- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
First off, I’d just like to say that I usually get on really well with Mr CL’s mum and never usually have a problem with her, but over the past couple of days she’s really been winding me up! Sorry about the long post.
Mr CL and I are fully funding our own wedding. We’re quite happy to do this and are saving hard so that we don’t have to put ourselves in debt to do it. We just sent a deposit to our venue for the guests’ rooms and have been trying to organise who’s going to be staying where.
Our venue is only about 10 miles from the main town where most of our family members live (or they live within about 5 miles of there) so we aren’t expecting many of our local family (beyond parents and brothers) to stay overnight. A few of my family members are having to travel for several hours to get to the venue, so naturally we spoke to them first to see if they’d like the rooms and all of the single rooms got booked up pretty quickly. My FMIL got a bit funny about this saying who’s his brother (age 19) going to stay with? I just pointed out we’d have to put him in a twin room and see who else needed a place to stay. Let’s face it, it’s one night and if his normal form is anything to go by, he’ll be really drunk so won’t care who else is in the room.
She also got funny about the cost of the rooms. We’ve already negotiated with the venue and have knocked off at least a third. She knows someone who stayed there a couple of weeks ago and apparently got their room much cheaper. She doesn’t seem to get the fact that that was a last minute deal in March, rather than a pre-booking over a year in advance in high season!
Finally, she has been dropping hints about someone she knows who was invited to a wedding without a +1 and how unfair it was because they ended up not going. This wasn’t a known partner, bt just some random person so they’d have company on the way there (it was a family member – she knew plenty of the other guests). Then she started hinting that we should at least allow Mr CL’s brother a +1. She knows there’s hardly enough venue space for the people we know and want to invite, and we can’t afford to invite people we don’t know. My brothers aren’t getting +1s, so I don’t see why my FBIL should get special treatment. Luckily my FI is totally with me on this one and told his mum that we’re not under any circumstances doing +1s. Then, she keeps assuming various people are invited who there’s no way we’d want there over other people who would then be pushed out.
I’m worried that, as there’s still 15 months to the wedding things might start getting more and more tense as it gets closer. I want her input, but I don’t like how disapproving she’s being of some of our decisions! Am I being unfair?