Traditionally women my age when they remarry have been limited to (Etiquette wise) choosing a Wedding Suit or something quite conservative in the way of a Dress / Gown for their Big Day (the idea being that anything too showy for the second time around, was too vulgar, and not appropriate to reflect the age and maturity of the Bride)
And so it was when I began this Bridal Journey. I was looking for a nice dress or gown that would be most fitting of a Bride “of a certain age”
My initial thoughts were… a Cream Wedding Suit (if it is good enough for Royalty, then it certainly would meet my needs)
OR a long gown very Mother-of-the Bride like in perhaps a nice sandy colour (PHOTO – J Kara Gown – Nordstrom)
In my search for the perfect outfit, I was using GOOGLE to find some ideas for a “Mature Bride” and as fate would have it I ended up here on WBee.
And since arriving I’ve discovered that a lot of the OLD Wedding Rules for second time Brides have gone out the window. It is now ok for a Mature Bride to choose more traditional Wedding Dress… although at my age, I have to say, that I won’t be doing the BIG White Pouffy Wedding, because I’ve already had that, and because it doesn’t fit my vision for the Wedding Mr TTR and I have planned.
We are Eloping to a Destination Wedding inMyrtle Beach, where just the two of us will hold hands and gaze into each other’s eyes as we take our vows overlooking the Beach and theAtlantic Ocean.
He will be wearing Dockers, a Hawaiian like Shirt, and Flip Flops (he is happy that this Wedding will be so casual). I on the otherhand still haven’t bought a dress… and am thrilled that there are so many more possibilities now that COLOUR has entered the mix for Wedding Dresses.
As I said, I could never see myself in true White again, but now there are wonderful shades like Ivory, Candlelight, Champagne and Gold to choose from… one of the first ones I found on-line that I fell in love with was this Gold version (sorry source unknown)
Since then, I’ve also fallen head over heals with a Designer Dress I’ve found on-line (I am yet to actually go out and try on Wedding Dresses)… it is Rivini’s *Lisette*… and features a White Lace overlay over a Champagne Coloured Sheath Dress. The dress is most certainly a Wedding Gown, but it is the colour aspect that makes it attractive for someone my age.
Now mind you, I don’t have the budget to accommodate such a purchase… so here again Wedding Bee has been AMAZING. Thru being here on The Hive, I’ve discovered that one can get a replica (or custom) Wedding Dress made off-shore by a Dressmaker in China for a mere fraction of the price that the dress would sell for here by North American Retailers…
This is exciting news for me… as someone who is looking for a dress that goes beyond just being WHITE. Because not only will the gown be custom fit, it can also be made to order. So now ANY Wedding Gown that I find on-line, that has a lace component to it, can be made so that the underlying satin sheath is in a darker shade.
This is literally like designing one’s own Wedding Gown !!
So ya I think the colour trend is here to stay. It started out earlier this century when Brides fell in love with coloured sashes to compliment their Wedding Parties, and has progressed onto coloured embroidery, coloured sheaths, and full-on coloured gowns. Even for the most traditional WHITE Dressed Brides it has playfully appeared as coloured crinolines or dramatic shoes.
All I know, that as a Mature Bride, there could not be a better time to have this happen for me… I sooo LOVE that there is now choice… and choice that is understated enough to standup to the harshish of criticism from the Etiquette Snobs (lol, of which I am one), but still give me the ability to feel like a Gorgeous Bride on my big day.
As someone who has been married previously, I so distinctly remember how much THE DRESS is a part of that… how amazing one can feel in such an incredible gown. I am happy that I get to do that part again… to feel sooo special on my Wedding Day vs wearing a suit or a long gown, that doesn’t have that same regal feel.
AMEN to change !!