(Closed) Pissed!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.

I completely understand. My brother is kind of “that guy” with his drinking habits and what not. He has been kind enough to offer his dj services for free though so I can’t complain that much. He asked to bring a few friends and I agreed because most of them are ok and he is doing us a favour.

I think if you don’t feel comfortable let it be known. You don’t have to invite someone you don’t want to.

Post # 4
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I understand how you feel considering how she behaves normally. I know she is your sister and she will know many people there, but are you giving her a guest?

Post # 5
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Good for you for standing your ground! Not a fun situation to be in, but its your day and the last thing you should have to worry about are her antics. 

Post # 6
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2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Just know that she will get ‘better’ one day. Just continue to be civil with her. You don’t have to invite her friends at all. And you rather not. You don’t know if or what drama they will cause.

It hurts to have a sister who is like this. Especially an older one, because technically they are supposed to be your role-models. And for you even more so because she was 10 years elder to you so by the time you were 5 and starting picking up on roles, she was 15 and should have been there to guide you and support you emotionally. I am sorry that this hasn’t exactly happened. But she will one day regret her actions towards you.

Post # 7
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That sucks.  It’s too bad her issues have affected your relationship so negatively.  A sister should be a big part of your day, making sure you are having a great wedding day, helping you prepare, being MOH.  It’s sad to think that all she is doing for you is contributing to your STRESS.  I would tell her you feel this way.  That you expect more from her as your BIG sister.  That this day is very important to you, etc.

Post # 8
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I would be very upset, too. I would also say hell to the NO she can’t bring friends. She’ll know half the people there, for crying out loud.

Post # 8
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3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I would be very upset, too. I would also say hell to the NO she can’t bring friends. She’ll know half the people there, for crying out loud.

Post # 9
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1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

ah! a good rant is def necessary once in a while.  good luck, and maybe it’s best if she does go to the bar after awhile. 

Post # 11
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@ChantelleyLace: My advice is to separate yourself from her.  IT shouldnt embarass you because she is making her own decisions and it does not reflect on you.  My brother has similar issues.  I get pissed sometimes too because of what he puts my Mom through but I realize I need to step back and see him for him.  Know that you are you and she is someone else.  You cant control it so let it go!

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